A recent survey found that 40% of people choose to have Christmas dinner with friends rather than their relatives. Exploring the dynamics behind family gatherings, this study delves into the difficulties of the events that are supposed to be happy occasions full of love and warmth, but in reality can more often be nightmares. From the patterns and conversations that are repeated time after time to the expectations, resentments, and disappointments that are played out, solutions are provided to help identify these problem areas and the reasons they continue to be perpetuated. Techniques for establishing roles within the family, altering harmful patterns, and establishing boundaries—all of which are designed to change what happens when families meet—are also included. Most importantly, the study explores when the right option is to gracefully bow out. Filled with case studies, quizzes, and challenges, this is an essential book for anyone wanting to improve their family relations.