The Role of Religion in Marriage and Family Counseling The Family Therapy and Counseling Series Consulting Editor Jon Carlson, Psy.D., Ed.D. Kit S. Ng G lobal Perspectives in Family Therapy: Development, Practice, Trends Phyllis Erdman & Tom Caffery A ttachment and Family Systems: Conceptual, Empirical, and Therapeutic Relatedness Wes Crenshaw Treating Families and Children in the Child Protective System Len Sperry Assessment of Couples and Families: Contemporary and Cutting-Edge Strategies Robert L. Smith & Counseling and Family Therapy with R. Esteban Montilla Latino Populations: Strategies that Work Catherine Ford Sori E ngaging Children in Family Therapy: Creative Approaches to Integrating Theory and Research in Clinical Practice Paul R. Peluso I nfi delity: A Practitioner’s Guide to Working with Couples in Crisis Jill D. Onedera The Role of Religion in Marriage and Family Counseling Christine Kerr, Janice Hoshino, Family Art Therapy Judith Sutherland, Sharyl Parashak, & Linda McCarley RRTT5544999911__CC000000..iinndddd iiii 66//1133//0077 99::3366::3300 AAMM The Role of Religion in Marriage and Family Counseling Edited by Jill Duba Onedera Routledge Routledge Taylor & Francis Group Taylor & Francis Group 270 Madison Avenue 2 Park Square New York, NY 10016 Milton Park, Abingdon Oxon OX14 4RN © 2008 by Taylor & Francis Group, LLC Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis Group, an Informa business Printed in the United States of America on acid-free paper 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 International Standard Book Number-13: 978-0-415-95499-0 (Hardcover) No part of this book may be reprinted, reproduced, transmitted, or utilized in any form by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying, microfilming, and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without written permission from the publishers. Trademark Notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identification and explanation without intent to infringe. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Onedera, Jill D., 1975- The role of religion in marriage and family counseling / Jill D. Onedera. p. cm. -- (The family therapy and counseling series) Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 0-415-95499-1 (hardcover) 1. Marriage counseling. 2. Marriage counselors. 3. Family counseling. 4. Family counselors. 5. Marriage--Religious aspects. 6. Family--Religious aspects. I. Title. HQ10.O54 2006 616.89’156--dc22 2006039777 Visit the Taylor & Francis Web site at http://www.taylorandfrancis.com and the Routledge Web site at http://www.routledge.com My Grandmothers, Marcella Duba and Helen Krzesniak, Who epitomize faith, hope, and love through their faith in God, works, and dedication to others. And to Mrs. Yvonne Greenwalt, May you forever be reminded of how much Bill loves you. RRTT5544999911__CC000000ee..iinndddd vv 55//3300//0077 66::3322::2288 PPMM RRTT5544999911__CC000000ee..iinndddd vvii 55//3300//0077 66::3322::2299 PPMM Contents Th e Editor xi Contributors xiii Series Editor’s Foreword xix Acknowledgments xxi Editor’s Note xxiii A Tribute xxv SECTION I: THE OPENING DIALOGUE: IDENTIFYING THE HOLY ELEPHANT IN THE COUNSELING ROOM 1. Introduction to Religion and Marriage and Family Counseling 3 Jill D. Onedera and Bill C. Greenwalt 2. The Effects of a Therapist’s Religion on the Marriage Therapist and Marriage Counseling 17 Everett L. Worthington, Joshua N. Hook, Nathaniel G. Wade, Andrea J. Miller, Constance B. Sharp SECTION II: RELIGIOUS CONTEXT WITHIN MARRIAGE AND FAMILY COUNSELING 3. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Catholicism 37 Jill D. Onedera vii RRTT5544999911__CC000000ttoocc..iinndddd vviiii 66//99//0077 88::2244::3399 AAMM viii CONTENTS 4. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Conservative Christianity 55 Daniel W. Zink 5. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Liberal Protestant Christianity 73 Carol J. Cook 6. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Islam 89 Belkeis Altareb 7. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Buddhism 105 Jhampa Shaneman 8. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Hinduism 119 Jayamala Madathil and Daya Singh Sandhu 9. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Judaism 135 Elliot N. Dorff 10. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Native Religions 153 Gord Bruyere 11. The Practice of Marriage and Family Counseling and Humanism 165 David R. Koepsell and Denise Mercurio-Riley SECTION III: RELIGION AND RELATIONSHIPS 12. Benefi ts of Religion on Recovery From Relationship Problems 181 Anthony J. Centore and Tim Clinton 13. The Role of Forgiveness in Religious Life and Within Marriage and Family Relationships 197 Virginia Todd Holeman 14. Inter-Religion Marriages 213 Tracy M. Lara and Jill D. Onedera RRTT5544999911__CC000000ttoocc..iinndddd vviiiiii 66//99//0077 88::2244::4411 AAMM CONTENTS ix SECTION IV: RELIGION AND THE COUNSELOR 15. Ethnicity: Religious Practice and Marriage and Family Counseling Implications 229 Richard Deaner, Kara Pechersky, John McFadden 16. Collaboration Between Licensed Mental Health Professionals and Religious Leaders 245 Jill D. Onedera, Neresa Minatrea, Aaron Kindsvatter 17. Incorporating Religion Within Marriage and Family Counseling Programs 261 Jill D. Onedera Index 275 RRTT5544999911__CC000000ttoocc..iinndddd iixx 66//99//0077 88::2244::4422 AAMM