2 3 T O C ABLE F ONTENTS Introduction: The Asian Dating Revolution Chapter One: The Yellow Fever Curse (or Why White Men Are So Successful) Chapter Two:Hacking Online Dating (or How Asian Men Can Beat the Odds) Opener #1 – The Simple Opener – “Hi, I’m _____!” Opener #2 – The Direct Opener Opener #3 – The Indirect Opener Opener #4 – The “I’m Going to Be In Town” Opener #5 – The “Let’s Go On a Date” Opener #6 – Talking About Her Profile Opener #7 – Using Her Profile to Talk About You Opener #8 – Talking About You Opener #9 – Pickup Artist Copy & Paste Chapter Three: Test Profiles With Individual Response Rates (Or The Absolute Most Important Thing About Online Dating) Athletic (Hot) Asian Guy Profile Average Asian Guy Profile Nerdy Asian Guy Profile Athletic (Hot) White Guy Profile Average White Guy Profile Nerdy White Guy Profile Example Responses From Women 4 Chapter Four: Getting Her Number and Going On the Date (or Why You Must Never Ever EVER Break the 3-Message Rule!) Template for Coffee Date Sequence #1: Template for Dinner Date Sequence #2: Template for Direct Number Closing Sequence #3: More Examples Of Getting The Date: Chapter Five:Optimize Your Profile in Three Easy Steps (or Which Profile Picture Doubles Your Results?) OPTIMIZER TIP #1: The Profile As a Conversation Starter OPTIMIZER TIP #2: Sexy or Interesting Profile Pics? OPTIMIZER TIP #3: Go After Girls Who Go After YOU! Chapter Six: The 4 Hour Girlfriend (or Seven Steps for Seven Days of Non-Stop Dates) Chapter Seven: The Push Button Girlfriend (or How To Automate Your Love Life) Chapter Eight: Beyond the Bedroom FREE EBOOKS: Tinder And Instagram Bonus Offer About the Authors Appendix 5 I : T A D R NTRODUCTION HE SIAN ATING EVOLUTION I have completely revolutionized online dating for Asian men. I know what you’re thinking right now: “Grandiose claims, oh JT Tran. Online dating just doesn’t work for Asian men. We all know that the statistics for interracial online dating for Asian men is horrible.” But what you hold in your hands right now is the purified distillation of hundreds of man hours of accumulated research that my team and I at the ABCs Of Attraction have embarked upon. We even solved Tinder and Instagram and came up with formulas for both dating and social media platforms to double your social life! You’ll be able to download and receive those complimentary books for free here (Check out the Bonus Chapter for more details on receiving your free books). This book that you hold in your hands tackles traditional dating websites like OKCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony. We spent countless hours toiling and painstakingly crafted a dozen perfected profiles and sent over 3000 messages to solve this problem. Let me repeat that… WE TESTED OVER 3000 MESSAGES! This isn’t just a book you’re holding or a simple dating product, it’s a science experiment by a pair of dedicated, passionate (some might even call mad) social scientists: yours truly, JT Tran the Asian Dating Coach, and wing-woman extraordinaire, Alice Zindagi. It is rigorous research writ large so normal Asian guys like you and I can finally find a solution to our dating dilemma. It is a social HACK on high octane steroids that completely circumvents normal societal conditioning and instead turns it around so YOU can reap the rewards instead of sitting back and growing bitter at how “unfair” online dating is. 6 I’m not here to pitch you sleazy pickup lines and online gimmicks. What I’m going to present to you throughout this entire book are the empirical findings that we discovered after testing 9 different types of openers, a dozen profiles and over 3000 messages. And what you are going to discover will shock you as some of the results we discovered are completely counter-intuitive to Asian men. For example, take a look at these three profile pictures of me: Two of these pictures got a 20% response rate from women. Only one of the above profile pictures got 40% of women to respond to me. (And it isn’t the one that you think) Almost HALF of all women I contacted online for a date replied back to me because of this one particular profile picture. Before I discovered this special type of profile picture, I had ruthlessly culled, curated and tested a batch of over 60 other pictures of me to find the one that gave me the best, most optimized, and most efficient results. We even controlled for the type of opener we used and this optimized picture didn’t just outperform the others, IT DOUBLED MY RESULTS. So which one of the three profile pictures is the “40%” you think? Go ahead, guess. Email Alice Zindagi at [email protected] with your guess. She’ll be tickled pink with your answer (she might even do a graph of everyone’s results and who guessed right or wrong). You’ll get a chance to win a drawing and receive a free prize! The actual answer will surprise you because it’s completely counter-intuitive and NOT what you think. Because it ISN’T the picture that you’re thinking of right now. I guarantee your first 7 choice will be WRONG. I guarantee it. (Skip to Chapter 5 and check out my three Optimizer Tips if you want the answer) But the sciences (and our results) don’t lie. This is just one of the examples of applied psychology that you can replicate instantly which solves the dilemma that Asian men like me have been struggling with: “How do you make online dating work for Asian men?” You’ve seen sites like OK Cupid and eHarmony explode in popularity in the past decade. You’ve seen your friends and colleagues meet some incredible girls without ever having to scour the bars and clubs. You’ve watched online dating quickly become one of the easiest and best ways for a busy man to bring women into his life. But for some reason getting women just doesn’t work the same way for you, and you’re skeptical about getting into online dating. Do you really want to waste your time and energy on something that’s not going to work? Here’s a little secret: you are 100% right to be skeptical. Let’s cut to the chase, stop being politically correct, and admit to the honest truth: online dating just does not work the same way for Asian men as it does for men of other races. It just doesn’t. And here’s another little secret: using the strategies I’m about to tell you can actually help you TRUMP race-consciousness. Intrigued? Let’s back up a moment. In several studies conducted by OK Cupid and other outside sources, it’s been demonstrated that the two most favored race and gender combinations for online dating are white males and Asian 8 females; white males and Asian females get more responses than others, and Asian females receive more initial messages as seen below in OKCupid’s study: If you’re reading this, you’re neither white nor female. So what do those statistics mean for you? Compared to white men receiving a 29.2% response rate, Asian men received 22.2%. Ouch. What’s even worse is that experiments run by people outside of OK Cupid staff have shown those reply rates to actually be even lower (I’ll bust that statistic for you in a moment). That’s right, as bad as the OK Cupid statistics are, they’re actually being very generous. Many Asian men will go weeks without receiving a single reply. (When we get to our Gameplan chapter, we’ll show you how you can get as many as THREE dates EVERY day!) I’m not done yet. Professors in Chicago recently conducted a study on speed daters that concluded an Asian man needs to earn $247,000 more than a white man in order to have equal success with white women. DOUBLE OUCH. By this point, you’re probably wondering why you even purchased this product and you’re 9 probably questioning whether it can help you as an Asian man better your online game. But what would you say if I told you that it’s possible for Asian men to drastically increase their response rates on dating websites? What if I told you that by tweaking your approach and discovering the sweet spot that works best for you, you can almost entirely eliminate the difference between your response rates and Joe Smith, WITHOUT you having to look like an Asian pop star to do it? I know it sounds crazy, but it’s true. Over the past year, my team and I have been carefully studying what it means to date online as an Asian man, and after running several highly intensive experiments, we’ve figured out how to close that gap and maximize responses. What’s more, we’ve had no trouble getting phone numbers and have entirely eliminated that hated phrase “I’m sorry, I don’t date Asians.” And it was SUPER easy. Intrigued? Then check out the next section for a little insight into why you need to stop thinking about race and start thinking about ladies. 10