N A IGHT OF RAYER Let'shaveanightofprayer—whenweprayforon< lother—forallsistersofthe world. Prayforlittlegirlssexuallyabused,teenage questioningtheoldvalues,young motherswornbythegrindofmundanedailychore: areerwomenpressuredbyexpec- rsinghomes,MoslemwomenrapedbySerbs, Russianwomenstrippedofdreams, Indianwomenburned ipulated,crushedinspirit, lackingconfidence, needing teoflove :kingacceptance. Leteachofusstopforthirtyminutesonthelastdayofeachmonthtocontemplateour sistersoftheworld, toofferaprayer,thenmeditateonourloveforoneanother—letting itflowintotheuniverse. Surelyfromthisconcernmiraclesarepossible. Letustrust ourprayersandlovetohaveanimpactforgoodonsituationsthattooureyesand mindsoftimesseemhopeless. PrayertoourFatherinHeavenandloveareallpowerful. Takeapencilandmarkthelastdayofeachcalendarpage. Thisisthetime,oneevening amonth,thatyoucaninventyourownrite. Lightacandleandmeditateasitburns down. Gointothenightreachingyourhandstothestarsasyoushoutyourprayer. Sit outdoorsandmeditateasthesungoesdown. Sitatthepianoandplaymusicinhonor oftheunheardtalentsofyoursisters. Concentrateonsendingawarmglowofgolden lovetoencircletheglobe. Imagineyoubringtheenergyofthesun (rain,wind,stars) uponthewomenlivingthisnightuponthisearth. Yourthirtyminutescanbeassimple, orasrehearsedasyoudesire. Whatisimportantisthatyoudoit. EXPONENTn P.O.Box 128 BYU ISSUES LEFT: «- / MA -tment Arlington, h 02174-0002 " ftsrhtexornnydeaswbsionpuattphheeerprriaoncnTedhsset,hBeaonwsdtoomsnheeSnubnwedhcaoaymwGerlicotuberefiooMrua.sgaraezbaiodnu,et.aEnSxdhpeopnareonnddtuLcaIeIuarientldplbtaehyce.apmaSerot.t,oshohaedt £u™tldiik^r!?ad?tem^ M ^Suz'anone^isUasfreMe-lancejournalistwhocontributesfrequentlytoTheBostonGlobe \esTmesop_edpageSheisihea W ^ur^entfworkin oTaZ^"1^U'"'^°W" ndCom '"'"^"^ l ost visitors to '"'""isincludefeminism.politicalculZe^dYa^ fdwireriasttriwfnirgtiheanbLdoa.uutreWLlaeaurnaedplpt.rheeMcnoiwraitmteohtnthheewEoexxmtpeeonnn,seinavtendIpIrEbexoppaaorrnadetinSotunzIaIa.nnndeWhceaarsreebpertihcnaottmesbohatehftaoouofkahneidrn Salem's Essex Institute are drawn to displays of 19th- century parlors, canopy beds, Early American kitchens, paintings, or relics of Essex County's industrial past. But on this particular day, a curator escorts Laurel Thatcher Ulrich through one of the history museum's most HERSTORY prosaic exhibitions: a display of textiles THE IN that includes six MAKING faded cotton towels woven by a woman who lived in by SuzanneGordon Boston Globe Magazine January 31, 1993 Weare, New Hampshire, in the 19th century. A Dim,blondwoman,wearing kl pants,awhilecoiiontuitleneck withrelishoverthediscoveryofthealmostinvisible comfortablesh< junction. Stumblingontoanotherfind,shesays Ulrich'smajorobstaclev manipulatesas excitedly,"Lookatthepatching,"andholdsupa organizationandcataloguingofhistoricaldocuments: comerwhereawidehalf-ovalofanimperceptibly "Papersinhistoricalsocietieshav—ebeenorganizedthe miangg?n"ifDyiienhgisgtloarsisa,nUwlornidcehrpsl.aceTsakiiinogveurptahesmclaoltlh,btolack ddiafmfeargeentdpsaptotte.rn'wThaisscwaaresfuvlelryysdtiiftfcihcueldt-toIctownacseala nwaamyesal.liSnofoyromuathiaovneisthoergBaanritzoendfamuinldyerpampeerns',sand90 aasennaaarldcyjhzaeecseitntsthcrgoolmuapgsohssaciatssiheo.ena.f"ToThfhiepsnai,pseprriesvaloaltryirnargyaeriedn,optnloathceoa,pvesohfe agmaarzmienngt,bAsesocamifuesceoafuogfthhtweeiwanarayoshriwcdohdaemnnegndeeslcioignuhltt,dheUrilerhrafibicighluirteast.e"a yBaorutogno?'inaAnnddstahye,y"sDaoy,y'oNuo.h'avYeoua'nryethgionignagbtooutfiMnrds. thisordinarystuffactuallycatalogued,"shesays, confesses,"Iknowthisisstrange,butIlovetherough, thingsaboutFlorenceNightingale,butnotabout rweafsercroinmgpitloetdhebmyaanufsocrrmieprtcsuhreatiosrcoofnstuhletiEnsgs,exwhich etxheciitmepdearbfoeuctt.prLoidkuectt.heTshiollsyepaartechtehdeotnheisngI—gentorweally Aftertenyearsofpersistence,Ulricheventu- that'sreallyinteresting. There,inthattowel,isa allyfoundher"goodwives"andportrayedthe personsolvingaproblem." intricatechoreographyoftheirlivesandwork- ImpressedbyUlrich'sdevouon,Richteradds conjugal,familial,communal,a—ndreligious. In icfjbrK.i herownhistoricalcommentary. "Youknow99.9 depictingtheirtraditionalroles cookingandbaking, percentoftheresearcherscominginherewouldn't child-birthingandharvesting,makingbeerand ali5lcemeotesbbnfisittnocsrum,Cmr"ooselrsoesthnhheiaieabenlxohgpasuNl—staeidhwaneossdw.Eiingstg"hnoIletaudfonsiwdfeneo.dlro.bmh""jyeIesr'cSetmrlhseftesarlesmyoaihronickgshittnooogrnilacet*i 9tigne9ia.vDc9euhptreheshiraschmeiLdns,aittus.osrhrheyteAloanrTwteheaptlarhvteeaocswUhpeneenairdtsvsslUeiylrtnrhsgfeiiectgmrhyliaarnioneisfcsbnetNuo.tteh"iwagstrmoHoorawnimiagpnnsgtwhhgihorrosoeeu,p cWwoeomrmemeunnnoittwtyeh,reeaondndeleysphtleryacdilenervasorlilnyveeddaermilonyntNshteeriwratoEewnsgntlhakanitdnm.deonf si.right? B toclaimaplacefo icordini learntoreadawholecomplexhistoryhi :. For lepossibled example,mostpeoplethinkofweaving accomplishmentsthathavedominatedalmostallof work,butintheearlyColonialperiod,v. rhiegchoersdtedacchlisatiomr.y.HFeorrmtohsatterfefcoernttsbhoeokha,sAreMciedi-vWeidfet'hes Tale: TheLifeofMarthaBallard.BasedonHer Diary,1785-1812,besideswinningPulitzerand Bancroftprizes,alsowontwoprizesfromtheAmeri- cthaenbHeissttowroircakliAnsswoocmieatni'osn:hitshtoerJyoaanndKtehlelyJophrinzeH.for . . . Ulrich tries to persuade Dyouunnngienrgspcrhiozlearf.orIannJoutnaeblsehewowraksianwUarSdehidstpoerryhabpysathe these mute household tmhoestMahciAghrltyhuprubFloiucnizdeadtiporni,zewohficalhl,haonfoerlslocwrsehaitpivferom objects to provide clues peoplewhAoltehnohuagnhcsehtehehahsugmaainnecdoncdointtiionnu.ingcelebrity that will help her forrevealingthemarvelsandcomplexityofthemost illuminate the lives enreallyhandwoven? Youca apbelres.onTahlean5d4-pyreoafre-soslidonsaclhojloaurr,nweyhoarseeneomsletshseremark- ofthe ordinary women who made them. ofhomespun. Peopleli thcentury,hasin ntmostofheradult111 Ulrichgrewupinoi Foranotherhour,Ulrichexaminesthetowels Imi rawhenmanymi andthenasksRichiertoshowherthecollectionof eroftheChurchofJesusChnstol OlivePrescott,a19th-centuryweaverwholivednea -atter-daySaints,achurchwhosehierarchyisas homemeantbeingtotallyoutoftouchwitha Westfield,Massachusetts. Richter,whomustaccom lassionatelyanti-abortionassheispro-choice. mill,orstore,womenfrequentlyplayedthisi panyallresearcherswhentheyworkwithmuseum Foraworld-classacademicsheisrefresh- Whenshedescribesthese"indepenc smallchamberoffthemainstoreroom,agroupof lueslion,sherespondswithathrilled,"Oh,yes. Wh) women,Ulrichiscareful,however,toreminc nakedmannequinsclustertogetherasifseeking et'sthinkaboutthat." Heralmosttranslucentpale 20th-centuryreadernottomisinterpretthisa; shelterfromthecarefullycontrolledmuseumair. ilueeyeslightup,andshewillbeoffonawhirlwind departurefromnormalfemalesubservienceI Severalboxesofarmsandlegsthatlooklikethe >finquiry. Butjustasquickly,si rules. "Thebiasesofthe20thcenturymayK nlBarbiedollslieon historianstogiveunduesignificancetowhat Inanothercomer,dozensofassortedcanesand rescuehersubjectsfromtheobscuritytowhich reallyratherperipheralenterprises,"shewnt umbrellaswithhandlesofeveryconceivabledesign- traditionalhistoryhasrelegatedthem. "Actingasattorneytoone'shusbandisnote carvedwoodenduckbills,goldfihgreedfaces,and Inherfirstbook.GoodWives: Imageand topracticinglaw. ToColonialwomen,itma sculptedivoryfloralbouquets—protrudefromseveral RealityintheLivesofWomeninNewEngland1650- havebeenlessdesirablethankeepinghouse. 1750,publishedin1982,Ulrichdiscussesthishistori- leadstoasecondpoint. Thevalueofanyact Onashelfbehindher,a19th-century caldisregard. Historians,shecontends,havede- milliner'smodel,withpainteddarkhairandstunning scribedwarsbetweencountries,boundarydisputes observer. InEarlyAmerica,posiuonwasal\ azureeyes,staresvacantlyacrosstheroomasPaula betweenstates,conflictsbetweentownsandparishes, Richterreachesintothedrawersofalong,waist-high demographicchanges. Butasyet,shesays,theyhave cabinetstoringthePrescottcollection. Likeadetec- givenlittleattentiontothewomenwhostoodatthe tiveinterrogatingwitnesses,Ulrichtriestopersuade centeroflifeintheseyears. thesemutehouseholdobjectstoprovidecluesthatwi Women'swork,Ulrichexplains,was helpherilluminatethelivesoftheordinarywomen "essentiallysupportive,liednottoproductsbutto people...andcouldneverbeisolatedfromthelarger relationshipofwhichitwasapart. Historianscannot accidentduringatriptotheMaineStaleArchives,in beblamedforwhatsocietyasawholehaslong Augusta,lostudyan18th-centurycourtcase. When ignored." Therecoveryofwomen'shistory,she sheranoutofthingstodo,sherecalls,"Ididn'twant asserts,"ispanofalargermovementtoreassessand togohomeempty-handed,soIwentthroughmynotes redefinethepositionofwomeninthecontemporary wouldbethespinningandthebleaching. The world." acrossthehallintheMaineStateLibrary. Oneof productionofsomethinglikethistookalotofdiffer- themwasMartha's,anditwasjuststunning." entkindsofskills. Justlookatthishem,"sheex- siftedrelentlesslythroughthecontents"ofkitchens AlthoughBallard'sdiaryhadbeenstoredin claims,pointingtoaperfectlyeven1/8-inchedge andchambers,"ofprobaterecordsandmen'sdiaries, thatlibraryformorethan100years,countlessNew tackeddownwithstitchessorinyandregularthatthey ofinventoriesofcows,of"dairytools,sheep,spinning EnglandhistorianshadsimplyoverlookediL Even arebarelynoticeable. "Thisisjustplainoldsewing wheels,swine,lookingglasses,pictures,andquills." somefeministhistorianswereapparentlytooscornful everygirllearnedtodo." ofwhatone,forexample,consideredthediary's Suddenlyshebecomesevenmoreanimated. "Lookatthis,"shesays,andRichterstops,thenmoves itsdeepermeanings. Yetitwaspreciselythattrivia. aroundtopeerdownatthetowelinquestion. "Whyis thatdomesucily,thatseducedUlrich. thissuchanoddshape,doyouthink?"Ulrichqueries herinitialeffortsbeforewomen'shistorycameofage. Indeed,sheusesthattrivianotonlytotellus asshemeasuresanirregularlyshapedtowelthatis — aboutalifelived200yearsagobutalsotogivethe bothlongerandwiderthanitsmales. "Look,hereis diaries. Courtrecords theywerethebest. There readeraviewofhowthelate- -century istonan plieshercraft. EachchapterofAMid-Wife'sTale beginswithaseriesofBallard'soriginalentries Th Ulnch per. CalledExponentII,itisstillbeingpublishedand addressescontroversialissuessuchasabortionand cboelalneaigmupeUeslnrteiotcrchaobnflsotelrlsuoccwrtsamwMelaarontfihtnaegdBioaoulutlsaornfdotwaahstaittohness.emeimdswitfoe women'sDgurroiunpgmtehiestipenrgiofdr,omUlDruicrhhahma,dtwohetrraeveGlaetolhei daternpadviecsltnssoaBwcarltolosastrhdre'isvbeesrtdsrsusigwdgoelleolsfentwoobsymaevfelnoaoidnmsolotabrhoegrr.laozSrehcdehbilydic< NhUelerrwiscthHuadhimaepdss,htbiaukrteen.inasTtjheoeabrdet.oefaUcslhtriuindcghyiadntegtchlieidteeUdrnaittvuoercre,osnistthyienoufe wforoumlddytiondgayfrbeomrotuhteinriegaornsdocfurcahiblldebiirltlhn,esosresf.romwhat cAonudldwhbeentaslhkeinagnaabloyuzteshetrheotwennshiiosntobreytwaseeanmiontdhievridual switchedtohistory. AtfateprersmhaengeonttajoPbh.D,Twshoeyteaaurgsht Ballard'saccountofhertroubledrelationshipwithher andcommunity,andBallard'sambivalentrelationship Phuarsrbienteonnrhaapsedkialnleddthhiastwaifnee,ighhibmosreilfn,gafnadrmseirxnofamheisd atsorweellilgiionusauth'or'i—t'yfig•ur—es-,•U-lrichmaybeengaging fivekids"IIhwaadnttoeddotoitdcoloasePhtDo,hoamned,Iaknndetwhethhaitswtoirtyh (svteihveeewtnaoxcfhcfiolaldmlrieelcnytoglriifvweee2nu0ts0atyocejoaarmilspliaefgtvoei.llylBaaguelnrlssacrndduindsuu.nfiofute.ripslaiy/ed ashecerecmohsmumstbohaadWtnahdstehebenubiiolwnttehhainbtpiaaDtlssuktriaahnnsatpdmha,epcrehNeosseuehwnsrtee.HwtadhTmalhptyseUhdlfierrrsioeicn,gthndaietondodrt,o rtphreaaatcstoiinncaEilsngrtlahiatshIsiaI.'lbdew"tabTteyhesrew."wnianuTtnnehtlageltde,actbtsuooaauywltsraioUtntledhr,eiearcmnhop,dteioiIspoklntnehaa'letsw htitnhhutersioobruatthgnaehdx'eetsshci)odsn,eaaonttmdhhei,scmuhsfoefardenrsedsemscptorirlnoeldbafdlsueerormtnhsgeaaorbifnawstnhhdeseoniorn,msceaofhtiemernmr.suihgnAehirnttdy m1a9ntthe-lc,enatnudryabwaanlkl-tlhength,floor-to-ceilingc edsveteeeerppeyerodnbeionnwhdhisottooerhvyie.srtoMlrioyv.redmTaohnnedMtwhoheroolmowoganysCcnohonuttrebcnahpdtsiistzheadtin "Thetriviathatsoannoyedearlierreaders •*(ChurchofJesusChristofLatter-daySaints,which apfdremomivariladetei-omanac.noan"sgMieasdtretenhctao'dnsaoimdliyya,rr"eycUiolsrradincohfunctpohaenrcaollpulederelasetdiwointohfa leMorJ.moThnatiswhygenealo:gbylaepitspiezoepdleanddi.marriedin documentinEarlyAmericanhistory. Itispowerfulin panbecauseitissodifficulttouse,sounyieldingin .inUlrich'sownfamily,history unyieldinUglrdiacihli'nseisshatytoconveythepo ncem. "I>aulrwoafymsyhagdretahti-sgirmanadg-ein colleagues. "WhatdistinguishedLaurel'smethc thesec:rosuarnadgeoonegreat- hsiinascytrsoerdtyihbealnfeedpmaiAtnmiieesrntichecitahsantnvodesrrtiaauylndsuioNensapinrmaaoctgmyYiiansClaoitetnilgoU,nnspi.orvuoeSrfrchesesiesst.oyisi, [isS]tuydetyianngotthexetrilweasy ioUYmftoaaumghnyegisngoortnefhaesttah-1ceg8rrie4efp0aiistcce-agtanrrndaedkn'df5np0roastor.emmneIttahsgseraueEcrwacisonutmgeppruawnpinStiaehenaddtbhoBwearisrteidhghttoahem rbmueaimlkate,rkttahhbeelmweasfypaieftaihkrfeuaplblnaoecusetss\tohersourscrapyeotftfhabrroiucg—hhaenrd toan"drepdeeoepmlethniontgs mcwhoayyngmvounepnbysrePiodunvtgieiYmrnoatgguhereisnSmtoohhfuoenumtl'ya5di0easnr,nsc.tteohsetAtrhoneerdswWahtpeshueesnlth,h,ia'ontfgwochmtonhiueicriphsrrete,osiemnnet ideaofthenobledomesticity." considered CottcontendsthatUlnch' AlthoughUlrichsaysshehasneverfella termsotherthanindividualismwhendealingin important." "par"t"i'cu'lmarr"r"es-p™o<nsfi<b"ilhi"ty•f"or?<t»h»e<>sa">lv'a«t-i™on»o-f•!t•he>-d>ead, Americanhistory. Forexample,manyfeminist thatIcouldn'tcopewithmyresponsibilitiesin historianswerelookingforaperiodwhenwomen CambridgeandthenNewto—n,andIfelttheremustbe werefreer. Theywantedtofindexamplesofpersonal somethingwrongwithme howcouldInotliveupto ofUlrich'sparticularpuzzle thisgreatandnoblecallingof[Latter-daySaint]wife oiapplica outheastemIdahothatw; HistoryhelpedhertoputIhepastinits ingroupsandcon properplace. Indeed,herveryrelationshiptohistory housewife. WhenUlnchwas seemstobeabrilliantandcannywaybothtorebel NoonehasbeenmoresurprisedthanUlrich againstandyetslayconnectedtoherowntraditions. valedictorianofmyclass,and "Foraverylongtime,myacademicworkseemedto havesowarmlyrespondedtoherwork. Onereason, Justafterhergraduation,herh melikeahobby—somethingyoudobecauseyoulove shespeculates,thatAMid-Wife'sTaleissopopularis doingiL IfIhadn'tworkedonExponentII,ifit thatitgivesreadersanopportunitytoprojecttheir leofTechnology,andshe"did ownpreoccupationsontothisaccountofthepast. thestudent'swifethinginCambridgeforfouryears.' studiedw( I. Ifeltalittleen "WhenIgotogroupsofwomenandtalktothem ThenthefamilywenttoCaliforniaforayearbefore utstudyingthatfieldw] aboutthis,Ifindthemreallygettingverycaughtupin relumingtoMassachusetts,thislimetoNewlon. At thatpoint,shebecameinvolvedwithatraditional uI-, ih women'schurchgroup. Butinsteadofproducinga cookbookasafund-raisingtool,thegroupproduced idwork. Therew andpublishedasuccessfulguidetoBoston,called ledhertounderstandthatthisideaofafirmdivision Beginner'sBoston. betweenworkandpersonallifewasitselfahistorical Theresponseofcontemporarymidwivesis "Thatexperiencehelpedmetofigureoutthi construct. "Now,"shesays,"Iunderstandthatmy anotherexample. "Igaveatalktomidwives,andI Icouldorganizemylimewhenmykidswerenappinj workissuccessfulbecausemylifeexperienceshave thoughtweweregoingtohaveamedicaldiscussion, anditgavemethecouragetogotograduateschool." fedintomyscholarship. IthinkIcouldhavewritten andalltheytalkedaboutweretheirworriesabout Overthenextfiveyears,onecourseatatime,Ulrich wellaboutHawthorneorMelville,butI'mgladI medicalmalpracticeandhavingtohavephysician didn't" backupandhavingtohaveperfectoutcomes. To SimmonsCollege. ToUlrich,historyisfarfromabstractionand distance. Hencehercurrentworkwithtextiles: herbestandpeopleacceptedit." "Clothisineveryrealmwelookat. Womenspunthe AlthoughUlrichisdelightedthataudiences earlywomen's it.Ulrich,oddlyenough,g< thread,anddidthewashing,andtheswaddlingof haveembracedBallard'slife,sherefusestoallow hersinherqui: ticchurch. "I babies,andthedressingofthedead." Studying themtosentimentalizeormisinterpretiu "Youhave 1970webegan group,"sherecalls. "At textilesthusprovidesUlrichyetanotherwayto toremindpeopleabouttherape,andthePurrinton publishedawomen'sissueofDialogue,a "redeemthingsandpeoplenotconsideredimportant Ihavecometothinkofmyselfasahistorianof toremindthemthatbackthenpeople rcsunectingthestoriesof19th-centuryMormon "Youhavetolex suffragistsinpolygamousmarriageswhohadpub- lothehistoryof thenconcludes: "Historyisn'tabout it'saboutdepthandcomplexity. AndI These19th-centurywomenweresayingthingsin veryimportant,becausewesoeasilyfall oflinearthinkingabout today. Theyweretalkingaboutwomen'srightsinthename goingto oftheGodofZion. Thatwasveryexciting,andit togiveus mademerealizethathistoryhadapurpose." — CHALLENGING MORMON CHURCH THE FEMINISM CAUTIOUSLY TRIES TO FIND ITS PLACE IN A CONSERVATIVE FAITH SuzanneGordon TheBostonGlobe March25, 1993 Mormon women's group has I he meeting of the all the appearances of an exercise in Norman Rockwell-like wholesomeness. begins and ends with a prayer. It And Tea, coffee, wine and beer are strictly forbidden. the discussion centers on the tamest of topics In1993,Ihere "l'lpositiononwomen,or women'sroleinIheirchurchhierarchy—exi thesewomenareMormons,andtheirdiscus involvesgreatpersonalandsocialrisk. Forsteepedastheyareinoneofthemo complexgender-rigidtheologiesofanyWes Christianreligion,thesewomenarerunning lossofredemption Despitetheserisks,thediscussiongroups Mormonwomen'squarterlynewspapercalled ExponentIIarcincreasinglypopular. Since19 Exponentir SuePaxman;JudyDushku, )uHartiala-Sloan,aconsultanton :ulturalaffairs;andPu—litzerPrize inLaurelThatcherUlrich havebeer has3,000subscribersnatumwideandsponsors meetingsandanannt inHillsborough.N.H. Inspiteofthismin, nla,ivily,ExponentIIani thekindofMormon1 ithassustainedis idclheL theLatterDaySaints(LDS). Indeed,tonon-Mor- mons—particularlyf( -theLDSChurchseen somonolithicallycon thattheveryideaofa KlOfwhi — whomalsosupportabortion rights wouldappear noxymoron. Toan outsider,theveryactofunderstandingthesewomen MormonSistersdetailswi religiousstudiesatIndianaUniversityatIndianapolis andaUnitedMethodistwhohasstudiedMormonism "Althoughthesewomenaremoremoderatethan somemoreconfrontationalMormonfeministsin educationalprogramforcollegestudentsandother Utah,"Shippsexplains,theExponentIIwomen "are what'sofficiallycalled thepatriarchalor adults)andabookcalledMormonSisters. questioningadelineationofgenderrolesthatnotonly marriage.'" Thismeansthatanytalkaboi Onthecoverofthisvolumethreefeisty-looking governtheirpositionintheChurchonearth,butinthe identityoutsideofthefamily,orcritical Mormonpioneerwomenstandoutsideanoldwooden oftheproblemsoffamilylife,canbelake cabin. Gazingsteadfastlyatthecamera,theirvery Paintedinverybroadstrokes,intheMormon fundamentalchallengetotheveryfoundai presenceservesasacorrectiontothetraditional religioneverymaleiseligibletobeaMormonelderor mascu—linefocusofMormonhistory. Hereweareand priestandthuspotentialleaderoftheChurch. (Black were thebook'seditorsannounce—helpingtofound maleswereoriginallyexcludedfromthepriesthood, thechurchduringthe1830s;onBrighamYoung's greatpioneertrektoUtahinthemid-1840s;and Notonlydocsthechurchcontinuetoexcludewomen fthreoomlotghiecaplrideesftihnoiotdi,onbuotfriteadlesmopmtaiionntathiantstaiecsowmopmleexn ThesourceofExponentII werepolygamous.Mormonsuffragists withthe hefamilynotonlywhenthey'realive Interestingly,thesourceofinspirationforExponentII church'sblessing,fightingforwomen'srights. theafterlife. ( lin.ii.uis,"saysShipps."the cUflrarimieecnhdfsrre—ocamalllblsom,tehtmhbienesgrirsdoeuoapfnbtdheegouaRtnesliwidehefetSnhoeacibceoh—tuuyrtc(2ht0.heAs pfuembilniEicxsatptsoi.onneMnpitromIdImuiucs,eHidnabrftyaicatt,lhaea-sSedlir1oe9actnthr-dececesanlctleusnrdtyhaeMntoalromfmoaostn progressiontobecouosmm.eeTaahegoadftoenrelisfeelfi.srBauthtertoabneectci otfhfeiycihaaldMtoormmeoetn,wionmtehen'lasteor'g6a0nsi.ztaotidoins)cussdetchiedseodcial Woman'sExponentinthefilesofHarvard'sWidener beensealedinmarriage apUceltoripivlcT"iehthW,yeseawsyrwewesis.erdurlel"ietcnBiwgfudaateassdrcbioaewnucaesnatpdueehsdcatiedhbaelywtmeoe.t'ddhrieoetiwmsoouonmcroheefnpt'trhhsoaejnemMcojotuv-sreotmmrtieoaenlnnktt.,e"d" Oylnievekaweersrsap"Iatbr'hpeleeleflroinngr,eeiexvowteutrhsriwateetftexoewkprnegseerb,tidyemiindMetc,nmo"'ebrt.HeamkrrTonthsnioeaowrlffeaeat-mnwhSiyaelntoisghsairtntnohsigsusaapayMhbsru.ooeuntrtdu"m.Irr"toneednwdas seminaronwomenfortheCambridgeChurchofJesus tocopyeveryissue. ChristofLatterDaySaintsInstitute(thereligious — : onthehistoryofMormonism. "Peoplereallyhelp :ofhistoricallegitimacyandthus aannddaocucreppatpaenrc,e".D"uWshekaureexvpelrayinpsr.ot"ecWteivewaonftthbeotchh etahcrohuogthhetrh,eaRnedliwefomSeocni,etpyaratsicwuellarllay,sagrreoubposndliekde cfswtaooimmfmilmlieiynntg.t"aaetendxmdpoilstfaspaeimhlnifeslrtyDoeulbwsiefhhiee.knrug"e.tTthh"heeeTcrhMeha'utosr'rscamhcroreonaeflatctphehuedusrpahcehrvtfeohercayts swuervailvwe.aysBuatskwetshuewpaqpnuotersttthaiinonngsoftohboewefxaprrteossgeo.daBnedsis bleeaevninagbtuhlewcahrukrcohf.sEupxppoorntent"Plelo'spleexiwstheoncweahnatstaolsstoay conformity." languagehasto thisall-encompassing cswhDiouaunusssglbhldsaeknun'ufpdtfaaerdtderaidnildstnkn,,g'atwfsbhrhoeeuovotmefnehiplattok.d"snliiboW-kewepheaanebrnetsmcuuasmasrpuhrdiesieceepwidrosaeuhstsseosdoifaidoenvldndtoi,rtsdacyhine-ev .aJissttsaoihobnflweteehvbeeearcrMyeaonus'rsitemnfgoolofnercEthexhidpienotrgonarettcnhahektye. vtcileourndy.eOsMt".ohTehr"rimTssh,oiinlsnigakfesaviPhetharayxvimenyaetontoue,nsrhgnsiafelcte.hpmurrWotcgoohr.mbe"eassPnsautsxhotamwavaaiernndebdcepobeenyrn-fttalfi fromanon-Mormon,adoubleno-nointhereli "We'renotallowedtosay,forexample,it ihaveproblemswithdrugsorsex,"chi The cl- emporaryproblems sanattractiontothe usinggroupsinAmericacertainlypromisestobe vetheseproblems. So .v, keanyparticularpositiononanyof foerlodfotfheroMootlremssonnessc,hulrocnhelpirnoevssidaensdaddriefnt,sethaensdocial etdhietsoeriiaslsupeosl,i"cys.ay"sWPeaxhmaavne,ceoxlpluaminnisn—gltikheep'Saipsetre'rss jpportivcculture,"observielshoJroohfnaBfroorotkhec,oamiTnugftbsook HelpSistersSpeak'—fiction,poetry,bookreviews, butthepaper'smajorforumisthepersonalessay. Whenwe'reabouttoconsideratopic,weputouta callintheprioreditit shoulddo —togetatll personalvoice." The1990abortionissuewasaperfectexamplet Exponentll'snonconfrontauonalstyle. Dushku's page1essayaskswomentoleam"powerfullessons life"fromwhatothershaveexperiencedandlived through. Thenext20pagespresentarticles,manyof themsigned"NameWithheld." Onemotherexplain thatshechangedherpositiononabortionwhenatee agergotpregnant. Anotherwomantalksofthepain jpn/Llnj! viewsonabortionchangedaftershewasraped. Therearenosophisticatedliteraryflourishesor soul-stirringpolemicsinthesepages. Modem-day feministsmightnotrecognizeanythingfamiliarinthe constantpleasforharmonyandtolerancelikethe following: "Pleasecan'twebemoreunderstanding? Can'twehelpandnotcondemn?"or"Inowunder- standthat,inmanycases,havinganabortionisnotthi firstchoiceofawomanandthatmostwomenthink verycarefullybeforemakingthatdecision." Walkingathinline Althoughpublicrelationsrepresentativesatthe headquartersoftheMormonchurchinSaltLakeCity Mormonshave,infact,usedexcommunicationtofight thosewhoengageinwhatseemtooutsiderstobethe mostacceptablecriticalorsocialenterprises. Fawn Brodie,forexample,wasexcommunicatedfor applyingcommonpsychoanalyticcategoriesto analyzeJosephSmith'semergenceasaprophetinher 1948biographyoftheMormons'founder. In1980. SoniaJohnsonwasexcommunicatedbecauseshe activelysupportedtheERA. Onlyafewmonthsago. AndUlrichrecentlylearnedthatshewasbarred- somespeculatebecauseofherExponentwritings Exponentll'sFoundingMothers—1974. fromspeakingattheMormons'officialuniversity. Clockwisefromtop: CarrelSheldon,JudyDushku,ClaudiaBushman, BnghamYoung,inProvo,Utah. CarolynPerson,BonnieHome,MaryanneMacMurray,SusanKohler, Notsurprisingly,then,whenExponentIIwomen HeatherCannon,JoyceCampbell,StephanieGoodson. discusstheirmission,theyseemclearthattheywalka 1 The Interview JudyII.Wright Missoula.Montana ividlywas reason :heretoday." Quitefrankly.I\ neaboutaChurchcallingbu navmgtrouoieremembering. Wasitbecause againIhadtaughtthelessonwithoutusingth world. Iwassoannoyedatmyselfforbringing miagtaeirniamlyindiaulgudhetderinhatdhesmkainppueadl?YoWuansgiWtobemcea fsliemxpilbyleotrigmaeniuzpedbemcyaudsea,yassoitnhaetvealrlytohtehqeurojtoabs,wIere metandthentookwhatevertimeIneeded. 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So,whentheVicePresidentofSalesand MyexperienceinChurchinterviewshad arwteonatdosuatryhan?ecrtchCoeexmiorepmcaseunmtiiiolevnedes;ibwnyhtaoolawkmee"ySvdieostrfto,fewirwcaeWhr,rdeianmgnhedtt.h,1e<ithexwotawesnaedraeesdyyhotauond adtsaekusegkdh,tfrmnooemmtaahtawttheiwrtheheosnhwirytpo,eurysaooruneaalou.ntotMmhayetoietcxhapelerlrysiiebdneecceoofimntehe Gsntoioootconhbadalen0jhg1oa'ebpBhpoiofysyshmeeCelrlltei.uhnbogdHmfseoyrsoheraalddlfoobunIegbhelatnediimsjnetuastatnhndeddaoCrnowderao,psfonI'rewtaxotpleueiclktedlay- hitoiyladwilanosgudsmiWaynnhkeitnengmpIfoarsretaa.llifzuetdurtehacit.nlthhkieisohnaendwshowawsouthledfibi jporbovientyeoruvIrifeivwnasalluilseyttrhoeacttohygeoncuiozrsephdoarrtaehtaitino1fnowbraymsabtgeiiiovnnigntgchaomtnyfwii-ll tmininoaogtknsiab.tenugOvteunardedyeiovlwrioosntuighloendboeoctffohonerCtrehiuonwfrueaculhswloyawunoaldundlnsdobtaeytheami.nvee,hHeiaaasndhpd-aalritodtr-owlhnoieimuazeld-d dtthhoiestphcoesoijmtopiboanwn.iytBhcuomtuylwdehparnnoedvesiddteeideadtnhbdee,hmqiounindteemyfyraanbndakclskye.,cuIrIciol rehpeenoguwjamueiesrntracagotwaneavteyrtohmloeneovfaaartsishiooelfuvt"sejrsaomcpbilclaioetn.mtteperlHriavesinehddwim.dte"nhna'tttAsIssIanIyehbeaaeddngeymadtanhtdiotneog,, ckonmebwatt.hatIfRomlyaisdtsowmoauclhdweberealdiaeidlyinckonmoptasnnioown,iInthis lovedworkingandwasverygoodatit. onehandanddrummingitonthefingersofhisothi wwhoantdeIrthyoouugrhotlhdeerwdaasugphrtoebrabislynothlionnkginegr.ac"tWievleli,nntohe derbutthaitheywerestillcheckingreferences. hmaynd",liwtthliel"efahmeilleyawneadsbdaocikngi.nhHiescihnaqiuriraenddaabsokuetdthh Church;yAosuIdbideng'atnhtaovfelotuinmdeert.omIomtuhremruhreerd."some- IajobwithanotherfirmandthatIwasgoingto differentchildrenbynameandmentionedthestatu thingabouthowimportantflexibletimeistowomen. awardmemberwhowasill. Hethenbroughthischairupright,rubbed handstogether,andsaid,"Well,let'sgetontothe COMING TO PEACE JenniferLea whileago1 istenedasawomantoldme unbornlegacythathe/shewouldneverbehurtor abused. Mynaivete wasalarming. Thedanger bedbesidemeasthechildinnocentlv slept,sub withmotherhood,andwithmychildren—. Iremember y. 1lookedatheroddlyandfelluncom- thisfeelingwhenmyboyswereinfants somewhere. icrpresence,solittledidI heroffspnng. Thepainoffailurewastoogreat. rthepastfew llenul.lb.' I\ Theparadoxofthesweetroughnessofthe cdteenagerhaswaned,Ihavestruggledto unshavenfacesofmyalmost-mensonscomparedlo Wear. idI I — .luucuoiulh...Tie. Throughvarious theluscious,warmcheeksthatIimprintedwitha atIfinallyleftmj means counseling,"Twe thousandkissesontheirtoddlerformsfillsmewitha tothesetwosons. Irealized,afterconsiderable senseofwonder. Afewmoreyearsandmyolderson damagecameuponusall,thatwhatwasdonetothe willhavethepossibilityofgrowingafullyformed wifewouldsomedaybedonetoihechildren. Ileft beard. Everyday.moreofhischeerybaby-sofl withoutabackwardglance. roundnessmoldstomanhood. Hisadolescenceisan mu'luld ever-changingportraitofslow-burningmaturity. One post-marriageandlearninghowtocareformyself while. daysoonhisvisagewdlhavenoreminderofhis Myangerandmistrust,hurtandresentment blindlytaughtmychildren,hadtobeerased,and beganslowlytodispel,but1onlyfellprotectedinan Oflate.IfindasIhugmychildrenIam replacedwilhnurturing,responsiblemessagesofhope. emotionalholdingpattern,reservingmyfeelingsof lookingup,myyoungersonhavingsurpassedmein Ourformerlifewasamosteffectiveandefficient heightlastyear. Withfirmembraces,theseboys instructor. Wecreatedanewteacher,inanewlife. couldfreelygivethem. 1settledforfriendlinessanda reckonwiththeawkwardrealizationoftheirown cautiouscaringbutwouldnotallowanymaternal feelingstosurface. Thoseinstinctualpromptingshad groundasarileofpassage. Gonearethedayswhen IfeelTreeandlucky.IdeewhenIfindanewpenny, onlybroughtheartache. Icouldn'taffordtoriskthat mychildrenwillrelyonmeforphysicalsurvival. gleamingonthesidewalk. ButIrealize1amnot p.unI reallylucky,butblessed. Al-AnonOmneeetdianygsatanadlicmoeu,nsaeslIinwgassetsoslidonisn,m1mfiolrrg,a-ve myfierce,proteciiv . idthedrugs. andwindoAwtsn,igIhat,lsaoscIhcehcekctkhetsheeslloecekpsionngbtoheysd.ooNros myself,repentedoftheinnocents—ins1hadcommuted beforeIevenknew t. Bolhmypregnancies longerdoImakesuretheyarebreathing,asIdidin asaninexperiencedchild-mother actingonthe theirbabyhood. But1stillkissthem,coverthemwith ravagedupbringing1sufferedatthehandsofmy isitistoday. Holdingmy theirquilts,telltheirunconsciousslumberingselves abusivefatherandmyill-copingmother. IrealizedI bulginggirth,whichhousedthefloatingandkicking thatIlovethem. Ithoughttheyknewofthese mustconsciouslychoosetobeamother,and1 fetus,Ifeltapower,asecretlhattogether,babyandI. embracedtherole. Morecarefully,Iapproachedthe myolderson,heexpressedsurprise. Whenheasked linkedwithphysicalandemouonallieslhatnoother whyIstilldothis,implyinglhathedoesn'tneedit,I Withthischangeinme,myboyshave personcouldfathomordesecrate. (Iwasalready sodeciding rouble. Thepa myboyssafeandquietandhappy. Hesmiledatthis, >. Wenc Abju- lyhusbandandmi lrenofalcoholics ringrelationshipsinanatmosphereof respectandcourtesy. Weallworkloestablishour bindingustogether.) Tearswouldw.uinh slid.- Heshylynodded,asiftosaythatthisisoursecret. I ownsenseofselfandself-worthandareaccountable myflushedcheeksasstrangeandwondroushor causedbypregnancy,infiltralcdmydraughts,rr alongwhileitwas. Good,healthyinteractionsrising WEMME — DESPERATELY SEEKING WOMAN andhis"CarefullySelectedWriters"(mosdymale) I girl. IwasdisappointednolbecauseIwas described"Woman: HerPosition,Influence,and determined—toproduceamaleheirtodie AchievementThroughouttheCivilizedWorld," Stomettafortune therewasnone. NordidIbelievei "FromTheGardenofEdenToTheTwentieth Century." Whatsimplicity: womanhoodwasneatly defined,Ulustraled.andboundbetweentwored ofrearingadaughter. AndwhenIfirstsawtheimage Butmyworldwasnotasteamyjunglenora lersanddaughters, staidparlor,butasupermarketofchoice. AndIwas iswetalkedofseen mglyin beating,Iwasfrightened. HowdoIteachmychildto stucksomewhereinthebreakfastaisle,inundatedwith asschooledinawo choices. Ireadlabelafterlabelandsampledboxafter iesuenglhof box,tryingtoselectamongallthepossibilitiesfor women. Somewherebetweenthesugar-coated, empathy. Andthatwasthememoryof artificiallyflavoredcookiebitsandtheindustrial strengthoatbranIhopedthat1wouldfindwoman- refinallyacknowledged,yearslater,as Geographicmagazineandjoinsomeprimitivetribe hoodneadypackagedtofitmytastes. Oratleasta understandthatitisnolabetrayalofn hiddendeepintheAmazonjungles. There,stripped boxwithadecoderring. ofbrasandmodemgender,onlymybreastswould Ineverfoundthatperfect,packagedimage. Insteadtheimageofmygrandmother'skitchentable mytribe,Iwouldcelebrateagainandagainthebirth Ritual,tradition,andbiologywouldnotonlyteachme andmydaughteraboutwomanhoodbutalsolinkusto ninistideals. Ipointout oursistersandourmothersinthetribeandwith kitchenandthememoryofmyleaningonthetableon anguage. (Theeffective MotherEarthherself. awarmsummerevening,gigglingandgossipingabout lydaughterinsis Despitemyfeminineangst,Ireadilyadmit menwithGrandmaandMom,persisted. kanairplanepilotsoshecanhavea that1wasneverquitereadytoforegothesensuous, OnlyasIhavecometoacknowledgethat iuniformjustlikeBarbie's.) ButIalst modempleasuresofdenimhuggingmyhipsorrich reIce — hotfudgethicklywarmingmytonguetopaddlethe eighty- her hopingthatherjourneytoward Amazoninsearchofsuchanidyllictribe. ButI longedforitssimplicity. Attimes.Ievenenviedmy great-grandmotherandthesimplicityofhercalm, definedworld. In1906.forthreedollarsandninety cents,shepurchasedWoman. (Ordidmygreat- grandfatherpurchasethebookforbothherandhis ofwomanhood. Andwithth YOU WON'T GO TO HELL FOR USING A CAKE MIX W whitelaundrytodazzletheeyes,tolepaintedrefrigera- JessicaHunsaker. Wedidevery- tormagnets,perfectattendanceatchurchandschool, thingtogether. Werodeourbikesi impeccablechequebook. Icouldfeeduson$60a eachother'sdriveways,wewore month. Iperfectedtheartofsqueezingtenmealsout ofoneboiledchicken. 1pinnedscripturesandFrench weevenhadchickenpoxtogether. Butonesummer, conjugationstothecurtainsoverthekitchensinkso andsawshelvesandshelvesofbotdedcherriesand whilewewereplayingFashionBarbiesonherfront alio realizedthateveryyearIhaddutifullybottledthem steps,hermotherbroughtoutaplateofcupcakes. W becausetheywereinseasonandbecausemymother soonreducedthemtopinkcrumbles. hadalwaysbottledthem,butIhadneverusedanyof "Thesearegreat!"Iremembersayingwith them. Ihatebottledcherries. Sodoesmyhusband. mymouthfull. "Yourmommakesgoodcupcakes." "Oh,it'snobigdeal,"saidJessica. "They'r Ihavealwaysenjoyedwriting lp„ 1upmyFashionBarbieandher Like:ithatbestsellernovellwasslavinjioverTd'" neditdow "Whereareyougoing?"Jessicaasked. "Idon'tthinkmymotherwantsmetoplay bagnumbertw< kofmagazin uanymore,"Isaid. "Yourmother'sacheat." Iwaskeepingf iaslob. Iam irunder$100." Farewe WhenIwasinhighschool,1diditall TtormTwedlinn.,vhich1hadfaithfullypolished "No." Iboughtanansweringmachine II twenty. 1couldn'tunderstand—ateacherissupposed netothephonerightnow. Atthesoundofif totellyoutoworkharder,noteaseoff. 1dismissed e,hangup"). MyFrenchteacherwouldhave hisadvice,graduatedayearearly,andentered universityatageseventeen,where1repealedthe Andjusttheotherday,asagloriousde veiledathim. Now, ioffreedom,Imadeadeliciousblueberrych ;einbroaddaylightusingamix. Granted,1c dyouknowwhat? 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(Onlyafew move-along-as-fastas-possiblesha 1knewwellallbutthenevestapostle.Elder RichardScou. I'd thebag.lakeoneofyourown.lookingintently otherboards. then...surelynotaga w. Hwe'jussttawkhinogseanboatgheorfccooookkiiee.sTtwhaot!isE.atBiuntg wteietsh,,elxacuhgahnegdeadndletb ungwrong. Thenerve,theverynerve. Andhe in.smilingthewholelime,notatthyyoouu,rbbuotoakt.the DeseretNewsBoar .neTohfeyounrocwhialdsren,said"Sayhelk twomorecookies. Youdothe ctoomMmele.n"teIdasoknedatrheetnaboutawifewithphlebitisor concerns. Ourexehjrmewjshrst-name warm real ookie! Ohcomeon! Doyou Thatnight thoughtasIha since,"Whatbasicallygoodmen—andwomen. He'sstandingupnow,pickinguphiscarry-on.andsmiling HowIwouldhatetohavetheirjob! subjecttoakindof crutinythatwouldbeleaguera theairport. Really? Notaword,notanapology? Youstandtogatheryourcoal,yourpurse,youowncarry-o Youfumbleforyourticketasyouheadfortheline-uptotheflight. I nowgoneofftoanothergale. Mayhisdestinationbetojail! You keepfumbling, watching him go. Then—oh,com'on Notreally. Inyourpurse,abagofcookies.* millionscanknowthosedecisionmakersandthe backgroundsandpersonalitiesthathaveshapedthem. Whatlittlebitoftalkcouldhaveclearedupwhose ElderNealMaxwell.BYUPresidentsDallinOaksand Howcanthehundreds,thousands,nowmillionswho. cookieswerebeingeaten? Howmuchjustplain thenJeffHolland,advertisingexecutiveandformer likeme,interpretandinternalizetheireverywordand interestinsteadofmdignauoncouldhavesuggested newsmanGlenSnarr,bankpresidentBobBischoff. moveintermsofourownuniquefindingsand asimplequestion,somereachingacrossthechasm . ofmisunderstanding? Mighttheexchange,any Forsixteenyears.I'ddangledorslumpedin personalasconnectionbymediaisdistant. ordertooccupytheloolargearmedleatherchair Addtothisthebludgeoningsofopinion. worthwhile? Instead,twopeoplewenttheirways betweenandacrossfromthepublisherandtheeditor misinformation,half-views,limepressures,over- lessforbeingreluctant,afraid,tooproudorshyto ofthepaperandBobBischoff. HeandIhadlaughed commitmentformostofusandcertainlyforthem,and findthetruth. others'stories? Anditisthathearingthatcanmake knoweachotherandourintentionsbywhatweread ofbudgetsandbottomlines,advertisingandcircula- allthedifference. inthepapersofseeonTVorhearaboutinisolation tionreports,attentiontoeditorialandpagemake-up. Igrewupinachurchaspersonaland fromeachother. Themediatellsthetruthbutoften jppm.Hh;ihleasthailine-upoutsidethedoorinthe tellsitslanted. What hearings'wehavewitheach recordedbyArthurHaycock,secretarytofive ChurchOfficeBuilding. Ibelievestillintheprivate otherareloooftenviapreconceivedassumptions,as presidentsoftheChurch,andthenLynnCannegater, exchange. Ibelieve,too,thatweneedeachother. withthecookies,focusedonwhoreallyownsthem. thoseoncitherendofahandshakeandgenuine"How Iknowthatthosemenandwomenin authorityofferdifferentkindsofgoodnessforusto canbedifficultevenamongthosewhocareabout appearedonscreenstobepaginated,printed,and thesamecausesandpeople. 1thoughtaboutthis tossedonporcheslikefieldsofenergywithinforma- particularlyaboutayearago. Somemeetingwas tionpackagedforperusal. return. AndIknowthatwe'rewantingthesame goingovertimeinsidetheroomat47EastSouth Ihadlovedandrespectedthewholeprocess. thingsforpeopleofgoodfaithandwillingnesslo TemplewheretheFirstPresidencyandtheTwelve Andthepeoplewhomadeithappen. Iwassurprised workforgoodcauses. IknowthisbecauseIcould meet. OurmonthlymeetingoftheDeseretNews tofindthatinthesenearlyseventeenyearswehad turntoolhergatheringsandreceivethesamecordial- BoardofDirectorsalwaysstartedatthreeo'clock it) andsmeercconcernasamongthoseiniheChurch sharpwithPresidentThomasMonsonandApostle NowonourregularWednesdayat3:00P.M.. OfficeBuilding,includingthosegraciouswomenwho JamesFaustpresiding,withBishopVictorBrown, thoseofusontheBoardwhowerenotGeneral worktheredailylofreeupthemen. Eachofus