PLAIN ANSWERS about the AMISH LIFE MINDY STARNS CLARK Copyrighted material Unless otherwise indicated, all Scriptures are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011, by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com Verses marked kjv are taken from the King James Version of the Bible. Cover by Dugan Design Group, Bloomington, Minnesota Cover photos © Tamara Kulikova / Fotolia; iStockphoto / PatriciaPix, JoeLena Illustrations by Amy Hanson Starns Mindy Starns Clark is represented by MacGregor Literary, Inc. of Hillsboro, Oregon. Harvest House Publishers has made every effort to trace the ownership of all poems and quotes. In the event of a question arising from the use of a poem or quote, we regret any error made and will be pleased to make the necessary correction in future editions of this book. PLAIN ANSWERS ABOUT THE AMISH LIFE Some of this material appeared in A Pocket Guide to Amish Life Copyright © 2010/2013 by Mindy Starns Clark Published by Harvest House Publishers Eugene, Oregon 97402 www.harvesthousepublishers.com Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Clark, Mindy Starns. [Pocket guide to Amish life] Plain answers about the Amish life / Mindy Starns Clark. pages cm. ISBN 978-0-7369-5593-5 (pbk.) ISBN 978-0-7369-5594-2 (eBook) Includes bibliographical references and index. Part One. Foundation — Defining the Amish — Beliefs — Community — Separation — Nonresistance — Organization — Leadership — Worship — Rules — Shunning — His- tory — Expansion — Part Two. Lifestyle —Amish Life — Food — Health — Clothing and Grooming — Language — Technology — Transportation — Occupations — Free Time, Vacations, and Entertainment — Part Three. Passages — Childhood, Family, and Old Age — School — Rumspringa — Baptism — Courtship and Marriage — Death — Part Four. Outside World — Us and Them — Tourism and the Media — Tragedy and For- giveness — Why Are They Amish? — What Can They Teach Us? — Part Five. Supplemen- tal Material — Myths Versus Facts — Biblical References. Includes bibliographical references and index. 1. Amish—United States—Social life and customs. 2. Peace—Religious aspects—Amish. 3. Amish—Doctrines. I. Title. E184.M45C53 2013 289.7'73—dc23 2013000683 All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval sys- tem, or transmitted in any form or by any means—electronic, mechanical, digital, photocopy, recording, or any other—except for brief quotations in printed reviews, without the prior per- mission of the publisher. Printed in the United States of America 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 / VP-JH / 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 Copyrighted material This book is dedicated to the Amish, with thanks for all they have taught me about the need for surrender, submission, separation, and simplicity in my own Christian walk. Copyrighted material ACKNOWLEDGMENTS My husband, John, for always, for everything. Our two daughters, Emily and Lauren, who never cease to amaze me with their kindness, generosity, and resourcefulness. My gifted editor and friend, Kim Moore, and all of the lovely folks at Harvest House Publishers, especially LaRae Weikert, Barb Sherrill, and Bob Hawkins Jr., who encouraged me to explore Amish life in new ways. Amy Starns, whose beautiful artwork graces the pages of this book. Stephanie Ciner, Dee Benjamin, Chip MacGregor, ChiLibris, and all the members of my online advisory group, Consensus. Everyone who helped facilitate my research into Amish life, including Erik Wesner, Dave Siegrist, and the Men- nonite Information Center in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. A portion of the proceeds from this book will be donated to Amish-related nonprofit organizations. Visit www. amishfaqs.com/behind.php for more information. Copyrighted material CONTENTS Foreword ............................... 7 How to Use This Book .....................11 Part One: FOundatiOn 1. Defining the Amish ...................... 15 2. Beliefs ................................ 19 3. Community ........................... 25 4. Separation .............................29 5. Nonresistance .......................... 33 6. Organization ........................... 35 7. Leadership ............................. 37 8. Worship .............................. 41 9. Rules ................................. 45 10. Shunning .............................49 11. History ............................... 53 12. Expansion ............................. 57 Part twO: LiFestyLe 13. Amish Life .............................63 14. Food .................................69 15. Health ................................73 16. Clothing and Grooming .................. 77 17. Language .............................. 83 18. Technology ............................ 87 19. Transportation .......................... 93 20. Occupations ........................... 97 21. Free Time, Vacations, and Entertainment ......99 Copyrighted material Part three: Passages 22. Childhood, Family, and Old Age ...........105 23. School ...............................109 24. Rumspringa ...........................113 25. Baptism ..............................117 26. Courtship and Marriage ................. 121 27. Death ................................125 Part FOur: Outside wOrLd 28. Us and Them ..........................129 29. Tourism and the Media .................. 131 30. Tragedy and Forgiveness .................137 31. Why Are They Amish? ................... 141 32. What Can The Amish Teach Us? ...........145 Part Five: suPPLementaL materiaL Biblical References for Amish Beliefs and Practices ........................ 151 Bibliography ..........................153 Resources .............................157 Index ................................159 Notes ................................173 Copyrighted material FOREWORD W hy are we so fascinated with the Amish? If we’re not marveling at their enchanting dress and simple lifestyle, we’re grappling with their unusual practices and austere ways. Our curiosity min- gles with admiration, confusion, and suspicion. Just who are these people? Why do they live this way? And why do we care so much? Without a doubt, the Amish ignite our curiosity. We buy Amish- made products, cook Amish recipes, and read Amish fiction. We take vacations to what we call “Amish country,” those Amish-heavy regions such as Lancaster County, Pennsylvania, and Holmes County, Ohio. While there, we look for glimpses of them from our cars and discreetly snap photographs from a distance. We wonder what it would be like to live without constant interruptions, the stresses of modern life, and the intrusions of technology. Once in a while, we think we might like to be one of them, to live as they do. Usually, those thoughts pass just as quickly as they come, for we know we couldn’t survive without television, without e-mail, with- out driving. We don’t really want to be one of them, and yet the allure remains. The Amish themselves don’t always understand our attrac- tion either, but in response a wise Amish man once issued the follow- ing challenge: If you admire our faith, strengthen yours. If you admire our sense of commitment, deepen yours. If you admire our community spirit, build one. If you admire the simple life, cut back. If you admire quality merchandise or land stewardship, then make quality. If you admire deep character and enduring values, live them. 7 Copyrighted material 8 Plain Answers About the Amish Life This popular saying is frequently posted on the walls of restau- rants and tourist attractions in Amish country. The first time I saw it, I understood why its message was so important. We can’t all be Amish, but in many ways, we would do well to follow their example. Unfortunately, that’s not always easy to do. Given the vast proliferation of Amish-related myths, inaccuracies, and outright fallacies that are out there—online, in print, in the movies, and more—it’s easy to misunderstand even the most basic facts about the Amish. The goal of this book is to clear up many of those mis- conceptions by providing accurate information about these people and the lives they lead. In these pages I have chosen to focus primarily on the largest and most well-known affiliation, the Old Order Amish. Practices vary, however, so in order to avoid definitive statements that do not hold true for all Amish affiliations, or even for all Old Order dis- tricts, I use words such as “usually” and “most” and “many” when- ever describing Amish life and regulations. Finally, though the Amish have terms to describe those who are not Amish—such as “English” or “fancy”—I will most often use “non-Amish” and “outsider.” These seem appropriate because this guide is looking in on Amish life from the outside rather than the other way around. Living near Lancaster County myself, I have developed great respect for the Amish over the years. Though I could never live as they do, I understand why it works for them. I do not see them through rose-colored glasses, nor do I pass judgment on their more incompre- hensible regulations. The subject is so complex, in fact, that for this book I have chosen simply to observe, question, read, study, watch, interview, and report. This process has confirmed to me that while the Amish themselves are “just people” like the rest of us, their way of life is utterly foreign to our own, the choices they make are unique, and their ways are genuinely worthy of study. As you read and use this book, I hope you will gain a deeper understanding of the Amish faith, life, and values, and that this will Copyrighted material Foreword 9 help you to form your own opinions about why you find them so intriguing. Most of all, my prayer is that you will use this new knowl- edge to enhance your own faith. Thus, may we all be “iron sharpen- ing iron”—Amish, author, and reader—helping one another to grow through a new perspective. Enjoy! Copyrighted material Copyrighted material