THE LANGUAGE OF WINNICOTT D. W. Winnicott THE LANGUAGE OF WINNICOTT A Dictionary of Winnicott’s Use of Words SECOND EDITION Jan Abram Bibliography compiled by Knud Hjulmand KARNAC First published in 1996 by Karnac Books 118 Finchley Road London NW3 5HT This second edition published in 2007 Copyright © 1996, 2007 by Jan Abram Bibliography copyright © 2007 by Knud Hjulmand The rights of Jan Abram to be identified as the author of this work have been asserted in accordance with §§ 77 and 78 of the Copyright Design and Patents Act 1988. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior written permission of the publisher. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data A C.I.P. for this book is available from the British Library ISBN: 978-1-85575-502-4 Edited, designed, and produced by Communication Crafts Printed in Great Britain www.karnacbooks.com Copyright acknowledgements Excerpts: From D. W. Winnicott, Through Paediatrics to Psycho-Analysis. Copyright © 1958 by The Winnicott Trust. Reprinted by permission of The Random House Group Ltd (Chatto & Windus, the publishers) and the Estate of D.W. Winnicott. From D. W. Winnicott, The Child, the Family and the Outside World. © 1964, 1957 the Estate of D. W. Winnicott. Reprinted by permission of Tavistock Publications. From D. W. Winnicott, The Family and Individual Development. Copyright © 1965 by The Winnicott Trust. Reprinted by permission of Tavistock Publications. From D. W. Winnicott, The Maturational Processes and the Facilitating Environment. Copyright © 1965 by The Winnicott Trust. Reprinted by permission of The Random House Group Ltd (Chatto & Windus, the publishers) and Paterson Marsh Ltd on behalf of the Winnicott Trust. From D. W. Winnicott, Playing and Reality. Copyright © 1971 by The Winnicott Trust. Reprinted by permission of Tavistock Publications. From D. W. Winnicott, Therapeutic Consultations in Child Psychiatry. Copyright © 1971 by The Executors of the Estate of D.W. Winnicott. Reprinted by permission of The Ran- dom House Group Ltd (Chatto & Windus, the publishers) and the Estate of D.W. Winnicott. From D. W. Winnicott, Deprivation and Delinquency. Copyright © 1984 by The Winnicott Trust. Reprinted by permission of Tavistock Publications. From D. W. Winnicott, Home Is Where We Start From. Copyright © 1986 by the Estate of D.W. Winnicott. Reproduced by permission of Mark Paterson and Associates on behalf of The Winnicott Trust, London, and W. W. Norton & Company. From D. W. Winn- icott, Babies & Their Mothers. © 1987 The Winnicott Trust by arrangement with Mark Paterson. Reproduced by permission of Free Association Books Ltd. and the Win- nicott Trust. From D. W. Winnicott, Human Nature. © 1988 The Winnicott Trust by arrangement with Mark Paterson. Reproduced by permission of Free Association Books Ltd. and the Winnicott Trust. From D. W. Winnicott, Psycho-Analytic Explora- tions, edited by Clare Winnicott, Ray Shepherd, and Madeleine Davis. Copyright © 1989 by the Winnicott Trust. All excerpts have been reproduced by permission of Mark Paterson and Associates on behalf of The Winnicott Trust, London. For John For Tamsin, Zak, and Ben For Amy, Max, and Chloe with all my love CONTENTS ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS Xvii ABOUT THE AUTHOR AND THE BIBLIOGRAPHER xxi PREFACE xxiii FOREWORD TO SECOND EDITION by Thomas H. Ogden xxv FOREWORD TO FIRST EDITION by Jonathan Pedder xxvii Introduction 1 AGGRESSION 15 1 The concept of aggression in psychoanalysis 16 2 Primary aggression 18 3 The baby’s ruthlessness 21 4 The analyst’s aroused hatred 22 5 The evolution of aggression in the developing child 23 6 The task of fusion 26 7 The need for opposition and the reality of the external object 28 8 Ruthless love 30 9 Tolerance of destructiveness leading to concern 31 ix