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He has taught me the real PRINTING HISTORY Nightingale-Conant edition published 1979 meaning of the Win-Win possibilities to Order in the Uni- Berkley edition /May 1984 verse. Because of him I will always thirst for truth and wisdom. All rights reserved. Copyright © 1979 by Denis E.Waitiey. This book may not bereproduced inwhole orinpart, by mimeograph orany other means, without permission. ACKNOWLEDGMENTS For information address: Nightingale-Conant Corporation, Dr. Jonas Salk Anne Morrow Lindbergh 3730 West Devon Avenue, Chicago, Illinois 60659. Dr. Hans Selye Dr. Carl Rodgers The Penguin Putnam Inc. World Wide Web site address is http://www.penguinputnam.com Dr. Abraham Maslow Lloyd Conant Earl Nightingale Margaret Mead ISBN: 0-425-09999-7 Dr. Maxwell Maltz Dr. Robert Eliot BERKLEY® James Newman Dr. Georgi Lozanov Berkley Books arepublished by The Berkley Publishing Group, adivision ofPenguin Putnam Inc., Dr. William Glasser Samuel Long 375 Hudson Street, New York, New York 10014. BERKLEY and the "B" design are trademarks Dr. Viktor Frankl belonging toPenguin Putnam Inc. PRINTED INTIlE UNITED STATES OFAMERICA 38 37 36 35 34 33 32 31 DEDICATION To my parents ... who have made me feel special To my children ... who make living ajoyous happening To Susan ... who makes every day a homecoming And in memory of my beloved grandmother, Mabel Reynolds Ostrander, who taught me all there is about beauty, love and human grace. FOREWORD Jonestown, the weird occult, sexual aberration, violence, crime, mysticism, drugs, escapism, purposelessness, in- dulgence, apathy, human indignity, greed, terrorism, ob- scenity ... previews of the 1980's? Books, movies, television, magazines, newspapers, pro- tests, parties, lifestyles ... all bombard us with stark bru- tality alluding to the new "realism" in our society. What is "realism" but an illusion of reality? Investigative reporting has brought anew system of checks and balances, and social conscience to the leadership of the nation. How- ever, beyond the factual revelation of the ills of society- in order that it might be improved-there is an alarming focus in every medium of human expression today on de- viant behavior and the acts of amentally deranged minority in the world. . . So powerful and frequent are the slick, dramatic por- trayals of the most revolting human biographies that society is methodically being transformed by example into a work- ing model for Losers. If one should dare revolt against the "revolting," he or she is immediately branded as naive, Pollyanna, areligious zealot, or out of touch with the times. If there's not enough violence, perversion or porno ... it won't move the masses, sell tickets or gain ratings any more. For me, since life is a brief journey, I will not waste it joining the thundering herd who worship the golden calf, x Dr. Denis Waitley the four-letter word, group "swing" or some Utopian cult approaching the twenty-first century, bored with all but the sensational, the morbid and the sickening ... as ifthe decay TABLE OF CONTENTS and destruction of ancient civilizations from social cancer served no purpose in history but to preview the ever- OVERVIEW predictable "Losing Cycle" of coming human attractions. TheGame of Life:TheWinners'Circle, 1 We need not always lose and fall-s-Egyptians, Mayans, Greeks, Romans, and Americans. Life is a fantasy of our own imagination. It can be a living nightmare or a living TENQUALITIES miracle ... a Hell or Heaven on Earth! OF A rOTAl WINNER, 15 For me, Iprefer flowers over weeds-and natural beauty over invented placebo. I'll pass the substitute euphoria of pot and coke, uppers and downers ... for a walk near the /"Z,/4'!?? Chapter 1 PositiveSelf-awareness, 19 tidal pools, a romp with kids and dogs, a sunset, a hang glider, and a two-mile jog at dawn. I will always love and Chapter 2 PositiveSelf-esteem, 35 cherish life. Chapter 3 PositiveSelf-control,49 For me, there is only time enough to Win ... but no time at all to Lose! Chapter 4 PositiveSelf-motivation, 63 THIS BOOK IS DIReCTED AND OFFERED TO THE IN Chapter 5 PositiveSelf-expectancy, 77 READER WHO IS MORE INTERESTED MENTAL HEALTH THAN IN MENTAL ILLNESS ... IN GROWTH Chapter 6 PositiveSelf-image, 91 THAN IN APATHY ... IN WINNING THAN· IN LOS- Chapter 7 PositiveSe"lf-direction,107 1/2/'If ING. Chapter 8 PositiveSelf-discipline, 121 Chapter 9 PositiveSelf-dimension,137 Chapter10 PositiveSelf-projection, 153 WRAPUP YourPsychology of Winning,167 BIBLIOGRAPHY, 174 OVERVIEW The Game of life: The Winners' Circle P. O. W. PRISONER OF WAR? PRINCE OF WALES? POWER OF WOMEN? PRISONER OF WISHES? PSYCHOLOGY OF WINNING!