Denise Brienne presents… The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty       Version 2.0 – All New For 2010      Everything you need to give good naughty talk Contents  Introduction .................................................................................................................................................. 3  Why Talk Dirty? ............................................................................................................................................. 4  The Most Important Part .............................................................................................................................. 6  Dirty Talk Doesn’t Have to Be Filthy ............................................................................................................. 8  How Do I Get There? ................................................................................................................................... 11  Where to Get Ideas ..................................................................................................................................... 14  Setting the Stage ......................................................................................................................................... 17  Putting Words in Your Mouth ..................................................................................................................... 19  Creative Images in Everyday Life ................................................................................................................ 23  Fine‐Tuning Your Bedroom Talk .................................................................................................................. 26  Taking it Further: Phone Sex ....................................................................................................................... 29  Make it Quick! Dirty Texting ....................................................................................................................... 32  Playing Online: Cybersex and Email ............................................................................................................ 34  Dirty Talk in Public ...................................................................................................................................... 37  Those “Whoa!” Moments ........................................................................................................................... 39  Naughty Role‐playing Tips and Tricks ......................................................................................................... 42  Girl on Girl Dirty Talk ................................................................................................................................... 45  Getting Hard‐core ....................................................................................................................................... 47  Now That You’ve Done It… ......................................................................................................................... 50  Other Dirty Talk Resources ......................................................................................................................... 51  Dirty Talk 101 – http://www.DirtyTalk101.com ..................................................................................... 51  Dirty Talk Forum – http://www.DirtyTalkForum.com ............................................................................ 51      Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 2 Introduction    Good dirty talk can rev up your relationship like nothing else. If you're ready to learn, you’ve come to the right place! From the very beginning of our lives, our words are anticipated. The smallest "coo" when we are babies is listened to with baited breath. That first giggle is often enough to provoke gales of laughter and maybe even tears of pride. At some point, we realize that our sounds can give us what we want. Babies quickly learn that if they cry about something, Mommy and Daddy will be there to take care of the problem. One of the first things we learn is the power behind our voices! Then we begin to talk. Oh, what a glorious day that is! Parents and doctors wait anxiously for that first comment, and when it comes, it’s cause for celebration. They call friends with the good news, tell strangers at the grocery store, and break out the video camera. Our first words are show-stoppers. But somewhere along the way, those fantastic words become commonplace, and the magic disappears. Discovering new words becomes a non-event. Even learning a new language isn’t all that impressive. After all, everyone does it. Learning a new language has become the trendy thing to do. But there is a different language, one that only seasoned adults can handle. It's the language of love. More specifically, the language of lust. It's the language of dirty talk. It’s all about taboo phrases, naughty curse words, and innuendo that would make a porn star blush. It’s all about making your partner anticipate what comes next. It’s about making him so eager, so hot, so turned on, that a single word from you can tip him over the edge of desire. With an ear for adventure and an open mind, you can have him hanging on every word. There was a time when you learned that your voice and your words had the power to move people. Your words had the power to get what you wanted, and to get it fast. Now that you're an adult, you have that same power, just ready to be discovered all over again. Your dirty talk can give you what you want in bed -- you just have to learn the language. Read on and find out how. You know you want to!     Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 3 Why Talk Dirty?     You might be reading this because your partner has expressed an interest in hearing naughty words in the heat of passion. You might have sought out this book because you are the one who craves those sweet nothings. Maybe you want to liven up your sex life, or maybe you are just curious as to why your partner likes to talk so much in bed. Maybe you are already a fantastic dirty talker who needs a new idea or two, or maybe you're just in the mood to brush up on your naughty skills. Whatever the reason, you've chosen the right route to get what you need! Talking dirty has become so much a part of our sexual culture that is has spawned surveys, interviews, forums, books, and research galore. In fact, before it was called "dirty talk," the art of saying sexual things to your lover with the intent to arouse had a scientific name: Lagnolalia. There's good reason for all this scientific interest. Over 80% of our sex life takes place in our heads, meaning that fantasy, memory, and desire are some of the most powerful driving forces behind everything we do behind closed doors. Studies have shown that by the time you actually get physical with your partner, your mind has been leading up to the encounter. So why not go for the dirty talk? It's been in the back of your mind all day anyway! According to Aline P. Zoldbrod, PhD, the author of more than a few books on naughtiness, sexy talk with your partner not only revs up play between the sheets, but enriches your life in ways you never would have imagined. It makes your partner feel good to know how excited you are, and your excitement makes them feel like the best lover in the world. That might explain why dirty talk makes you tingle in all the right places, but it doesn't explain why the naughtiest dirty talk can also be the hottest. It's one thing to say "fuck" and get a smile, but it's quite another to tell your partner exactly how you want to fuck them, in the most graphic terms you can imagine. The dirtier the words, the better. What's up with that? One word: Taboo. From the time we’re young children, we’re taught not to say dirty words. Saying naughty things is not what good girls or boys do. Breaking that taboo with a partner makes you feel like you’re breaking the rules, and that in turn makes you feel more adventurous. When the bedroom door closes behind you and those dirty words come out of your mouth, the societal conventions disappear. You might blush like mad, and you might even get a bit paranoid and wonder what would happen if anyone, God forbid, heard you talking like this! You might even get flustered and not be able to speak above a Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 4 whisper. That's when you know you've just broken down a barrier you might not have known was there in the first place. The best dirty talk kicks open an even wider door with one very important question: If you can talk dirty in bed, what else can you do? Talking dirty unlocks doors you never even knew were there! Explicit talk is a confidence-booster, too. Not only does it make him hot to hear about the things you want to do with him, it also gives you the satisfaction of knowing how thoroughly you’ve turned your partner on. The naughtier you talk, the sexier you feel. That sexiness doesn’t go away when you leave the bedroom, and the confidence you pull from that spills over into everything else you do. Most importantly, talking dirty gives you the chance to voice what you really want in bed, whether it be with flowering language or blunt and to the point – either way, it increases your chance of sexual satisfaction. Zoldbrod points out the benefit of dirty talk: it’s a proven fact that women who talk about their sexual needs have sex more often and are more orgasmic. Who wouldn’t love to test that out?                           Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 5 The Most Important Part    Before you embark on the adventure of learning how to talk dirty to your partner, keep the most important part of sex in mind. No, it's not your technique in bed, even that one oh-my-god move that makes everyone you've ever touched beg for more. It's not even the dirty talk -- though we would love to say it is the most important thing you can do in bed, it really does rank a close second. What ranks first? Intimacy. Pure, honest intimacy. There are many definitions of intimacy, but when it comes to romantic relationships, it all boils down to the same thing. Intimacy is the feeling of being close to someone, that warmth and comfort that comes from knowing someone well. It's more than just sex -- in fact, you can have intimacy without having sex at all. Intimacy is the emotional connection and response you have to your partner. The hottest tumble is nothing compared to the sizzling heat that comes when intimacy is involved. Being comfortable with your partner, eager to please, and ready to open up a part of yourself to him is the key to a great sex life. But that's just the start of the good stuff. As intimacy builds, our inhibitions drop. The more comfortable you become with your sexuality, the more likely you are to embrace every aspect of it, even those you might have once considered taboo. In the midst of deep intimacy, what was once frightening can be empowering. Talking dirty is like sharing a secret with your partner, one that only the two of you know and understand. When you’re out and about in public, presenting your best face to the world, nobody but your partner knows how naughty you can really be. When you face your coworkers or your boss or doctor or anyone else, for that matter, they have no idea about the true person you become when you are in bed with your lover. Your partner is the only one who sees all the hidden sides of you. What a thrill, knowing there is something so special that only the two of you share, and no one else could ever guess! As you learn to talk dirty, it opens up a whole new world of possibility. You will probably learn things about your partner that you never imagined, and it’s a sure bet he’s going to learn quite a bit about you! Your willingness to talk dirty to him shows him how much you want him, and that leads to enhanced intimacy between the two of you. The closer you feel to your partner, the better your sex life will be. But even the deepest intimacy leaves a little room for shyness, and that's where this book comes in handy. Think you’re too shy for dirty talk? By the time you’re finished reading this, you won’t be! These chapters, designed to take you from the dirty talk Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 6 basics to the talking dirty like a pro, will get your mind racing, your heart pounding…and your mouth in down-and-dirty gear.                                             Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 7 Dirty Talk Doesn’t Have to Be Filthy    When you hear the words "dirty talk," what is your first response? What do you see in the back of your mind? Chances are when you think of dirty talk, your first thought is something you’ve seen out of a porn film. It’s over the top, maybe a bit embarrassing. Maybe it's so "out there" that you can’t imagine doing in your own bedroom. On the other hand, maybe it's so filthy that it turns you on, and that in itself makes you feel a little…well, filthy. You might remember a scene or two of a woman talking nonstop in the dirtiest language she could muster. Maybe even thinking about it makes you blush. But maybe it turns you on at the same time. When you first begin to explore dirty talk, you're venturing into an area that has often been considered taboo. No matter how open-minded you are, there might be times when you feel a bit uncomfortable. But some would argue that a sign of really good dirty talk is that it makes you squirm in your seat! After all, if everything about sex were comfortable, what would be exciting about it? Dirty talk in that porn movie might be over-the-top and corny. But the dirty talk you will learn through this book won't sound corny at all -- it will sound sexy, sophisticated, and oh-so hot. In other words, don't try to compete with that porn star. They are reading a script, being fed their lines, and real life is not like that. In real life, you can be sexier than any porn star! It takes some time to get there, however, so take things slow and start with the basics. First of all, dirty talk doesn’t have to be filthy. You can show your pleasure – and rev his engine to redline – with the sounds you make. When you moan in pleasure, it tells him he’s doing something right. When you groan as he enters you, you’re telling him how much you like the way he feels inside you. The way you sigh when you close your eyes and give in to the sensation can make him feel like a king. The sounds you make, whether it be groaning or screaming or simply heavy breathing, will tell him volumes about how you feel and what you want him to do. The tone of your voice goes a long way, too. When you whisper in his ear, your voice will be roughened and deepened by the passion you feel. That's a natural response of your body to his. There's not a single thing fake about that sound that comes from your mouth, and your lover will recognize it immediately, in the way that the most primal passions unfold. Though sweet romantic words and hardcore raunchy ones both have their place, sometimes just whispering a sexy word can be much more effective than just belting it Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 8 out in the midst of passion. Saying how much you love the way he touches you is good, but murmuring it into his ear is better. Drop little kisses down his chest while you whisper that you want to taste him. Simple words, nothing raunchy – but the way they are said, with the sultry tone of your voice, is enough to light up all his dials. The emphasis you put on certain words can immediately create an atmosphere of desire. “Touch me here,” makes it clear where you want his hand. “My turn” might be a good way to let him know you want to be on top. “Give it to me” says, without a doubt, you want it…whatever “it” might be. Get creative with the simple, usual words you use in bed, and use the emphasis to make your wishes clear. Here are a few more “not dirty talk” examples: • I love it when you touch me there. • Right there, honey. That’s it. Right there. • Don’t stop. • I love it when you look at me like that. • Do that again…and again! • You're so good at this. • That makes me melt… • I love the way you feel against my skin. • Your body is perfect. • Lay back and let me play with you for a while! • You taste so good. • You make me feel so good. • Tell me how you want it. • I can't stop shaking…I want you so much. • You make me so hot. • My whole body feels alive! • How do you do such things to me? • Your body turns me on. Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 9 • Watch what you’re doing to me. • Do you have any idea what this does to me? • Look in my eyes when you do that. • I love the things you can do with your hands. • You’re so good with your tongue, baby. • I've never felt anything like that before. • Do you feel that? Feel how you made my body react? • This is one of the reasons I adore you. Looking into his eyes as you say those sultry things is always a turn-on. Men are very visual creatures, so if they can see what they are doing at the same time they are hearing it, the impact of your words will be so much hotter. They also love to see what is happening inside you, on an emotional level, where it really counts. What lover doesn't want to wow his partner? By looking into your eyes as you say something to them, they can see how you’re feeling, too. The combination of the physical and the emotional is a heady one. But that only goes so far, doesn’t it? If you’re thinking about talking dirty, you’re probably hoping for something a bit more hard-core than that. But before we move into that, another thing to remember: The best dirty talk is made up of words that create images in the mind. The best dirty talk should paint a picture of intimacy and heat, one that feeds on his every desire and creates a living, breathing picture right in front of him. Every word of your dirty talk should create those images, and put you right in the middle of them. You want to be not only in his bed, but in his head as well. Start by getting comfortable with your sounds and your emphasis. Then you’re ready to start getting comfortable with the more intense dirty talk that both of you will love.           Copyright 2010 – All Rights Reserved  Page 10