~tt~fu fq~ ~ns~s, ~~n~ 4ll1t~ fq~ «[qnrns New Milestonein BDSM Literature-Thirteen chapters cover allofthe BDSM Basic skillareas, both mental and physical...the authors' irreverent, yetpractical attitude isoften hilarious, butalways useful...[including] fascinating bondage ideaswhich haven'tbeenshown inbooks before,theoutrageously funny profilesoftypesofundesirables one sometimes meets inthescene and online, the hilarious cartoons showing the importance ofcommunication. The Community Standard, Arlington, Texas Theonly REALcriticism Ihaveofthis bookisthatitistoobigtofitonthebackofmytoilet.Seriously, it's one hellofabook. I'veread mostofthe introductory booksforperverts...this one isabsolutely andtotally thebest. Yeah,itcoversalltheregulartopics, howtotieupandwhackyourpartnersafely,sanelyandconsensually, and has lotsofpics anddiagrams and such.There's even bitsabout building your own equipment with plansand all, from simple cuffs and collars to slings. It's totally jam-packed with information... Butthat's notwhy I likedthe book.Ilikedthebookforitstreatmentofthepsychology ofdominance andsubmission.ALLTHROUGH THEBOOK there isanawarenessofthethings Ihaveheard,felt,seen,touched andtasted since I'vebeen inthescene,things I've never seen described anywhere else. The authors are smart-ass and silly throughout, making the book extremely FUNto read. Jackie Patti, quoted from the Internetnewgroupalt.sex.bondage Brother [Philip'scomputer "handle'1and Molly didan INCREDIBLE job with this book -which hardly surprises me considering theirwell-deserved reputation...Thebookcanbeconsidered an"S/Minstructionmanual"encompassing the physical andemotional sidesofthe Scene -expressed with candor, clarity and alargeserving ofwit. Itcovers everything from gags, different types of bondage including diagrams with specific how-tos, to a drawing showing pulse points to help explain where the pressure should NOTbe placed. There are photographs and explanations ofwhips,paddles,dungeons,sceneplayersandbondage.Alsoincludedareinstructionsonhowtomakeaspreader bar, cuffs, whipsandaslingforsuspension. Allprojectedwith humor and explicittutorials that makeitabookthat is VERY difficult to putdown. Quotedfrom the Majornet's Adult Extremes Forum It's one ofthe best manuals I've seen, taking one from beginner to advanced play. Itcombines the best of Race Bannon's conceptual approach withthe hands-on how-toofothertexts. And happily, theappendixes alone willbe worth thepurchase price.The addition ofanindexismarvelous and morethorough (andhelpful) thanthose found inother books I've seen. It'sentertainingly written withthe same high good humor Ifindinthe bestteachers (and the oneswho most lovetheir subjects andstudents alike).It's beautifully done, and Iamproud and pleasedto be associated with your excellent work. Robert Dante, Boudoir NoirMagazine, Toronto Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns...is a gentle and experienced guide taking the reader from the introduction ofthe principles ofS/Mtostep-by-step instructions on how to apply and receive 'discipline'. Intherecentpast,S/Mhascomeoutoftheclosetandisgainingpopularityamongconsensualparticipating partners as a means to broadening the pleasures oftheir sexuality. Dominants and submissives practicing within theguidelinesofPhilipMillerandMollyDevoninthisbookcanfindasafeandrewardingwaytomakerealityoftheir fantasies. S/Misnotfor everyone, especially those who are offended bysexual openness and exploration with an eyetofindingthelimitsoftheirsexuality. Butevenforthesepeople,IwouldrecommendChaptertwo,SexualMagic, as aprologue to thinking creatively about anytype ofsexual activity. Dr. William Granzig, PresidentofThe American Board ofSexology Itisan EXCELLENTbook. Afterreading manybooks,whichareallgood intheirdomain, Ifindthisbooktobethe new,generalanddetailed S&MsceneBIBLEfornovicesandforadvance players. Theirwriting styleisararegem to come by filledwith humour andgood sense. Itisa mustto have... Princess Sheeba, Montreal, Canada Itis,simplythe BESTbook Ihavereadonthe topic ofBDSM...[Philip's andMolly's] experience, inputfromothers in the scene, and a lot of interviews and research combine to make this THE book to own! You WILL read it, because it's good, and youWILL learn from it,cause it's allthere! 'Lite Brite", Rockport, Massachusetts Your words about 'natural submissives' were wonderful to read after so many years ofwondering ifanyone would everunderstand me.IwishIhadbeenexposedtosuchacceptancemuchearlier inmylife.Hopefullyyourbookwill reach manypeople who needto hearthose words. A memberof The English Palace BBS ~trtfu fqt ~nsts, ~tn~ Jlt fqt mqnrns -1Jee ~ anti g~ g~ 0/ gCUUN~~'.I1f, IN, Ptulip Mille4 anti M~ :JJeAJ(Uf, <, Foreword by Dr. William Granzig , Fairfield,Connecticut ThecoverdesignandfrontcoverphotographarebyPhilipMillerandMollyDevon.Thebackcoverphotographis thepropertyofJanetteHeartwoodandisusedbypermission. ScrewtheRoses,SendMetheThoms.Copyright©1995byPhilipMillerandMollyDevon.Printedandboundin theUnitedStatesof America.Allrightsreserved.Nopartofthisbook maybereproducedinanyformorbyany electronic or mechanical meansincludinginformationstorageandretrieval systemswithoutpermissioninwriting fromthepublisher,exceptbyareviewer,whomayquotebriefpassagesinareview.Allmodelsdepictedhereinare overtheageof 18,releasesareonfilewithMysticRoseBooks. Publishedby Mystic RoseBooks P.O. Box1036/SMS Fairfield,CT 06432. Incooperationwith MarrakechExpress,Inc. 720WesleyAvenue,#10 TarponSprings,FI34689 We're not lawyers,so we can'tsay whether any of this stuff is legal or . not.Infact, mostofitprobablyis illegal where youlive,butlaws varya lotfrom state tostate. Ofcourse,wewould nevertryanyof this stuff ourselves,beinglaw abiding citizens, and everything you read here is pure conjecture... we don't even fantasize aboutanyofit. Wejusteavesdropped,onenight,onsomesleazydrunks weheardbabblingaboutitbehindabowlingalleyinBayonneandourmemories.are impeccable. We are not responsible for, and assume no liability for any action undertaken by any person in utilizing this information. We not only think you're nuts to tryanyofthis, you're obviouslyasickotoo.Anyperson,relying upon this informationdoessoathisorherownrisk.Althoughtheauthorsandpublisherhave exhaustivelyresearchedallsourcestoensuretheaccuracyandcompletenessofthe information contained in this book, we assume no responsibility for errors, inaccuracies,oromissionsoranyotherinconsistencyherein. WewishtoexpressgreatappreciationforthearticlesbyRobertDante,MasterKenandSweetCream,andthefond reminiscencesofJanetteHeartwoodreprintedherebyherpermission. ISBN0-9645960-0-8 FirstEdition,firstprinting1995,twenty-sixthprinting2010 LibraryofCongressCatalogNumber95-79674 Quantitydiscountsareavailableonbulkpurchasesofthisbook. Forinformationcontact:MysticRoseBooks,P.O. Box1036,Fairfield,CT06825 - (203)374-6912oratwww.mysticrose.com. Printingandbookpublishinginformationavailable fromMarrakechExpressInc,bookandpublicationprintersat 720WesleyAve.,#10,TarponSprings,Fl34689 (800)940-6566, (727)942-2218orat www.marrak.com. Table of Contents Acknowledgements i The Color ofa Rose ii Foreword by Dr. WilliamA. Granzig iii Introduction v 1 Gee, Toto, I Don't Think WeAre In Kansas Anymore! 1 Yourhosts. Molly and Philip 2 Dominant 11 About thisbook 2 Submissive 11 What sadomasochism is 4 Natural submissivesand dominants 12 What sadomasochism is not 6 Topsand bottoms 13 Scenespeak, learning the lingo 7 Switch 13 Scene 8 Professional female dominants 15 Playing 9 Fetishist 15 Player 9 Sub-ChapterXY- Genderand sexual Sadomasochism 9 orientation 15 Dominance and submission 9 Pronoun. pronoun. who'sgot the Bondage and discipline 9 pronoun? 16 Thewho'swho ofSM 10 The gaySM scene 16 Masochist 10 Simple starts. safe starts 16 2 Sexual Magic Why We Do Do That Voodoo 18 Trustand communication 24 Conditioning --Three ways to Skinnera Talking 24 pussy 28 Learningthe bodyyou want to bludgeon 26 Visualization -- Scheherazade goes dom 29 The mind as an erogenous zone 27 Sensory relocation 31 Anticipation 27 Dominanceand submission 31 3 The Politics ofVery Strange Bedfellows Sensible SM Relationships and Dangerous Liaisons 34 Steeringyour love-boat into the rapids 34 Public clubs 42 With 31 flavors available. whyserve Magazine and newspaperads 43 onlyvanilla? 36 Kinkgoes electronic 43 Catchinga live one 37 Would-bes,Wannabes. and other The Law ofsupply and demand 38 forgettable characters 45 What to look for 40 The downside of the subside 47 Looking for Mr. Good-dom 40 Safety suggestions for meeting through Seekingsuitable submissives 41 ads orBBS's 48 The hunt 42 Mistress Manners 49 Organizations &supportgroups 42 4 "YouWant To Worship My WHAT???" Negotiation and Relationships 51 Compatibility 52 Level 4 -The Covenant of Dominance The Ideal Dominant 53 and Submission 58 The Ideal Submissive 54 Level 5 -Absolute Ownership 59 Negotiating sexin SM 55 Ownership and Lifestylers 59 Levels ofdominant and submissive The three biggestlies 61 powerexchange 56 Abusive relationships 62 Level I - ConditionalCompliance 57 Limits -The lines never to be crossed 63 Level 2 - Restricted Ongoing Safe words 64 Acquiescence 57 Contracts and agreements 65 Level 3 - Provisional Submission 58 Sample contract ofsubmission 66 Negotiation Questionnaire 66 5 Straight Facts and Bent Phalluses SexualAttitudes 69 Nogoals. no roles 71 Sign language 73 Philip's Tree House: Rediscovering thejoys of the flesh 74 !l!NoGirlsAllowed!!! 71 Molly's notes from the quilting bee 75 Aword aboutapproach 73 Bustingbarriers 77 6 Non-Government Sanctioned Sex and Torture 78 Clips. clamps. and clothespins 78 Self-trainingfor anal play 86 Fire and ice 80 Enemas 86 Electro-torture 81 Feeding the pussy syntho-meat 88 The cutting edge 82 Fisting 89 Anal play. general considerations 83 Forced sex (neversaynever) 90 Anal sex 84 Smoke and Mirrors 90 Anal training and object stimulation 85 7 Get Them By the Balls;Their Hearts and Minds Will Follow Bondage Theory 93 First, you need a plan 95 The firstsession 101 Bondage safety 95 The second session 103 Ten rules tobe bound by 96 The tournament ofwills 104 Anatomy for safer bondage 99 The third and all the rest ofyour Emergency quick release 100 sessions 106 Novice bondage 101 8 OfHumane Bondage Bondage Techniques 107 Bonds that tie 107 Plasticwrap bondage 120 Finishingthe rope 108 Wristand ankle cuffs 121 Knots 109 Bondageharness and collars 123 Releasingyourvictim 112 Blindfolds 123 Asimplewrist bondage 113 Gags 124 Crossed ankle bondage 114 Aclothgaggage primer 126 Breastbondage 115 Hoodsand sensorydeprivation 128 Oriental rope dress 116 Spandex 128 Hints 119 Specialtyitems 129 Variations 119 Simple solutions for attachments 130 Rope alternatives 119 9 Philip's Philosophy ofPhloggingPhun The Corporal Dimension 132 Environment 132 IV.Learnethwell the anatomyof Beginninga session 133 thine targets. 142 Positioning 134 V. Thou shaltabide bySM safety rules Bondage and Whipping 135 and practices. 143 Beginning 136 VI. Knoweth intimatelythe feel. range. Endinga scene 137 and effectofeach ofthine Kneelingbefore the lash 137 implements ofdestruction. It is Philip's ten commandments of betterfor all to receive before flagellation 138 one gives. 143 I.Thou shaltneverstrike thine How does it feel? 143 submissive in anger. 139 Orchestratingyour percussion 144 II.Thou shaltnotdamage thine sub. VII.Thou shalt develop properstance Knoweth the difference between and technique. 145 hurt and harm. 139 VIII.Seeketh an expert's advice. training. Marking 140 and counsel for the weaponsyou would Reading the submissives'sbuttaftera master. 145 scene -a chart 141 IX.Thou shaltPractice! Practice! Practice! III.Thine sub and thee shaltnegotiate and use upon a fanny only those toys thoroughlyand each shall respecteth with which thou artan expert. 145 the limits ofthe other. 142 X. Never stopwatching! Focus is next to godliness. 145 10 When the Inner Child Deserves a Spanking Philip's (and Phriend's) Phurther Pheelings on Phlogging 146 Preparing the skin for a beating 146 Let this bea lesson to ya: Atutorial Where to hit - a chart 148 on using the cat-stylewhip. orflogger 156 The warm up 150 Stance 156 Warming up for a heavy scene 150 The strokes 156 Spanking 151 Forehand overhead stroke 157 Paddling 152 Backhand overhead stroke 160 Face slapping 153 Figure-eight Stroke 160 Caningand cropping 153 Tipsand traps 160 Flogging 154 The single-lash whip 162 Cat-anatomy 154 Bullwhips are not onlyat home on the Floggeror cat? 155 range (Abullwhip tutorial How to practicewhipping 155 by Robert Dante) 162 11 It's OnlyPain. Dear, and It's OnlyYours Why Take A Long Road To Enlightenment, When You Can Haul Ass On A Super Highway'? 168 Flying: "ground control to Reprise; tops, bottoms and MasterTom" 171 switches 181 The maiden voyage of rocket Molly 176 "Ouch... Mmmmmmmmrnmmm!" Endorphin highs and other Experiencing pain as pleasure 181 vacation spots 177 12 Making the Upper Cheeks Red Embarrassment, Humiliation and the Mind Fuck 184 Politicallyincorrectbut emotionally Public play 194 valid 190 Dressing 195 Verbal abuse 191 Sexual denial, the ultimate weapon 197 Humiliation 191 Emotional growth through SM 199 Mindfuck, not mental rape 193 Has anyone seen my self-esteem? Exhibitionism 194 -Asearch for myself 199 13 FurnishingYour Dungeon 201 Where to playwhile the castle is The torture group 212 <,, beingrepainted 201 The bondagegroup 213 Lifewith children 202 The sex-toygroup 214 Hangingslaves and other decorative The hittinggroup 215 touches 203 Where to getyour goodies 218 RecyclingAuntSophie's ottoman, or, Found objects 219 why buya rack with a perfectlygood Travelingwith toys 220 workbench in the basement? 204 Makingyourown toys 221 Adungeon tour 204 Leathertips 221 Just for the dungeon 210 Designs 221 Glossary 226 AppendixA: SM Support Groups and Organizations 241 Appendix B: Stores, Suppliers, andArtisans 252 Appendix C:ComputerBulletin Boards 268 Appendix D: SM and Fetish Magazines 269 Appendix E: Recommended Reading 271 Appendix F: NLA Statement On Domestic Violence 273 Index 274 Acknowledgements Noone accomplishes anything ofvalue by himself. We are grateful to scores upon scores of people who contributed knowledge. patience. assistance. and support in making this book possible. We can list only a few. but thank you all. dear friends. Foryourlove. friendship, guidance, andenduringourmanymoods, thank you: Debbie T., Debbilynn, Lee, Mistress Eva Bathory, Charles Walker,MasterKen. SweetCream,MarieConstance,John, RobertaridMary Dante, Janette Heartwood, Jennifer. Rose, Rana, Mistress Raven, Dane & LeslieAnn<GDG>, Joan, Hans,Josie, LiChen,Jocelyn, Rebecca.Sara.Ari, Jake. Ali. Jen, Cathy. Robin, Donna, Don, Bob H.. both Franks and the patronsofChezFrancesco, Marvin, Pete. two GeorgesandtwoLindas, Doc, Fred. Strider. Kenny, Dr. Wm. A. Granzig. WendyK., Keri, Rerno, Heather, Jerry. Marcia. Jackie. Brenda.Amy. Melissa. Ronil, LauraAntoniou,Adam Selene. Gillian, Roberta, Mistress Sabrina, Kevin Johnson. Bruce, Kayla, Toughlove, Lite Brite, April Greeley. Lynn "Chanti" K., Steve and Eileen Lauer. PrincessSheeba,Veronica&DonP., AndyAnderson. Megan, Doogie John, Songbird Birgit wherever you are, Erica. Tori, Steed. Quirt. Nix, Sharon(C-Pet), Janet, BrookandtheVaultdenizens, Robert, Morgle, Ruth, Queen Guillotine, Terry L.. Michael, Russ, Master Rick, Gregory, Domina Sappho, Shoewolf, Danny. all those plying wanton keyboards on The English Palace. Majornet, alt.sex.bondage, and other cyber-stops.