Islam: Questions And Answers Volume 18 Manners (Part 2) i ii Islam: Questions And Answers Volume 18 Manners (Part 2) Muhammad Saed Abdul-Rahman B.Sc., DipHE iii © Muhammad Saed Abdul-Rahman, 2003 ISBN for all volumes 1 86179 080 5 ISBN for volume 18 paperback 1 86179 341 3 ISBN for volume 18 hardback 1 86179 342 1 ISBN for volume 18 pdf eBook 1 86179 343 X ISBN for volume 18 Microsoft eBook 1 86179 344 8 ISBN for volume 18 Palm eBook 1 86179 345 6 All Rights reserved British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data. A Catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library Designed, Typeset and produced by: MSA Publication Limited, 4 Bello Close, Herne Hill, London SE24 9BW United Kingdom iv Contents Introduction ..............................................................................1 Chapter 1...................................................................................3 Relationships between the two genders...............................3 49024: He wants to look at women in the street with the intention of proposing marriage........................3 36741: Children who have reached the age of ten must be separated in their beds .......................................5 45883: He is studying in a mixed university; how should he deal with female teachers and students?..........................................................................6 45668: Is what he did to find out about his fiancée correct? .............................................................10 40618: Can she uncover her face in front of her sister’s husband? .....................................................12 36548: What is the relationship of a woman to the man who has divorced her?.....................................14 27329: She has repented from an illicit relationship but she wants to contact him in order to get married to him............................................15 39931: He has repented from a relationship with a non-mahram woman but he still loves her and feels attached to her..........................................18 20949: Friendship and love between a man and a woman........................................................................20 43104: It is not permissible to shake hands with a non-mahram woman, even from behind a barrier .........................................................................23 22101: He married her in order to forget his ex-fiancée; and the ruling on correspondence between the sexes..........................................................25 34841: Men and women talking in chat rooms.............27 26744: Marrying a woman who is not chaste ...............29 27304: Ruling on talking to women at work.................32 26890: Correspondence between the sexes...................35 v 27109: He has repented from a relationship with a woman over the internet................................................36 34685 It is not permissible for a seller to touch the hand of a woman who is buying from him..............40 12710: Woman smiling at a non-mahram man .............41 33702: He fell in love with a girl then he repented. Can he be friends with her?...........................................41 12832: Looking at a young female doctor who is teaching him ..............................................................44 20784: Dangers of mixing with male cousins and relatives ..................................................................45 20460: Female doctor treating men...............................47 38153: Shaking hands with women in Ramadaan ........49 8827: A mixed school is haraam according to sharee’ah .......................................................................51 14508: Ruling on shaking hands with an old woman...........................................................................56 6398: She wants to marry a person she loves but her family are refusing to let her.............................57 22003: His son got to know a girl through chat rooms, and he wants to marry her..........................59 21934: She likes our website and wants to help her friend to find a job! .................................................62 30791: Prohibition on shaking hands with paternal uncle’s wife even if she is old .........................64 11971: He is in love with a Christian woman at the expense of his wife..............................................66 1105: Does Islam regard men and women as equal?........................................................................70 2459: Ruling on shaking hands with the opposite sex...................................................................80 12663: Ruling on a man kissing or hugging a woman on the grounds of friendship..........................82 21608: Ruling on male student shaking hands with a female classmate ................................................84 14044: Is a woman sinning if she shakes hands with a man?...................................................................86 vi 26304: Is a woman’s voice ‘awrah?..............................87 10156: He feels that something is discharged when he talks to women................................................88 13804: A reply to a Christian who denies that the Quran was revealed from Allah...............................89 10254: She is attracted to a young man at school and wants a solution ........................................100 9280: Rulings concerning women riding with drivers and without a mahram.....................................102 3807: Pre-marital relationships are not permissible ..................................................................103 1114: Ruling on taking boyfriends or girlfriends........105 2013: How to give classes to a mixed group of (teenage) boys and girls ..........................................109 1774: First and second glance at women ....................110 Chapter 2...............................................................................113 Manners of Speaking With Women.................................113 45668: Is what he did to find out about his fiancée correct? ...........................................................113 1497: Manners when talking to women......................115 13791: He wants to talk to a woman before he proposes marriage to her ........................................117 13819: Ruling on looking at a female employee for work purposes........................................................120 12608: An example of the dangers of internet chat between the sexes................................................121 13004: Warning and comment on the Peking Women’s Conference ..................................................123 6118: He is being taught by a female teacher – what should he do?......................................125 7576: Muslim women giving talks in gatherings where non-mahram men are present ...........................126 12085: He speaks improperly with a woman, with the excuse that he is teaching her........................127 3396: He wants to talk to a girl without saying anything improper............................................129 10221: What is the ruling on girls corresponding vii with boys? ...................................................................130 6453: Men and women talking to one another on the internet within the limits of good manners............132 1121: Limits and conditions within which a man may speak to a non-mahram woman...................135 2105: Contact with a fiancée via the Internet..............138 Chapter 3...............................................................................139 Etiquette of Dreams .........................................................139 14096: Seeing Allaah in a dream ................................139 14052: He wants to see the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in a dream....................................................................142 23367: Seeing the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in a dream..............................144 14276: Can a sleeper be aware that he is dreaming?....................................................................147 25768: Dreams ............................................................150 11731: She sees disturbing dreams, and she imagined having intercourse in her sleep....................156 6537: Dreams and dream interpretation......................157 9771: He dreams about a dead relative chasing him .................................................................164 Chapter 4...............................................................................165 Reading Quraan ...............................................................165 34494: Playing a recording of Qur’aan when putting someone on hold.............................................165 20620: Reciting Qur’aan in the bathroom...................166 2564: Reading Qur’aan during menses.......................168 26285: He was listening to the Qur’aan when the phone rang.............................................................172 26327: Completing the Qur’aan in Ramadaan............172 1377: Meaning of taghanni (‘reciting in a melodious voice’) in Qur’aan recitation .....................175 10119: Saying “Sadaqa Allaah al-‘Azeem” ................180 9330: Ruling on reciting the Qur’aan in the manner of singers........................................................183 7966: How to memorize the Holy Qur’aan.................183 viii 1080: Appointing someone to supervise each halaqah in order to correct mistakes............................188 4041: Ruling on gathering to recite the Du’aa’ for completing the Qur’aan.........................................189 Chapter 5...............................................................................191 Etiquette of Hospitality....................................................191 34851: Ruling on students standing up for the teacher .........................................................................191 34497: Ruling on standing up for who comes in, and kissing him ......................................................192 13776: Ruling on standing up to welcome a newcomer....................................................................198 14578: When a person enters upon other people, does he greet the oldest first or the youngest? ............200 Chapter 6...............................................................................201 Adaab al-Safar (Etiquette of Travel)................................201 34464: Visiting the Prophet’s Mosque........................201 Chapter 7...............................................................................205 Etiquette of Marriage.......................................................205 12529: Is it permissible to engage in coitus interruptus or to use a condom?..................................205 5560: Etiquette of intimate relations...........................206 13518: Younger brother getting married before older brother................................................................214 11446: How should an Islamic wedding party be? .....216 8866: Is it makrooh to have intercourse facing the direction of the qiblah?..........................................218 7838: Her husband forces her to have intercourse during menstruation ....................................................219 1696: What should a man say when he enters upon his bride?............................................................221 854: What should a Muslim do when he wants to consummate his marriage?......................................222 2375: When should one pray two rak’ahs with one’s bride? .................................................................225 1202: What is Said Just Prior to Intercourse...............226 1103: Ruling on Intercourse with a Woman in ix