SEX POSITIONS: BEGINNERS GUIDE FOR ADULTS AND COUPLES WITH SEXUAL FANTASIES, INCLUDING TANTRA & KAMASUTRA. NAUGHTY GUIDE FOR EVERYDAY TO DISCOVER YOUR WILD SEXUALITY WITH HOT, SEXY AND SPICY GAMES. © Copyright 2019 - All rights reserved. The content contained within this book may not be reproduced, duplicated or transmitted without direct written permission from the author or the publisher. Under no circumstances will any blame or legal responsibility be held against the publisher, or author, for any damages, reparation, or monetary loss due to the information contained within this book. Either directly or indirectly. Legal Notice: This book is copyright protected. This book is only for personal use. You cannot amend, distribute, sell, use, quote or paraphrase any part, or the content within this book, without the consent of the author or publisher. Disclaimer Notice: Please note the information contained within this document is for educational and entertainment purposes only. 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Table of Contents Introduction Chapter 1 Sexual Positions Chapter 2 Illustrations of Sexual Positions Chapter 3 Tantra Chapter 4 Kamasutra Chapter 5 Sex Games Chapter 6 Advice for Beginners Chapter 7 Sex Positions for Beginners Chapter 8 How to Discover Your Sexual Fantasies and Fetishes Chapter 9 Have Fun and Play Dirty Chapter 10Spice Up Your Locations Chapter 11Beyond the Bedroom Conclusion Introduction The birds and the bees talk probably made us uncomfortable the first time we had it. It felt awkward, embarrassing, and we were probably red in the face throughout the entire thing. Fast forward to adulthood, and it seems we still haven’t quite mastered what it takes to experience the kind of mind- blowing sex that seems to rock our world. Men, it would seem, can do it at any time with a snap of the finger. Women, however, need the mood set right, scented candles, to feel in the mood before anything can get going. Well, that’s the stereotype anyway. But how much truth is there to these perpetuated stereotypes? Do men have stronger sex drives? What about women? What does sex mean for them? For that matter, what do men and women in all honestly want to achieve out of their sexual experience? Let’s get the ball rolling with a couple of quick facts. Firstly, yes, as it turns out, numerous studies have shown that men have much higher sex drives compared to women. The source of a woman’s libido, on the other hand, is much harder to pinpoint. The consensus is that women attach a more emotional value to the act of sex, but it turns out social and cultural factors now influence their opinions on sex too. Lead author of a major sexual practices survey (The Social Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States), Edward O. Laumann, Ph.D., states that a woman’s sexual desire is sensitive to her context and environment. Laumann and other researchers have identified several patterns in the sex drives of men and women (although these patterns may vary depending on the individual and the context): • The Road to Satisfaction Is More Complicated for Women – Many women have a romanticized notion of sex. Like a plot straight out of a romance novel, sex needs to be more subjective and contextual, a longing that fuels their sexual desire. By contrast, men don’t need such a vivid imagination to get them going. A lot of men see sex as the way they connect with their partners, whereas women need to get to know their partners first, talk, connect, and then hop into bed. • Men Think About Sex More Than Women – Laumann claims that most adult men below 60 thinks about it at least once a day on average. In contrast, only a quarter of women think about it as often. Both men and women fantasize about sex much less as they grow older, but men still fantasize about it more. • Getting A Woman Aroused Is More Complicated – Some women even have a hard time explaining what turns them on. In a sexual study done by researcher Meredith Chivers (Northwestern University) and her colleagues, a group of men and women (both heterosexual and homosexual) were shown erotic films and asked to describe their level of arousal. Devices were attached to their genitals to measure their actual levels of sexual arousal, and the results were not surprising. Men (heterosexual) were aroused by male-female and female-female sex. Homosexual men were aroused by male-male sex, and in both cases, the measuring devices on their genitals backed up those findings. Heterosexual women were more aroused by male-female depictions of sex, but the measuring devices on their genitals showed they responded to all forms of sexual depictions. • Men Want It More Often – At the beginning of a relationship, during and several years after, a man is likely to seek out sex more avidly than a woman will. Laumann states that two-thirds of men masturbate, and only about 40% of women do it. Over their lifetime, men are more likely to have more sexual partners than women do. • Women Are Influenced Culturally and Socially – As it turns out, women are influenced more than men by their immediate environment. Their sexual practices, desires, and attitudes are likely to change with time compared to men. The attitudes that their peers have about sex are also likely to influence them to a certain degree. Sex and The Truth About How Women Feel For a lot of women, sex is a deep and meaningful way of connecting with their partners, especially if they love them. A man’s orgasm may happen a lot quicker, but when a woman orgasms, it is incredibly powerful. Her capacity for pleasure even leads to the possibility of multiple orgasms when done with the right partner. Men and women are different from each other in so many ways, and when it comes to sex, here’s the truth about how women feel and what makes their take on sex different from their male counterparts: • It’s A Mind, Not A Body Thing – Women’s bodies are different hormonally, and that’s one of the reasons why they don’t crave sex in the same physical manner men do. Testosterone is present in both genders and is the hormone responsible for triggering this sexual desire but to varying degrees. In men, the hormone is practically screaming out loud to have sex. In women, that hormone is sometimes nothing more than a whisper. For many women, sex begins in mind with a lot of imagination and fantasy, sometimes even picturing what it would be like with her partner to get her juices flowing. • Women Want to Be Desired – Canadian researcher and sexologist Meredith Chivers claims for women, “to be desired is the orgasm.” Sure, an attractive man might make her feel hot under the collar for him, but when she imagines what he thinks about her, that’s when it hits home. Knowing a man finds her desirable ignites her arousal. • Other Factors Influence Desire – Women do love sex, but there are a lot of factors these days that might affect their level of desire. Feeling tired after a long day at the office or taking care of the kids. Physiological problems, feeling emotional, even menopause might impact her desire to get intimate with her partner. Having other things on their mind like getting the laundry done, running through the list of chores in their mind, being distracted by work, friends, or family could put the brakes on her desire. • It’s Contextual – The ups and downs of being in a relationship could cause some women to disengage from sex out of their desire to protect themselves. Women need to feel safe emotionally, and she needs to know that she is in a safe enough place with her partner, where she can be free to open her heart to him. Sex is one way a woman expresses her love for her partner. Being motivated by love could sometimes lead her to give her partner sex, even though she may not have any real desire for it at that moment. She’s doing it because she knows that her partner wants it. • Love and Sex Is Part of A Package – Spending time together, staying up all night talking, working together as a couple, feel loved and appreciated, celebrating, going on holidays together, giving each other gives, being affectionate, love. All these things are part of a packaged deal for a lot of women, and sex is part of that package. It’s not as easy for a lot of women to have sex with no strings attached and achieve the kind of mind-blowing, earthshaking sex that both men and women crave deep down. Sex and The Truth About How Men Feel As for men, their perspective on sex is entirely different from their female counterparts. Of course, this is going to differ based on the individual (just as how the examples above would differ depending on the woman), but some common themes about what men feel when it comes to sex include: • It Starts Physically – Men are less likely to be prompted by the emotional connection for sex the way women are. Men are driven by the high levels of testosterone in their bodies, and many can have an erection at the slightest trigger, especially in younger men. For the average adult male, the mere sight of his partner stepping out of the bathroom fresh from a shower is enough to cause a reason in his body. Sex is very much a physical thing for men. • It Energizes Them – The energy is derived from all those hormones coursing through his veins. The hormones a man experiences with sex energizes him in the same way he is driven to pursue his passion, his purpose, his career, even pursue a partner he is interested in. Sex is an exciting and thrilling prospect for the average healthy male, and his body welcomes any opportunity to receive such pleasure. It doesn’t take much to get him excited, either. A smile, being flirtatious, sexual innuendos, the curves of the woman’s body underneath her clothes is enough to send his excitement skyrocketing. • Men Are Hungry for It – Quite literally. Their bodies crave for sex in the same way one might crave for food. Given that men think about sex a lot more than women do, it is easy to see why any opportunity to satisfy that hunger is going to be met with delight. • Men Give Love Through Sex Too – It’s not always a wham, bam, thank you ma’am approach with men. They make not be as emotionally obvious as women are, but sex is a way many men express their love and appreciation for their partners too. Men want to know they please their partners, and he welcomes the chance to be a better lover to his partner. The sexual release that a man experiences with the woman he loves is an exquisite pleasure. They may not express it the same way, but they feel a deep sense of connection and attachment to their partners too. Chapter 1Sexual Positions If you are a novice when it comes to sex, the act can seem really intimidating and overwhelming. When you enter into a sexual relationship, it takes time for you to learn what you like, what your partner likes, and what balance strikes the best chord with you both. Getting tense and worrying about the situation only makes it worse, so my first piece of advice is to take a deep breath and allow yourself to relax. Allow things to move at a natural pace and do not try to rush. Start off with simple positions that are not too challenging so that you can focus on the feelings they arouse. This will allow you to feel connected and safe with your partner. Here are a few simple sex positions that every beginner should try. You may not have tried tantric sex, but perhaps it’s time you did. The idea of Tantric sex goes back generations and the Kama Sutra explained all about it. This was a book written by a priest and the intention of the book was to allow couples to find perfect harmony in their marriages, so that the love lasted longer and the couple found close bonding within their relationship. The same applies today and you can experiment with different lovemaking techniques that enhance your love life. She will love you for it because all of these practices are caring and that’s the nature of a woman. When you decide to try Tantric sex, you will need to have warmed coconut oil for massage that leads to lovemaking. You will also need to prepare the bedroom so that it is a temple of pleasure. Make sure that you protect your sheets with large towels and that you have both discoursed tantric sex in advance. Choose an evening when you have lots of time on your hands and you know you won’t be interrupted. Massage plays a large role in the kind of sexual activity you share with your partner. It’s all about satisfying your partner, rather than yourself. Massaging her clitoris isn’t all there is to it. Massage inside her and find her G spot. Massage the area of the anus as well if you have both consented to it. You will find that this area actually links with her G spot internally and that you are likely to get a very marked response to this massage. Similarly, she can massage you and the most sensitive area she can massage is the area between the testicles and the back passage because it is here that all of your sexual senses are awakened.