ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page i Life’s Missing Instruction Manual (cid:2) The Guidebook You Should Have Been Given at Birth JOE VITALE John Wiley & Sons, Inc. ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page iv ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page a Praise for LLiiffee’’ss MMiissssiinngg IInnssttrruuccttiioonn MMaannuuaall “In a world of confusion and stress, it’s a relief and a joy to have this book to read and give to family and friends.” —Jack Canfield, co-creator, #1New York Times best-selling Chicken Soup for the Soul®series; author, The Success Principles™ “Every man, woman, and child ought to study this book like a sci- entist. Every high school, college, and graduate school ought to in- clude it in their curriculum. Joe Vitale reveals and reminds us of the wisdom it takes to be happy, healthy, and wealthy. “I couldn’t put this book down.” —Steve Siebold, author, 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class “Brilliant, simple and profound. If we could all absorb and live by just one of these lessons every day, our lives would truly be abun- dant. As I read, I realized I needed about 50 copies to give to the people I love and care about. This is truly a unique work of art from the spirit of a beautiful man. Life’s Missing Instruction Manual will make you think, feel, and be more curious than ever about what you can create for your life and for those you love.” —Wendi Friesen, CEO and founder, www.Wendi.com “Joe Vitale opens the wisdom of the ages to all who will read the pages of this winsome, precious gem of a book. The missing man- ual may be the only self-help book anyone really needs, if they would simply heed it. What a gift to the world it is!” —Marcus L. Gitterle, MD, wellness consultant, nutraceutical designer “This is a fabulous book! I suggest you buy multiple copies so you can give them to your friends. They will appreciate it.” —Cindy Cashman, million-selling author ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page b “Wow! This book is the simplest, clearest explanation of how to live life to the fullest that I have ever come across, and having co- founded HealthyWealthynWise.com, I’ve seen hundreds! Joe is right, they should pass this book out to everyone just after birth. Snip! The cord gets cut and they hand you your own copy!” —Ric Thompson, HealthyWealthynWise.com “This new book by Dr. Joe Vitale is ripe with wisdom that will nourish and enrich the mind and soul of any who choose to feast on its words. It is an essential book for every person to guide them through life.” —Dr. Rick Barrett, author, Dare to Break through the Pain, www.healedbymorning.com “This is the volume that should have come tucked under the pillow in your bassinet—words of wisdom about life, and yes, about busi- ness, too. Once again, Joe Vitale speaks directly to those of us who seek success through spirituality.” —Jillian Coleman Wheeler, www.GrantMeRich.com “This book is so good I’m reading it to my sons and they love it, too. It’s a lifetime of wisdom delivered in quick, easy-to-digest lessons everyone really should have at birth.” —Craig Perrine, www.MaverickMarketer.com “Joe did it again! He delivers the secrets to living a healthier happier life in easy-to-read nuggets of wisdom and parables. The perfect gift book for you and everyone else who wants a better life.” —Nerissa Oden, http://TheVideoQueen.com ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page i Life’s Missing Instruction Manual (cid:2) The Guidebook You Should Have Been Given at Birth JOE VITALE John Wiley & Sons, Inc. ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page ii Copyright © 2006 by Hypnotic Marketing, Inc. All rights reserved. Published by John Wiley & Sons, Inc., Hoboken, New Jersey. Published simultaneously in Canada. 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HQ2037.V58 2006 158—dc22 2005026007 Printed in the United States of America. 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page iii (cid:2) “Honor all life.” BENU ffirs.qxd 12/28/05 10:31 AM Page iv ftoc.qxd 12/28/05 10:33 AM Page v C(cid:2)ontents FOREWORD Gay Hendricks, Ph.D. xiii ACKNOWLEDGMENTS xv Introduction: How to Use This Manual Introduction 3 You: Congratulations on Your Life Your Point of Power Is Now 7 “I Wish I Had Learned...” ~ Jim Edwards 9 You Can Be Happy Now 9 Life Doesn’t Have to Be Hard 10 You Are Behind Your Eyes 10 Your Feelings Are Hidden Thoughts 11 Everything Is Energy Directed by Your Thoughts 12 You Can’t Stop Your Thoughts but You Don’t Have to Listen to Them, Either 12 Everything Is a Projection from Inside You 13 Your Nature Is Your Current Act 14 How to Know What You Want 14 You Get More of Whatever You Focus on 15 Whatever You Say after “I Am” Defines Who You Become 15 v ftoc.qxd 12/28/05 10:33 AM Page vi vi CONTENTS What You Love or What You Hate Will Be Drawn to You 16 Your Body Requires No Assembly 16 Great Hair, Great Day 16 Your Memory Will Never Be Accurate 17 Love 17 Sex 18 Food 18 Exercise 18 Three Life Lessons I Wish I Had Learned Earlier ~ Dr. Paul Hartunian 19 Internal Capabilities: Understanding Your Life’s Potential Anything Is Possible 23 You Create Your Future with a Pen 23 Achieving Your Goals Is Easy 24 Your Mind Operates under Its Own Conception 24 How to Feel Better in One Minute 25 A Smile Is Universally Understood 25 Exercise: Laugh Like a Child with Milk Coming Out Your Nose 26 Your Language Can Create Attractors 26 Behind Every Behavior Is a Belief 27 Reclaim Your Self-Esteem: Transform Your Self-Talk from Negative to Positive ~ Dr. Joe Rubino 27 Three Secrets to Manage Your Time 33 Naps Are Good 34 Letting Go of Your Fears ~ Cindy Cashman 34 How to Break Through the Hidden Obstacle Holding You Back from What You Truly Want ~ Craig Perrine 38 Who You See Is Who You Will Be... ~ Kevin Hogan 42