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Last of them; the Prophet Muhammad (saw) Who was sent for mankind as the finest model of living the Qur ’an and the Companions (rah) and Imams thereafter, (rh) as some of the greatest intellects and examples of Iman. May al Hakim (The Wise), al Adi (The Just) grant us the wisdom to use this knowledge for the benefit of the ummah, for success in the H Worldly Life and the Hereafter and grant us a rising with H these, the most Excellent of Companions. Truly All success is from Allah (swt) © Maktaba Dar-us-Salam, 2011 King Fahd National Library Cataloging-in-Publication Data Maktaba Dar-us-Salam Research & Compilation Department Therapy from the Quran & Ahadith. / Maktaba Dar-us-Salam, Research & Compilation Department -1 - Riyadh, 2011 Pages 324 Size: 14x21 cm H H ISBN: 978-603-500-099-4 H H 1-Islam and medicine 2-Quran and medicine 3- Medicine - Religious aspects -Islam »- H 214.61 dc 1432/2975 H L.D. no. 1432/2975 A ISBN: 978-603-500-099-4 H H H H 1 I O Q6e<{icalton A AA * To my most honourable and respected parents who introduced me as a child to the best role-models: the Prophet Muhammad (saw) and His Wives and Companions (ra) in the most inspiring way and who took me safely, heart and soul through the years of working towards this project. Bt £ t t L - If this book was written through shared excitement and £ encouragement, Fatima Khatibi would truly be my co-author. t Jazakillah khairan to her for the twice- daily reviews and discussions on developments as well as her review from a dawa perspective. To Rob -i Chappel (Consultant psychologist/ Head of Inpatient Service, North H East London Mental Health Trust, UK) for his very helpful review 1 H from a psychological perspective and highlighting questions for non H - Muslims using the text and also to Prof. Malik Badri (International h H Islamic University, Malaysia) for his overall feedback and agreeing to H H write the foreword. To ensure the legitimacy of the work from a Shari H point of view all psychological connections made between Qur’an and H H ahadith have been reviewed by scholars of Darussalam Publishers. H Finally to Brothers Okasha Sahil (Marketing and production manager) H and Br Abdul Malik Mujahhid (General Manager) also of Darussalam H 1 Publishers for their efforts on my behalf. Most especially; A heartfelt thanks to my ‘Baji’ - Naema Noor who opened her home to me, whose tafseer of Qur’an in triggered the writing of this book and whose sisterhood and duas were the greatest source of barakah for me bi idh nillah through to its completion. To my brothers and sisters who were always there to clarify dilemmas be they practical, intellectual or spiritual and who always encouraged and supported me in so many ways throughout the years to keep up the search. My husband for supporting me when bi idh nillah it all came to life. Jazakumullah Khairan Kathiran to all. May Allah (swt) accept it from us. HH Dedication 5 Acknowledgments 6 Foreword 11 Introduction 14 What is the book for? 15 Who is the book for? 16 The Analogical Model 17 Choosing between clinical diagnosis or clinical cognitions? 18 Calling to Islam or calling to therapy? 19 Using the reference text 20 Interpretation of the Qur'an 22 Interpretation ofAhadith 23 The remit of the text 25 Terminology 29 Abbreviations 31 Accepting advice 32 Actions not words 36 Allah on your side 37 'Analysis paralysis' 39 Anger/aggression 42 Appearances can be deceptive 48 Asking questions 49 H H H H H H Avoiding suspicion and questioning motives 51 H Being grateful for what you have 57 L Being realistic 61 u Bereavement 64 Blame versus taking responsibility 69 F r Choosing how to behave 70 Confidence in action 74 ( r Consequences exist 77 a Consistency in behaviour 81 Control over other peoples behaviour 86 i q n Coping 90 Death 92 Divine decree (Qadar) 101 Divorce/ Marital problems 105 Expecting immediate results. 133 Expecting miracles 136 Feeling there is no way out 137 Filtering conversations (for relevant information) 138 Firm in justice to self and others 140 Flexibility 142 r Forgiveness 147 r Freedom to walk away 150 I- Giving Shaitan his due 151 Giving up after the first challenge 155 Guilt 156 Having hope 158