How to be a Pickup Artist Final release A Practical Guide 2nd edition by Wayne Elise (Juggler) on the web at www.charismasciences.com © 2005 Wayne Elise and Charisma Sciences, LLC Important Information: A lot of time has gone into this book. This material is protected by U.S. and international copyright laws. We regularly do searches on websites and file sharing networks. It is illegal to copy this material, to redistribute it, or to create derivate works. Any violations will be subject to full penalties under applicable laws. All information contained in this book is for entertainment purposes only, and none of it is considered legal or personal advice. By reading further, you agree to indemnify Charisma Sciences, LLC from any and all consequences that may result from your interpretation of the material. Table of Contents CHAPTER 1: SHOULD YOU BECOME A PUA? 1 CHAPTER 2: YOUR INITIAL VIBE 4 CHAPTER 3: HAVE A TWO-WAY INTERACTION 7 CHAPTER 4: FOCUS HER 10 CHAPTER 5: GENUINE INTEREST VERSUS DESPERATE INTEREST 15 CHAPTER 6: TRANSITIONING TO THE PERSONAL 34 CHAPTER 7: ANTICIPATION AND FLOPPSY 35 CHAPTER 8: A CANDID CONVERSATION ABOUT BEING SEXUAL 38 CHAPTER 9: A CANDID CONVERSATION ABOUT APPROACH ANXIETY 51 CHAPTER 10: HAVE A STRONG PRESENCE 55 CHAPTER 11: ALPHA SUGGESTIONS 59 CHAPTER 12: GET YOUR STYLE TOGETHER 62 CHAPTER 13: YOUR FIRST INSTINCT 65 CHAPTER 14: GIVE AWAY YOUR LOVE 67 CHAPTER 15: MINI GUIDE TO HOT WOMEN 70 CHAPTER 16: THE BOOK STORE 75 CHAPTER 17: A HOUSE PARTY 85 CHAPTER 18: THE NIGHT CLUB 94 CHAPTER 19: AN AIRPLANE 101 CHAPTER 20: AT THE STORE 108 CHAPTER 21: THE TALE OF DISQUALIFICATION 114 CHAPTER 22: THE DANCER 118 CHAPTER 23: AT THE COFFEE SHOP 121 Acknowledgments I could not have written this book without the prodding of people who had expectations for me. John Henson is an amazingly effective person and the best business manager in the world. I am lucky to have him when he could be off running IBM or something. My girlfriend has been very supportive. Yes, pick up artists sometimes sneak in girlfriends. I am very glad I picked her up. (Or was it her who picked me up? We debate that all the time.) My ex-girlfriends, girls who dumped me, clients and friends all probably never thought they would help write a book on picking-up women but each has helped in their own way. Reading this book they may recognize parts of themselves. Also special thanks to a couple of cool guys. Josh for his Zen-like influence and Neil for believing in my writing. But the biggest thanks goes to you who has purchased this book. Thank you. Wayne Foreword By John Henson, co-founder, Charisma Sciences “Are you a Juggler too?” he asked I pondered how to answer this question. I had just arrived at a group get-together where I would be meeting Wayne Elise, famous pick-up artist. A friend suggested I come to this dinner outing. My assumption was that this was a group of aspiring ladies men, waiting to meet the master. “Well,” I responded, “I’m decent, but I definitely have some sticking points. More than anything else, I’m here to meet Wayne. I’ve heard a lot about him, and someone else here thinks we’d get along well.” “Oh yeah, he’s gr gr gr grr great,” stuttered my new, rather portly acquaintance. Skilled pickup artist come in all shapes and sizes, I thought. He continued… “But he mostly juggles balls. I like clubs. Thoseare the things that look like bowling pins.” Ohhhhhhhh. That kind of juggler. And minutes later, I met Juggler. The Juggler. This was the guy whose writings inspired thousands of men, and indirectly influenced many more. It was fitting that he should chose to meet me not in the role of the legendary pickup artist, but as an ordinary guy who likes to juggle. This fits his style. He is interested in substance over flash and genuineness before pretension. This was my first lesson. As months went on and we began to spend more time together, his wisdom began to change me. I dropped many longstanding beliefs and adopted others. My clever lines became irrelevant and I stopped mentioning my ‘stuff’. My needy arrogance became checked by a genuine desire to learn about the women I met. The defensiveness that I used as a social shield was replaced with a strong, friendly openness. And my loneliness was replaced by a relationship with an amazing woman who lays beside me as I write this. I have had the benefit of working with Wayne and all of our amazing instructors here at CSI. Seeing how these guys interact with the world has continued to inspire me. I hope we get a chance to meet you and help you as well some day. In the meantime, here we have it – a collection of Wayne’s thoughts on men and women and what makes the two come together. I’ve been reading through it for weeks, I am still able to find something new every time I go through it. Much of the book is written as a dialogue between two potential lovers, punctuated with insights into the interactions. You will never find yourself in the same conversation twice, and while you are welcome to use the words verbatim, you will find it works best when you internalize the principals behind the words. That way you will be able to respond to what is given to you, and use her energy – good or bad – to direct the conversation towards building an enjoyable, intimate interaction. Meditate on these principals. But don’t try to put everything into practice at once – try one thing one night and something else the next day. When it clicks, you will know it. Most importantly, continue to learn, improvise and develop your own personality. There is no way to cover every situation or every outcome in this material, but with enough experience, you will handle women, cold and sweet alike, with confidence. And for more advice and inspiration head over to our website at www.charismasciences.com. There, you can find more of our materials, listen to our Podcasts and even sign up for a workshop. All the best on your journey, JH A Letter to the Reader Dear friend, This book is written in an unconventional manner. It is designed to help you in multiple ways. There are tips and suggestions to assist you in your interactions with women, but this book was also created to work on your attitude and put you in the first-person shoes of a pick up artist so you can learn within context. I have applied layers here. This is not a book to read only once. Keep it on your computer, and re-read the samples from time to time. Do this especially before you go out to meet women. The samples are a culmination of situations and people who I have experienced while pursuing the art of connection with women. Except for Elvis, resemblance to any person living or dead is purely coincidence. Thanks and have a good read, Wayne Elise (Juggler) Note... You do not need to live up to the samples. In general they are abbreviated for the sake of focusing on key points. Your interactions with women may take longer to develop and will have their own unique flavor. Bon Appetite. Chapter 1: Should you become a PUA? Congratulations, you are about to embark upon a great adventure. As a fully credentialed PUA, your calendar will become full of women: Swimsuit model Sunday, MILF Monday, Two for Tuesday and so on. Your friends will be jealous and you will revel in your hypnotic power over women. Okay, really the best thing about learning 'game' is that you will be able to meet women who rock your boat the right way. You will have more options and this freedom will help you find inner peace. You will influence others to live happier lives and the world will become a better place. If there were more pick up artists, there would be an end to war, dogs would make peace with cats and Ben Affleck would stop making movies. Every man, woman and Canadian should become a pick-up artist. The requirements to become a pick up artist... I was all of twenty-two-years old when I lost my virginity. I was grateful to finally experience what all the hype was about, but she was a forty-year-old woman who seduced me with her experience, charm and mood lighting. Deep down I wanted to be the one to seduce. I wouldn't be content until I had the ultimate power of seduction. I imagined leading the life of a ladies man. I would have many lovers. I would wear a silk robe and smoke a pipe. But after visiting the trashy bars around the town I lived in then, I realized on a scale of 1 to 10 that I was starting at negative one million. Attractive women rattled me, I was afraid of talking to strangers and my overly sensitive ego was a constant drag. I had no 'game' to keep up with my imagination. I couldn’t even score with trashy girls or even the girls they called trashy. I was so bad that just being seen with me could ruin a guy’s chances. I was dubbed the Destroyer. I’m now 36 years old and feel as if I'm finally starting to understand the whole thing. So if my rickety math skills are 2 correct, it takes fourteen years of working on your game to become a pick-up artist. If you are over fifty years old, you may want to reconsider this quest. You could die before hitting pay dirt. I'm kidding, of course. You have a big chunk of my wisdom in front of you that will flatten your learning curve. I've fallen in pitfalls, chased mirages and been sat on by fat chicks, so you don't have to. But as you know, reading about something can only set you upon a path to doing it yourself. You have to splash around and get wet in 'the field' to truly understand and become a PUA. You will have to go out and look stupid and fail and hopefully you will laugh at yourself and not take the process too seriously. Practice regularly and you will begin to get good in a few months. Fulfilling your destiny also means sacrifice. You will not be taking the typical path. Your parents, friends, and cat may not understand. They may think you selfish and foolish for making the decisions you will have to make. That's life. Follow your dreams and get comfortable with being misunderstood. You will also need to become accustomed to the idea of being alone. Picking up women is a form of negotiation. As in any negotiation, if you maintain the freedom to walk away you are more likely to get what you want. Find a cool hobby you can pursue by yourself. (Masturbation doesn't count) It also takes honesty. You probably didn't expect to see that word in a book on picking up women. Surprise. A true pick-up artist is not a player. While a player schemes and hides and sneaks around to get in an extra bit on his girlfriend or wife, the pick-up artist has neither the inkling nor time to do that. He seeks to be straight with the women who are involved with him. He has contempt for dishonesty and considers the player an unskilled opportunist. Although there are many important tenets of being a pick-up artist, the one that seems to pervade nearly all of what we