GRIEF AND ITS TRANSCENDENCE Grief and its Transcendence: Memory, Identity, Creativity is a landmark contribution that provides fresh insights into the experience and process of mourning. It includes fourteen original essays by preeminent psychoanalysts, historians, classicists, theolo- gians, architects, art historians, and artists who take on the subject of normal, rather than pathological, mourning. In particular, it considers the diversity of the mourn- ing process; the bereavement of ordinary versus extraordinary loss; the contribution of mourning to personal and creative growth; and individual, social, and cultural means of transcending grief. The book is divided into three parts, each including two to four essays followed by one or two critical discussions. Coeditor Adele Tutter’s Prologue outlines the salient themes and tensions that emerge from the volume. Part I juxtaposes the consideration of grief in antiquity with an examination of the contemporary use of memorials to facilitate communal remembrance. Part II offers intimate first-person accounts of mourning from four renowned psychoanalysts who challenge long-held psychoanalytic formulations of mourning. Part III contains deeply personal essays that explore the use of sculpture, photography, and music to withstand, mourn, and transcend loss. Drawing on the humanistic wisdom that underlies psychoanalytic thought, coeditor Léon Wurmser’s Epilogue closes the volume. Grief and its Transcendence is required reading for psychoanalysts, psychotherapists, psychiatrists, and scholars within other disciplines who are interested in the topics of grief, bereavement, and creativity. Adele Tutter, M.D., Ph.D. is Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, Columbia University; and Faculty, the Columbia University Center for Psychoanalytic Train- ing and Research and the New York Psychoanalytic Institute. She is the author of Dream House: An Intimate Portrait of the Philip Johnson Glass House and editor of The Muse: Psychoanalytic Explorations of Creative Inspiration. Dr. Tutter is in private practice in Manhattan. Léon Wurmser, M.D., Ph.D. is Past Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, University of West Virginia, and Training and Supervising Analyst at the Contemporary Freudian Society. He has authored and coauthored many books on the theory and practice of psychoanalysis, including The Mask of Shame, Jealousy and Envy – New Views on Two Powerful Emotions, and Nothing Good Is Allowed to Stand. Dr. Wurmser lectures extensively in the USA and abroad. PSYCHOANALYTIC INQUIRY BOOK SERIES JOSEPH D. LICHTENBERG SERIES EDITOR Like its counterpart, Psychoanalytic Inquiry: A Topical Journal for Mental Health Pro- fessionals, the Psychoanalytic Inquiry Book Series presents a diversity of subjects within a diversity of approaches to those subjects. Under the editorship of Joseph Lichtenberg, in collaboration with Melvin Bornstein and the editorial board of Psychoanalytic Inquiry, the volumes in this series strike a balance between research, theory, and clinical application. We are honored to have published the works of various innovators in psychoanalysis, such as Frank Lachmann, James Fosshage, Robert Stolorow, Donna Orange, Louis Sander, Léon Wurmser, James Grotstein, Joseph Jones, Doris Brothers, Fredric Busch, and Joseph Lichtenberg, among others. The series includes books and monographs on mainline psychoanalytic topics, such as sexuality, narcissism, trauma, homosexuality, jealousy, envy, and varied aspects of analytic process and technique. In our efforts to broaden the field of analytic interest, the series has incorporated and embraced innovative discoveries in infant research, self-psychology, intersubjectivity, motivational systems, affects as process, responses to cancer, borderline states, contextualism, postmodernism, attachment research and theory, medication, and mentalization. As further investigations in psy- choanalysis come to fruition, we seek to present them in readable, easily compre- hensible writing. After 25 years, the core vision of this series remains the investigation, analysis, and discussion of developments on the cutting edge of the psychoanalytic field, inspired by a boundless spirit of inquiry. Vol. 2 Contextualism in Psychoanalytic Psychoanalysis and Infant Practice Research Donna M. Orange, Joseph D. Lichtenberg George E. Atwood, & Robert D. Stolorow Vol. 8 Psychoanalytic Treatment: Vol. 18 An Intersubjective Approach Kohut, Loewald, and the Postmoderns: Robert D. Stolorow, A Comparative Study of Self Bernard Brandchaft, & and Relationship George E. Atwood Judith Guss Teicholz Vol. 10 Vol. 19 Psychoanalysis and Motivation A Spirit of Inquiry: Joseph D. Lichtenberg Communication in Psychoanalysis Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Frank M. Vol. 12 Lachmann, & Contexts of Being: James L. Fosshage The Intersubjective Foundations of Psychological Life Vol. 20 Robert D. Stolorow & George Craft and Spirit: E. Atwood A Guide to Exploratory Psychotherapies Vol. 13 Joseph D. Lichtenberg Self and Motivational Systems: Vol. 21 Toward a Theory of Attachment and Sexuality Psychoanalytic Technique Diana Diamond, Sidney J. Blatt, & Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Frank M. Joseph D. Lichtenberg (eds.) Lachmann, & James L. Fosshage Vol. 22 Vol. 14 Psychotherapy and Medication: Affects as Process: The Challenge of Integration An Inquiry into the Centrality Fredric N. Busch & of Affect in Psychological Life Larry S. Sandberg Joseph M. Jones Vol. 23 Vol. 16 Trauma and Human Existence: The Clinical Exchange: Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, Techniques Derived from and Philosophical Reflections Self and Motivational Systems Robert D. Stolorow Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Frank M. Lachmann, & Vol. 24 James L. Fosshage Jealousy and Envy: New Views about Two Powerful Vol. 17 Feelings Working Intersubjectively: Léon Wurmser & Heidrun Jarass (eds.) Vol. 25 Vol. 31 Sensuality and Sexuality Toward an Emancipatory across the Divide of Shame Psychoanalysis: Joseph D. Lichtenberg Brandchaft’s Intersubjective Vision Bernard Brandchaft, Vol. 26 Shelley Doctors, & Living Systems, Evolving Dorienne Sorter Consciousness, and the Emerging Person: Vol. 32 A Selection of Papers Persons in Context: from the Life Work of Louis Sander The Challenge of Individuality Gherardo Amadei & in Theory and Practice Ilaria Bianchi (eds.) Roger Frie & William J. Coburn (eds.) Vol. 27 Vol. 33 Toward a Psychology of Uncertainty: Psychoanalysis and Motivational Trauma-Centered Psychoanalysis Systems: Doris Brothers A New Look Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Frank M. Vol. 28 Lachmann, & James L. Fosshage Transforming Narcissism: Reflections on Empathy, Humor, Vol. 34 and Expectations Change in Psychoanalysis: Frank M. Lachmann An Analyst’s Reflections on the Therapeutic Vol. 29 Relationship Mentalization: Chris Jaenicke Theoretical Considerations, Research Findings, Vol. 35 and Clinical Implications World, Affectivity, Trauma: Fredric N. Busch (ed.) Heidegger and Post-Cartesian Psychoanalysis Vol. 30 Robert D. Stolorow From Psychoanalytic Narrative to Empirical Single Case Research: Vol. 36 Implications for Psychoanalytic Manual of Panic Focused Practice Psychodynamic Horst Kächele, Joseph Schachter, Psychotherapy – eXtended Range Helmut Thomä & the Ulm Fredric N. Busch, Barbara L. Milrod, Psychoanalytic Meriamne B. Singer, & Andrew C. Process Research Study Group Aronson Vol. 37 Vol. 44 The Abyss of Madness The Search for a Relational Home: George E. Atwood An intersubjective view of therapeutic action Vol. 38 Chris Jaenicke Self Experiences in Group, Revisited: Vol. 45 Affective Attachments, Creative Analysis: Art, Creativity Intersubjective Regulations, and Clinical Process and Human Understanding George Hagman Irene Harwood, Walter Stone, Vol. 46 & Malcolm Pines (eds.) A Rumor of Empathy: Resistance, Vol. 39 narrative and Nothing Good Is Allowed to Stand: recovery in psychoanalysis and An Integrative View of the psychotherapy Negative Therapeutic Reaction Lou Agosta Léon Wurmser & Heidrun Vol. 47 Jarass (eds.) Enlivening the Self: The First Year, Vol. 40 Clinical Growth and Turbulence in the Enrichment, and the Wandering Mind Container/ Joseph D. Lichtenberg, James L. Contained: Bion’s Continuing Legacy Fosshage & Howard B. Levine & Lawrence J. Frank M. Lachmann Brown (eds.) Vol. 48 Vol. 41 Kohut’s Twinship Across Cultures: Metaphor and Fields: Common The psychology of being human Ground, Common Koichi Togashi and Amanda Kottler Language and the Future of Vol. 49 Psychoanalysis Psychoanalytic Theory, Research S. Montana Katz (ed.) and Clinical Vol. 42 Practice: Reading Joseph D. Lichtenberg Psychoanalytic Complexity: Clinical Linda Gunsberg & Sandra Attitudes G. Hershberg for Therapeutic Change William J. Coburn Vol. 43 Structures of Subjectivity: Explorations in Psychoanalytic Phenomenology and Contextualism, 2nd Edition George E. Atwood and Robert |D. Stolorow Out of Print titles in the PI Series Vol. 7 The Borderline Patient: Vol. 1 Emerging Concepts in Reflections on Self Psychology Diagnosis, Joseph D. Lichtenberg & Psychodynamics, and Treatment, Vol. 2 Samuel Kaplan (eds.) James S. Grotstein, Marion F. Solomon, & Joan A. Lang (eds.) Vol. 3 Empathy, Volumes I & II Vol. 9 Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Female Homosexuality: Choice without Melvin Bornstein, & Volition Donald Silver (eds.) Elaine V. Siegel Vol. 4 Vol. 11 Structures of Subjectivity: Cancer Stories: Creativity and Explorations in Psychoanalytic Self-Repair Phenomenology Esther Dreifuss-Kattan George E. Atwood & Vol. 15 Robert D. Stolorow Understanding Therapeutic Action: Vol. 5 Psychodynamic Concepts Toward a Comprehensive Model for of Cure Schizophrenic Disorders: Lawrence E. Lifson (ed.) Psychoanalytic Essays in Memory of Ping-Nie Pao David B. Feinsilver Vol. 6 The Borderline Patient: Emerging Concepts in Diagnosis, Psychodynamics, and Treatment, Vol. 1 James S. Grotstein, Marion F. Solomon, & Joan A. Lang (eds.) 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Trademark notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identification and explanation without intent to infringe. British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data A catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Grief and its transcendence : memory, identity, creativity / Adele Tutter and Léon Wurmser, editors. pages cm Includes bibliographical references. 1. Grief. 2. Bereavement. 3. Memory. 4. Memorialization. I. Tutter, Adele. II. Wurmser, Leon. BF575.G7G725 2016 155.9'37—dc23 2015011446 ISBN: 978-1-138-81286-4 (hbk) ISBN: 978-1-138-81287-1 (pbk) ISBN: 978-1-315-74853-5 (ebk) Typeset in Bembo by Apex CoVantage, LLC In memoriam: Robert Phillips (A.T.) To my children, grandchildren, and friends with love and admiration (L.W.)