IIIInnnnttttrrrroooodddduuuuccccttttiiiioooonnnn 1 The Secrets To Making Love Happen! Mastering Your Relationships Using Handwriting Analysis & Neuro-Linguistic Programming By Bart A. Baggett Empresse´ Publishing myhandwriting.com bartbaggett.com 2222 TTTThhhheeee SSSSeeeeccccrrrreeeettttssss TTTToooo MMMMaaaakkkkiiiinnnngggg LLLLoooovvvveeee............ HHHHaaaappppppppeeeennnn The Secrets To Making Love... Happen! Mastering Your Relationships Using Handwriting Analysis & Neuro-Linguistic Programming by Bart A. Baggett Previous subtitle of earlier editions: How to Find, Attract, and Choose Your Perfect Mate Using Handwriting Analysis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming Published by: Empresse' Publishing P.O. Box 720355 Dallas, TX 75372 1-800-398-2278 http://www.myhandwriting.com [email protected] All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or by any information storage and retrieval system without written permission from the author, except for the inclusion of brief quotations in a review. Copyright ©1993 by Bart A. Baggett First Printing 1993 Second Printing 1994 Third Printing 1998 Fourth Printing 1999 Fifth Printing 2001 Sixth Printing 2002 Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data Baggett, Bart A. The Secrets To Making Love... Happen: How to Find, Attract, and Choose Your Perfect Mate Using Handwriting Analysis and Neuro Linguistic Programming / by Bart A. Baggett—6th ed. Bibliography: p. 1. Relationships—Dating, Single, Love, 2. Graphology — Handwriting Analysis, 3. Psychology, 4. Neuro-Linguistic Programming, I. Title ISBN # 1-882929-24-1 Library of Congress Catalog Number: 93-70750 Printed in the United States of America What Other Readers Have To Say... IIIInnnnttttrrrroooodddduuuuccccttttiiiioooonnnn 3 “I’ve been liberated; I’ll never have a bad relationship again!” — Melanie Graham, Tampa, Florida “If you want to add handwriting analysis to your tool belt of vast personal resources, this book will set you in the right direction. Bart does an outstanding job of making the subject practical, fun, easy to understand and apply to your life.” — Rex Steven Sikes, NLP and Mind DesignTM trainer “No one should ever be in a relationship again before reading this book. It should be required reading for young people. It should be in every school curriculum in America.” — Tex Taylor, Lubbock, TX “It is the perfect book for my friends; they are always dating the wrong guys! It's a great way to help others grow, a fun gift, and a great conversation piece!” — Diana Morrow, Oklahoma City, OK “Italians line up to get their handwriting analyzed too! Thanks for giving me a tool that is changing my life! ” — Paolo Alguriez, Italy “I think your book is great! I have read it once and am halfway through again! I am so inspired with this new tool for reading and understanding people.” — Sharon Sparks, Dallas, Texas “This is the most fascinating thing that I have done, and I have done a lot of different things in my life!” — John Adams, Senior Sports Executive, Australia. “Every time I dated a woman with Trainwreck Handwriting, she ended up being a Total Trainwreck. The handwriting doesn't lie. Now, I depend on it.” — Stan Hayes, Dallas, TX Video Producer “I have gained wonderful insights to myself and my co-workers and what makes them tick. In my new job at Federal Express, I can get to know my new co-workers on a different level. It has made a huge impact on how well I get along with others! ” — Angela Deatrick, Systems Engineer, St. Louis, MO “No one that shares my appreciation, thankfulness and excitement from your teachings more than me. Your books and courses have changed my life.” — Daniel Arola, Houston, TX “It is as if you were a reincarnation of Milton Bunker, except, this time 'round you apply all that knowledge to practical, no-nonsense objectives.” — A. Grauman, Brooklyn, New York (Master Certified Graphoanalyst) “When I first saw your book in the bookstore I thought, ‘Ehhh, It's probably worth $16.’ I had no idea! It has opened up a whole new world for me. Its value is at least a 100 times the price! Thank you.” — Dennis Rudolph, Sierra Madre, CA “Exactly what I've been looking for! I’m already reaping benefits from changing my T-bars and Y loops. In just a few weeks, my wife and I have noticed changes that are quite profound in our marriage! ” —John Grey, Publisher, Houston, TX 4444 TTTThhhheeee SSSSeeeeccccrrrreeeettttssss TTTToooo MMMMaaaakkkkiiiinnnngggg LLLLToooovvvvaeeee....b........ lHHHHeaaaapppp ppOppeeeefnnnn Contents Introduction 3 Chapter 1 - Top Secrets 11 Your Secret Weapon: Handwriting 11 The Economics of Love 15 Curiosity and Mystery 19 Relationships & Compatibility 21 Know Thyself 23 Choosing Intelligently 30 Values 31 Three simple questions to establish values 31 Look Before You Leap 33 Chapter 2 - Preparing Yourself For a New Romance 35 Do You Really Want To Be In Love? 35 Finding Your Next Lover 38 How to Open Your Eyes 38 Marketing Yourself 42 One More Way to Market Yourself 44 Ask And You Shall Receive 44 The Dog Theory 45 Are you ready? 47 Chapter 3 - Emotions in Handwriting 49 Introduction to Slants - Emotionality 49 Slant Compatibility 51 Depth of Feeling 52 Light Writer 55 Medium Writer 55 Heavy/Deep Writer 55 Emotional Depth & Compatibility 55 The Three Zones 56 Emotional Responsiveness in Handwriting 59 FA Writer 66 Introvert 67 AB Writer 69 BC Writer 72 CD Writer 73 DE Writer 74 E+ Writer 77 Chapter 4 -Thinking Patterns & Intelligence 79 Are You Smart? 79 Cumulative Thinker 81 Investigative Thinker 83 IIIInnnnttttrrrroooodddduuuuccccttttiiiioooonnnn 5 Comprehensive Thinker 85 Analytical Thinker 88 Messy Writing, Concentration, & Mental Focus 89 Chapter 5 - Dating Strategies 93 Meeting People Using Handwriting 93 Approaching Strangers 95 Overcoming Shyness 97 The Laid-Back Pattern 97 Flirting Successfully 99 Special Supplement for the Confused Man 102 Talking to Strangers – The Conversation 103 Romance vs. Manipulation 104 Meeting the Lover of Your Dreams 105 Offering Something of Value 107 What Is Your USP? 108 The Challenge Game 109 Selective Reinforcement 111 Do you want to marry a millionaire? 111 Chapter 6 - Creating Chemistry 115 Developing Rapport 115 Chemistry Is Rapport 115 Why Some Get It, And Some Don’t 117 Matching to Develop Rapport 117 “I Feel As Though I’ve Known You For Years.” 119 Animal Magnetism? 120 How I Gained Rapport with a Harley-Riding Cowboy 121 How to Make Someone Really Dislike You 122 They Will Only Notice How Much They Like You 123 You Now Know How To Create Chemistry 124 Chapter 7 - Fears & Insecurities 127 The Fear of Ridicule 128 The Desire For Approval 129 How Being Sensitive to Criticism Can Work for You 132 Low Self-Image 137 Stubbornness 141 Self-Deceit 142 Using Fear for Motivation 145 Chapter 8 - Chapter VIII 147 Do Big Loops Always Signify A Nymphomaniac? 148 Tumultuous Lori 149 The Male Sex Drive 151 Exaggeration 153 6666 TTTThhhheeee SSSSeeeeccccrrrreeeettttssss TTTToooo MMMMaaaakkkkiiiinnnngggg LLLLoooovvvveeee............ HHHHaaaappppppppeeeennnn The Attraction Factor 156 Danielle: The Sad Sexy Self-Destructing Slut 157 Chapter 9 - Dating Blunders 167 A Date from Hell —Sheila 168 Dual Personality 168 Self-Castigation 171 Low Self-Esteem 172 The Failure Complex 172 The Whole Package 175 Profile of a Nymphomaniac — Marsha 176 Chapter 10 - Hell Traits 185 Hell Trait #1 - Dual Personality 186 Hell Trait #2 - Lives for the Moment 189 Hell Trait #3 - Fear of Success 193 Hell Trait #4 - Low Self-Esteem 197 Hell Trait #5 - Needs a Challenge 201 Hell Trait #6 - Prevarication 203 Hell Trait #7 - Resentment 205 Hell Trait #8 - Jealousy 209 Hell Trait #9 - Paranoia 212 Hell Traits - Closing Thoughts 214 Chapter 11 - Would You Date This Person? 215 Monday’s Date 216 Tuesday’s Date 218 Wednesday's Date 220 Thursday's Date 222 Friday's Date 224 Saturday's Date 226 Sunday's Date 228 Chapter 12 - Final Secrets 231 Bring Home To Mama Traits 232 Metaprograms 233 The Direction Metaprogram 234 The Frame of Reference Metaprogram 235 The Relationship Metaprogram 236 Do You Feel Loved? 239 How Long Will Your Relationship Last? 239 Conclusion 240 Appendix A 245 Appendix B 266 Appendix C 271 IIIInnnnttttrrrroooodddduuuuccccttttiiiioooonnnn 7 Foreword When Bart Baggett asked me to write the foreword for The Secrets To Making Love Happen, I was pleased for several reasons. First of all, Bart is a winner, an achiever, and an incredible young man. I affectionately refer to him as my fourth son. He doesn’t just talk a good line—he goes to work and brings his ideas to fruition. I have known Bart Baggett since he was a mere freshman in college. We met because our names were side-by-side in the Malibu telephone directory under handwriting experts. I thought to myself “I must check out the competition.” We met for breakfast one morning and I think he was equally surprised by my age as I was by his youth. You see, I was already analyzing handwriting when he was just a boy. For over twenty years I have used that insight into the human equation, understanding and evaluating clients, friends, and intimates. We connected instantly at a level that surpassed any difference in age. I knew he was a friend I would come to trust and rely on. He has never let me down. I have a “leg up” when meeting new people through my knowledge of handwriting analysis. I immediately recognized that Bart Baggett was a vital force, by looking at his handwriting. He was a young man with a glint in his eye and a lot of missionary zeal in his projects. He was intelligence and motivation on the move! The second reason I am excited about writing the foreword is that Bart’s book, The Secrets To Making Love Happen reveals the secrets I wish I had known before I had my own first date, over half a century ago. Bart’s breadth of understanding of relationships transforms one of the great mysteries of life, love, into a practical, enjoyable experience. This topic is so important in life, I am so glad someone finally wrote a book combining two of my passions: love and handwriting. You see, I could have avoided a lot of anguish in my failed marriage had I had this useful tool. Today’s generation is lucky to have this book available. Bart knew handwriting held secrets that people could use to find more lasting, rewarding relationships. I’m way ahead of him in my expertise in handwriting analysis, but in this book, he’s put this exciting information, 8888 TTTThhhheeee SSSSeeeeccccrrrreeeettttssss TTTToooo MMMMaaaakkkkiiiinnnngggg LLLLoooovvvveeee............ HHHHaaaappppppppeeeennnn this “tool,” in a cogent form that anyone can utilize for their benefit. I read with amazement how he lifted it all from the abstract into the real and practical. This book is a manual and a guidebook to making a good loving match. I salute this young entrepreneur, for taking what I’ve known and used for many, many years, and putting the means and the process within anyone’s reach if he or she can read. This book, in its own genre, is a work of art. And for whatever small part I have had in its production, I am proud. Phyllis G. Mattingly Phyllis G. Mattingly is a Master Certified Graphoanalyst and a Questioned Document Examiner. In her thirty plus years as a professional Graphoanalyst, she has received such notable honors as: 1986-87 International Graphoanalyst of the Year, 1986 Who’s Who in Professional Women, and the 1992 Distinguished Document Examiner of the Year (NADE). Phyllis has consulted worldwide for such companies as Hewlett-Packard, Hughes Aircraft, Northrop, and Lloyd’s of London. Bart Baggett met Phyllis when he was a freshman at Pepperdine University in Malibu, CA. She was a mentor and friend since that time. She co-authored many important sections of the professional handwriting analyst’s home study course entitled “How to Earn $100 An Hour or More Analyzing Handwriting — The Marketing System.” In January of 2000, Phyllis passed away in her home in Fort Collins, Colorado at the age of 83. IIIInnnnttttrrrroooodddduuuuccccttttiiiioooonnnn 1111 Dedicated to my family, whose love, support, and Faith in me helped create who I am today.