Your Access to Fulfillment and Abundance   For Everything in Life An Anthology Dr. John Spencer Ellis and the entire collaborative team of The Code congratulate you for taking control of your life and seeking knowledge to live each day to the fullest!   All Rights Reserved 2009  John Spencer Ellis Enterprises, Inc. This book is dedicated to all “ of my teachers who gave me the wisdom to make a difference in people’s lives.”   Dr. John Spencer Ellis   2 Table of Contents  Introduction by Dr. John Spencer Ellis  5  Health and Nutrition  7  Relax Your Stress by Cheryl Y. Price, Ph.D.  8  Aging Backwards by Jackie Silver  19  “Mind” Your Wellness by Selwa B. Hamati  27  The True Cost of Weight Loss by Dan Agresti  38  Lose It for Real by Natasha Linton  44  Healthy Approach to Weight Loss through Sensible Eating by Chef Marie-Annick Courtier  54  Total Life Vitality in a Lean Body by Kelli Calabrese, M.S.  59  Aging Well with Exercise by Norma Shechtman, M.ED, M.A.  71  Business and Wealth  74  Conquering the Invisible Enemy… Your Mind! by Tim Taylor  75  Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth by T. Harv Eker  82  Enjoying Enlightened Entrepreneurship: A New Business Paradigm by Mitchell Jay Rabin  93  How to Build Wealth with Risk Taking by Debbie Allen  105  Home, Community, and Relationships  112  Design Psychology by Kelli Ellis  113  Communication by Jim Sayih  118  Unrealistic and Unspoken Expectations Harm Relationships by Jacklyn Marcus, Ph.D.  130  How to Really Help a Teenager by Tami Walsh, M.A.  142  Equipping Teens to Succeed by Jeanelle Lanham  146  The Four Most Dangerous Assumptions You Can Make for Your Child’s Education by Larry Hochman  152  Thinking about Medicating your Child? by Mickey Caputo  163  The Kids of the New Millennium by Teo Alfero  175  Spirituality and Living Your Dreams  188  Visualization is the Key to Unlocking the Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Tim Ralston  189  Life Purpose by José Ferreira Jorge  204  Project X by Dawn Franklin  213  Your Inner Guidance Knows by Jeanna Gabellini  220  The 9 Essential Principles for Living Your Life in Balance by Michelle Van Otten  229  Living in a Human Suit™ by Scott Brandon Hoffman  241    3 The One Game You Can Never Win by Dean Delker  254  Are You Ready for the Next Level? by Jonathan Conneely  263  Confidence, Fortitude, and Success  273  The Massive Success Formula by Anton Pearce  274  The Three Percenters by Chalene Johnson  281  So Many Choices, So Little Time by Todd Newton  296  How Do People Get Stuck and Unstuck? by Marie Ginga  304  Changing the Direction of Your Life at Any Moment by Cassie Parks  315  FEVER by Perk  325  Enhancing Motivation to Create Lasting Change by Nancy DiCioccio, M.P.H.  334  From Fear to Fearless by David Di Francesco  345  Your Time to Succeed by Russell A. Yermal  353  Persistence and the Art of Winning by Eric Durak, M.Sc.  364  The Attitude of Success by Tom Terwilliger  371  Planning Your Success: Identifying, Prioritizing and Achieving Your Goals by John Charles Robinson  380  About the Authors  391    4 Introduction  by Dr. John Spencer Ellis   www.JohnSpencerEllis.com A special message from the creator of The Code: First, I want to thank you for taking charge of your life. We all have the resources and ability to design our lives any way we choose. It has always been this way. Those who understand this, and take action, will achieve greatness. Those who think they have been dealt a losing hand, are disadvantaged, or somehow think having more will take resources for others, are simply wrong. The truth is that genetics give you a baseline for who you are at birth. However, your thoughts, environment, beliefs, values and your interpretation of environmental stimulus greatly affect the expression of your DNA. In return, your life is ultimately created by the expression of your genes. Proper expression of your genes allows you to feel better, become more of a person, and live your life to the fullest. What is even more important is what you do for future generations. It’s all about “intergenerational transmission of consciousness.” What does this mean? It’s simple. You don’t just pass along eye color and hair color to your offspring. It’s also more than a transcendence of an art or vocal skill. You actually transmit your consciousness to your children. As DNA is “conditioned” and “expressed” over time, it ultimately changes who you become. When you produce an offspring, your DNA and way of perceiving the world is transmitted to your children. Eating right, managing stress, and sleeping well are important to the health and well-being of your baby. However, perhaps they are not any more important than how you interpret the world each day. So, what is your responsibility? Your duty as a human is to have as many good and beneficial experiences as possible. You must surround yourself with people who ask more, demand more and live more fulfilled lives. Why is this important? Because over time, people tend to take on the values and behaviors of those they encounter on a daily basis. You have the responsibility to continually educate yourself, respect your body, have strong family bonds, make a   5 difference in the world, and experience gratitude for everything you have and want to have. As you enhance your life and grow as a person, do it from the perspective of “success intelligence.” This is a phrase coined by Dr. Robert Holden. True success only comes from having clear intentions on your path to success. It’s about being true to yourself, and not getting caught up in the manic society that exists all around us. Understand what success means to you and not the Jones family down the street. If you are so busy keeping up with the Jones’ (fill in the blank), you won’t have any time to enjoy their company. Being wise on your path to unlimited success is a responsibility you carry for yourself and future generations. Use the knowledge from The Code as a resource guide to live your life at the highest level. Your children will thank you! - Dr. John Spencer Ellis   6 Health and Nutrition    7 Relax Your Stress  by Cheryl Y. Price, Ph.D.   www.anewwaytoheal.com I’M STRESSED OUT!  Day after day, we hear these words: on our jobs, at school, and at home. But what does it mean to be stressed out exactly? Are you: • Overwhelmed at work? • Can’t make ends meet? • Trying to balance home and work? • Just can’t relax? • Facing a layoff? Webster defines stress is a “physical, chemical or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension and may be a factor in disease causation.” The more we stress, the more we release stress hormones that damage our bodies. According to the American Institute of Stress, up to 90% of all doctor’s visits are stress- related. If you’ve seen a doctor recently, there is a 90% chance that your illness was caused by stress disorders. Given that, when we reduce our stress levels we can in turn reduce, and possibly eliminate, the majority of our sicknesses and diseases. Wouldn’t that be great? But first, we have to understand how stress causes the majority of our ills. And how we can prevent it? Deb Shapiro, author of Your Body Speaks Your Mind, talks about our immune system and stress: “When the stress response continues over a period of time— with a regular release of adrenaline and cortisol, and the resulting psychological and emotional changes—you may begin to experience more serious problems.” As a result of feelings of stress, Americans consume five billion tranquilizers, five billion barbiturates, three billion amphetamines, and 16 tons of aspirin every year. We are a drug-dependent nation. And drugs cause to our bodies to break down as well. We must wean ourselves from drug-dependence and choose other means that promote wholeness of our physical body, our emotional body, our spiritual body and our mental body.   8 Despite the fact that it is impossible to totally eliminate stress from our lives, we can minimize it so its effects are negligible. In doing so, we can live free of pain, sickness and anxiety. But first, we must know what stress is, what causes it, and ways to minimize it. Defining Stress  Experts have defined stress in many ways, but there is no agreement as to what stress really is. This was shown to me by the answers to the question I posed to my audience at one of my stress relief seminars—what does stress mean to you? I got a different answer from each person because just like our fingerprints are unique to us, so is our meaning of stress. Hans Selye, author of The Stress of Life, defined stress as “the nonspecific response of the body to any demand made upon it.” He noted that when good things (the birth of a child) and bad things, (a death of a loved one) happen to us, our bodies react physiologically in the same manner. Walter Canon, a noted psychologist employed at the Harvard Medical School, first identified the stress reaction as the fight or flight response. (After Hurricane Katrina, psychologists changed the stress response to fight, flight or fright). Canon says that your body prepares itself, when confronted by a threat, to either stand your ground or run away. The fight or flight response is a throw back from our ancestors who needed to be able to respond to physical threats in their environment. I’d like to pause here and tell you a story about one of our ancestors who lived about 2 million years ago. We’ll call him Fred. One sunny day, on the way home the rock quarry, he stopped to hunt for his dinner. While lurking about, he happened upon a saber-toothed tiger crouched, in striking position on a rock a few feet ahead of him. The fierce growl of the tiger stopped Fred mid-step. Hearing the tiger’s growl, his heart started pounding in his chest, his breathing accelerated, his stomach start hurting, and he started sweating. Facing the tiger, he had to make a decision—do I run or do I fight? Fred decided to stand his ground and fight, and his body prepared him to physically engage the tiger. Even though Fred was scared straight, he noticed changes in his body--his grip on his club was unyielding, his vision was sharper, his lungs were stronger, and his instinct kicked in. And in fighting the tiger, Fred released the stress hormones and his body returned to a relaxed state—until he had to eat again. Today, when faced with a physical threat (saber-toothed tigers withstanding); the same physical changes take place in our body as with our ancestors. Our blood pressure increases, our hearts beat faster, we sweat, our stomach hurts, our muscles get stronger, our logic shuts down and our instincts and kick in. But the   9 problem is we don’t need the stress reactivity. And if we don’t do something to release it, we will get sick. Have you ever been driving and had to screech to a stop to avoid a collision? Do you recall how your body felt? One of the things you probably noticed that your heart started beating faster. Your stomach probably started hurting, your palms may have started to sweat, and your grip on the steering wheel tightened. All of these body reactions are a result of stress hormones being released to prepare you to fight or run. But in the case of a near miss collision, there was no need for either. Again, accumulation of stress hormones not expended. Your brain didn’t know you were just sitting in a car. You probably also noticed that after a while your body functions returned to normal and you could relax. In this instance, your body signaled to your brain the outside threat and went into protection mode. Stress hormones were released that increased your blood pressure to give strength to your arms and legs, shut down your immune system because it’s not needed for survival, the forebrain (logic) was shut down and (instinct) became active. Have you ever noticed how when you are in the middle of a heated argument and you can’t think of appropriate responses, only to think of them later? Well, that’s what happens when the stress hormones are at work—you are less intelligent when stressed. Your logic is shut down in favor of your instinct. But you’ll always think of things you should’ve said after you’ve calmed down. Stress does that to you—takes away your logic. Because, here again, our ancestors needed to react instinctively--not logically when confronted with that saber-toothed tiger. We have the same design. Another trigger for stress is perception--how you believe things to be. When I worked as a legal secretary, one morning I received a phone call from my supervisor. She asked me to come to the conference room to meet with her. My mind immediately began to come up with numerous scenarios as to why she wanted to see me. I thought: What did I do now? Did somebody complain about my work (again)? Did I make a major mistake? Am I getting fired? Did someone see me come in late? And the thoughts went on and on. I worked myself into distress---my stomach started hurting and my heart started beating faster. Finally, I had to will myself to calm down and to control my breathing. I finally told myself that she could want to tell me something good, or compliment me on my work. But by the time I got to that thought process, it was too late. When I got to conference room, she told me she had to discipline another co-worker, but had to call everyone so the offending party wouldn’t think she was being singled out. The she said, “You can go.” As far as my body was   10