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Nearly 100 High Over 1,700 High Nearly 4,000 High Schools participated Schools participated Schools participated 1998 2002 2003 2005 1996 1997 1999 2001 2004 Only colleges participated Over 300 High Schools participated Over 3,100 High Schools participated HISTORY OF THE DAY OF SILENCE PROJECT Day of Silence Organizing Manual 1 WELCOME! Welcome to the Day of Silence Manual! This resource is filled with information and organizing strategies that will help make your Day of Silence as successful and effective as possible. By participating in the Day of Silence, you are joining one of the largest student-led actions in the country and helping to ensure safe and inclusive schools for all students. We encourage you to use this manual in whatever way works best for you- you may choose to use ideas from a particular section or bring some of your own original strategies into your planning. The website, www.dayofsilence.org, is a particularly useful tool, with additional resources, ideas and up-to-date information on this year’s event. Thank you for your important work and happy organizing! For High School Organizing Contact: The Day of Silence Project – GLSEN 90 Broad Street, 2nd Floor New York, NY 10004 212-727-0135 (phone) 212-727-0245 (fax) www.glsen.org GLSEN, the GLSEN Logo (The Answer) and the Day of Silence® are registered trademarks in the United States of GLSEN Inc. (The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network). The Day of Silence® is a project of the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN). © 2009 GLSEN (The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network) Some of the materials contained herein were adopted from resources originally developed by USSA and Midwest Academy. All materials may be reproduced with appropriate attribution and without permission. Day of Silence Organizing Manual 2 I. Introduction What is GLSEN? GLSEN, the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, is the leading national education organization focused on ensuring safe schools for all students. Established nationally in 1995, GLSEN envisions a world in which every child learns to respect and accept all people, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. GLSEN seeks to develop school climates where difference is valued for the positive contribution it makes to creating a more vibrant and diverse community.For more information on GLSEN’s educator resources, public policy agenda, student organizing programs, research or development initiatives, visit www.glsen.org. What is the Day of Silence? Founded in 1996 by students at the University of Virginia, and currently officially sponsored in K-12 schools by GLSEN, the Day of Silence is the largest student-led action to protest the bullying and harassment of LGBT people and their allies. Participants take a day long vow of silence and distribute or wear speaking cards with information about anti-LGBT bias and ways for students and others to “end the silence.” Through Breaking the Silence events, which are typically held at the end of the school day, students can speak out against harassment and demand change for their schools and communities. What can the Day of Silence do? The Day of Silence can be used as a tool to affect positive change – both personally and community-wide. The Day of Silence is designed to draw attention to the bullying and harassment faced by LGBT students everywhere. Silence is used as a tactic to provide a space for personal reflections about the consequences of being silent and silenced. The Day of Silence is an effort that can raise awareness on this issue, prompting people to talk and think about it. Think about what change is needed in your community and how the Day of silence can be a building block in your efforts to create change. For more information about how to use the Day of Silence to create change see “How to Get What You Want With An Ask!” in the Resources section at the end of this Manual. What does the Day of Silence look like? No two Day of Silence events look exactly the same. Students everywhere design the day in ways that make sense for their particular school. Many students make t-shirts with slogans supporting LGBT students and their allies. Students pass out “speaking cards” that state the intention of the day and ask for understanding and consideration from their peers, faculty and administrations. Events range in size from a single student to a thousand students spending an entire day in silence plus hundreds more wearing or showing signs of support. Registering your Student Club for Day of Silence and other GLSEN Days of Action There are two important parts of registering. First you should register yourself and/or your student club on www.dayofsilence.org. When you register you will receive a free packet of resources from GLSEN that will help you organize future event and Days of Action. You will also be added to our Student Organizing Listserv to receive ourweekly newsletter. The newsletter includes information about the Days of Action, our Jump-Start National Student Leadership team, as well as events happening in local areas. When you register a student club you will be added to our ever-growing list of student clubs around the country, and your club and your school can be listed online. The second part of registering is specific to the Day of Silence. Every year students around the country register their participation in the Day of Silence at www.dayofsilence.org. Registering allows GLSEN to measure the success of the Day of Silence for media outlets as well as for our own future planning. In addition to being part of a larger picture, GLSEN will send you materials and resources to aid in your planning. Find information on all of the Days of Action, including the Day of Silence, at www.dayofsilence.org or email [email protected]. Day of Silence Organizing Manual 3 II. The Basics of Organizing your Day of Silence Event(s) Select Your Team First things first, you should build a team of people who are willing to help you organize the Day of Silence at your school. You may want to organize the Day of Silence through an established school group (such as the Gay-Straight Alliance [GSA], Amnesty Club or Student Council), or you may want to build a coilation of interested individuals from different school groups. It’s important, however, for you to think very carefully about the people you need and want to include, and for you to recognize that as you begin and continue to plan, your needs may change. Try to get a group of people together who have a variety of strengths and interests, such as public speaking, making fliers, organizing publicity, fundraising and contacting potential supporters. Can you organize the Day of Silence alone? Yes, but the impact will be significantly greater if you reach out to others to join you. Use the Day of Silence Team Building Sheet to help you put your team together (page 4). Building a Coalition Why Build a Coalition? Think of other school clubs, community organizations, faculty members, staff and local community leaders that might be interested in working with you. These different groups of people will be useful for the following reasons: • To provide programs and use resources more efficiently and effectively and to eliminate any duplication of services (in other words, to avoid reinventing the wheel) • To increase communication between groups and break down stereotypes • To revitalize the sagging energies of members of diverse groups who are trying to do too much on their own • To plan and launch community-wide efforts • To win victories that couldn’t be won by one group alone • To build a stronger power base • To develop new leaders Build it Be strategic in how you construct your coalition. Don’t assume it will come together “naturally.” Who you ask, how you ask them and who you ask first, second and third are all important. Some groups won’t join if others have been asked first. Some groups won’t work together and you won’t be able to get both on board. Take into account you own goals and organizing considerations. It’s important to build a diverse, representative coalition. Start with a list of every student and/or community group that is concerned with, affected by or working on diversity, equity and social justice issues. Be creative with your list; don’t limit it to the most obvious choices. Once you have your comprehensive “wish list,” you can begin to narrow it down according to specific concerns and circumstance. Identify the self-interest or the reason each group might have for wanting to join the coalition, and understand and respect that groups will have different reasons for joining. All needed groups should be signed on and at the table from the beginning. Diversity will only happen if the coalition works on issues that cut across many groups and acknowledges how barriers created by institutional sexism, racism, heterosexism, ableism and classism affect the internal workings of the coalition. Use the Day of Silence Planning Sheet (page 9) to help organize your thoughts. Reaching out to faculty, staff and administration It can sometimes be difficult to get support from your faculty, staff and administration when planning the Day of Silence. One way you can start to build positive relationships with faculty, staff and administration is to be communicative about your plans for the Day of Silence. Providing each member of the faculty, staff and administration with a letter explaining the Day of Silence and what your activities will look like and asking them for their support is a great place to start. If your school’s administration does not support your participation in Day of Silence, there are alternative ways that you can participate, which are discussed on page 6 in this manual. Day of Silence Team Building Sheet NAME SKILLS CONTACT INFO HAVE THEY ARE THEY WHAT HAVE THEY BEEN ON BOARD? AGREED TO DO? CONTACTED? Example: Pat Doe Web design, public P: 555-555-5555 Yes Yes Web Design speaking, social skills C: 555-555-555 E: [email protected] P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: P: C: E: Key: P = Home Phone Number C = Cell Phone Number E = Email Address Day of Silence Organizing Manual 5 III. Silence Throughout the Day Participating in the Day of Silence can be a powerful, moving and sometimes challenging experience. Take care of Day of Silence participants by keeping them well informed and providing them with opportunities to communicate their feelings about the Day. You can do this by supporting them before, during and after the Day of Silence. Before the Day of Silence We recommend that you hold a participants’ meeting to talk about what the Day of Silence might look like and what people might expect. These meetings can consist of current organizers, and even past participants, talking about the logistics of the Day and handing out materials and guidelines. These meetings will bring together participants, creating an important support network. Many people feel more empowered and energized if they are connected to a communal effort. During the Day of Silence The Day of Silence has the potential to be a solitary event; at large schools, participants may be dispersed, and remaining silent for nine hours can feel very isolating. In order to help participants throughout the day, you should set up some support activities and safe spaces. One event could be a “silent lunch,” which would promote visibility, publicity and participant unity. You should also establish a safe space, somewhere participants can visit if they are feeling stressed out during the day. The space should have snacks and someone to talk to, perhaps a supportive counselor or members of a local LGBT organization. For students who want to remain silent but feel the need to express themselves, offering them a space to come and write their thoughts on paper for personal reflection is a good idea. These writings should be completely personal and read only by the author and those who have been given the author’s permission. Taking care of participants should be a number one priority. After the Day of Silence People are going to have much to say once they begin to speak again, so it is important to have additional events, such as a “Breaking the Silence” rally at the end of the day, or a more informal reflection gathering. Breaking the Silence events also provide participants with an opportunity to celebrate their achievement(s) and will provide organizers with a springboard for future organizing. Above all, remember to have fun. IV. Breaking the Silence What does it mean to Break the Silence? A Breaking the Silence event is an opportunity for participants in the Day of Silence to finally speak out about their experience of the Day. Breaking the Silence means something different everywhere you go. In many cases, Breaking the Silence is the first moment that any of the participants speak on the Day of Silence. In some places it is a celebration of the events of the day and individual successes. It can also be a combination of both. It may look like a big rally or like a small meeting, but a Breaking the Silence event is always a great way to end your Day of Silence activities. What does a Breaking the Silence event look like? Participants from previous years have used lots of ways to Break the Silence: "New Year's Eve" Model: Participants assemble at the end of the day, there's a silent countdown to the designated finish time and when the clock strikes, everyone screams, hollers, sings, rings bells, blow whistles, beats drums, shakes, noise makers and so on. "Daybreak" Model: Participants assemble at the end of the day, there's a silent countdown to the designated finish time and when the clock strikes, people begin slowly to make noise or speak as the feeling comes to them. “One Voice” Model: Participants assemble at the end of the day and when the clock strikes participants take turns going up to the microphones and speaking to the entire group. One powerful approach is to have participants describe how it felt to remain silent for nine hours and the responses they received throughout the day. Remember that participating in the Day of Silence can be a very emotional and exhausting event for people. Expect various types of conversations to ensue. Day of Silence Organizing Manual 6 How can I organize a Breaking the Silence event? Organizing a Breaking the Silence event goes along with the Day of Silence Planning. Some important things to remember about planning your Breaking the Silence event: o Permission (Advisor/Administration) o Choosing space to hold event (e.g., gym, cafeteria, sports field, auditorium) o Reserving space for event o Advertising (e.g., posters, flyers, announcements, emails, websites) o Program (e.g., speakers, guests, bands, open mic etc…) o Press Releases o Logistics (e.g., sound system, decorations etc…) o Staff and Responsibilities (what members of your team will need to be there to help and what will their role be while they are there) Use the Day of Silence Planning Timeline for further suggestions (page 8). V. How to Handle Road Blocks When the School Administration says "No" In high schools, approval from the principal or other appropriate staff is important when student organizers are working on any project. When approaching your school's administration, it helps to have the backing of a student club and its advisor(s). If your administration does not approve of or support the Day of Silence, you may want to consider planning a community event outside of school, in the morning or evening. You may also want to consider other types of projects inside the school that would seek to educate the administration and/or decision-maker who has not allowed the Day of Silence to take place. It is important to let all faculty and staff in your school know about the Day of Silence. The best way to let faculty and staff know about the Day of Silence and your reasons for being silent is to write a letter to all faculty and staff and place it in their mailboxes. In the letter be sure to include:  A description of the Day of Silence  Information about the speaking cards  Date of your Day of Silence events  Where they can find out more information  A “Thank You” for their support and understanding Remember, staying silent is not the only way to participate in the day. If silence is not an option at your school, here are five alternative ways you may wish to participate in the event: 1. Ask friends or school groups to join you and gather at a table or area for a silent lunch to recognize the Day of Silence. End this period by spending some time discussing how you feel LGBT students and their allies are silenced because of harassment, discrimination and abuse, and brainstorm ways you can help end the silence. 2. Ask a supportive teacher to let you talk for five minutes at the beginning of class about the Day of Silence and why you think it's important. 3. Wear a ribbon, shirt, button, sticker or other graphic display of support for the Day of Silence. Each person you reach with the name and information about the project may be a supportive ally in organizing the project next year. 4. Write a letter to the editor of your school newspaper, explaining why events like the Day of Silence raise awareness of LGBT issues in education and how these issues are important in your school. 5. Check out the Day of Silence “Resources” online at www.dayofsilence.org and start talking to your teachers, classmates and friends about the Day of silence and why it’s important. While participation may not be possible this year, starting to build a base of support will help you better next year towards creating a truly awesome Day of Silence at your school. Day of Silence Organizing Manual 7 Day of Silence Fact Sheet and FAQ What is the Day of Silence? The Day of Silence is a student-led action where concerned students, from middle school to college, take some form of a vow of silence to bring attention to the name-calling, bullying and harassment—in effect, the silencing—experienced by LGBT students and their allies. Who started the Day of Silence? In 1996, students at the University of Virginia organized the first Day of Silence with over 150 students participating. In 1997, organizers took their effort national and nearly 100 colleges and universities participated. In 2001, GLSEN became the official organizational sponsor. Has the Day of Silence been successful? In 2008, hundreds of thousands of students from more than 8,000 K-12 schools, colleges and universities organized Day of Silence events. These numbers make the Day of Silence one of the largest student-led actions in the United States. The event has drawn significant attention to LGBT issues in schools over the years. For example, GLSEN spokespersons have appeared on national media outlets and there has always been extensive local media coverage from coast to coast, with numerous interviews with students. Why do we need a Day of Silence? GLSEN’s 2007 National School Climate Survey found that 9 out of 10 LGBT students report verbal, sexual or physical harassment at school and more than 30% report missing at least a day of school in the past month out of fear for their personal safety. The Day of Silence helps bring us closer to making anti-LGBT bullying, harassment and name-calling unacceptable in America’s schools. The Day of Silence is a call to action. Students can use this day, as well as other GLSEN Days of Action, as a means of achieving an “ask.” An ask is a very specific action that calls for a change in school policies, climate and culture to achieve a larger goal of safe schools for all, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. Some examples of an ask include: adding sexual orientation and gender identity/expression in your school’s non- discrimination or anti-harassment policy or training teachers to respond effectively to anti- LGBT bullying, harassment and name-calling. Does the work end after the day is over? The Day of Silence is one element of a larger effort to create safe schools for all students regardless of sexual orientation and gender identity/expression. Many communities, in addition to supporting the Day of Silence, host Breaking The Silence events, rallies, legislative lobby days, performances and more – both on the Day of Silence and all year round. We are also asking our national leaders to support policies that create safe schools for all. Many communities are asking their local and state leaders to support and implement similar policies. You can get connected to an ongoing national effort by registering your GSA with GLSEN. What do you have to say about potential opponents to the Day of Silence? The issue at hand is the bullying, harassment, name-calling and violence that students see and face in our schools. The Day of Silence is an activity created and led by students to educate their peers and bring an end to this harassment. Those who do not support the Day of Silence often protest, but rarely contribute positively to finding ways to end anti-LGBT harassment. Some individuals and groups organize events in response to the Day of Silence. These events grossly mischaracterize or simply misunderstand the basic purpose of the Day of Silence. Bringing attention to these events only adds a false credibility to their misinformation about the Day of Silence, GLSEN and the thousands of American students taking action. If you face hostile students or organizations in your school on the Day of Silence remember to remain calm. We encourage you to not get into a debate, make gestures, and certainly not to get into a physical altercation. If you continue to be harassed, we encourage you to contact your GSA advisor or other ally school staff person. We look forward to engaging all organizations and individuals who share The Day of Silence vision of schools free from anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment. This Day of Silence Organizing Timeline will help you organize for the Day of Silence. This is only a suggestion and is certainly not the only way to organize a successful Day of Silence. Consider enlarging this timeline and posting it on the wall where you meet. This timeline counts down to the Day of Silence. We will begin 6 Week 3 – Follow-up weeks before the date itself.  Contact the Jump-Start Student Organizer(s) in your area for any suggestions and just to keep them informed of Week 6 – Coalition Building your events (visit www.glsen.org to get in touch with a  Register your participation at www.dayofsilence.org Jump-Start Organizer in your area)  Discuss your participation with the advisor of your student  Send Press Release to local news again club, or a trusted faculty member.  Start gathering resources and supplies  Talk to your student club and/or other student allies. Tell  Fundraise if necessary them about the Day of Silence and ask if they would be  Design, create and post new flyers and posters interested in supporting and/or partnering with you and/or  Hold another meeting to discuss progress and goals for your student club to organize next week  Visit www.dayofsilence.org/mlk for coalition building  Schedule a meeting for week 2 resources  Schedule a meeting during week 5 with the group of Week 2 – Almost There interested people to explain the Day of Silence further and  Provide faculty/staff/administration with letters explaining to start planning Day of Silence and the reason for the silent protest.  Send reminder notices or make reminder phone calls to all  Check website for events in your area that might be people expected to attend the meeting. interesting to participate in  Check in with Jump-Start Student Organizer(s) you may Week 5 – Holding your Meeting have contacted previously  Hold meeting and provide group with brief explanation of  Send Press Release to local news again the Day of Silence. This may include resources found at  Design, create and post new flyers and posters www.dayofsilence.org.  Gather resources and supplies  Brainstorm ideas for events  Delegate last minute responsibilities  Decide on what events or activities will be included in your  Hold another meeting to discuss progress and goals for Day of Silence (i.e. wearing t-shirts, making stickers, next week Breaking the Silence event, workshops)  Schedule a meeting for week 1  Delegate responsibilities to members of group (i.e. publicity, fundraising, logistics for Breaking the Silence Week 1 – Here at Last! event)  Set goals (long-term and short-term)  Hold meeting to discuss last minute needs and to create a schedule of events and responsibilities for the Day of  Encourage all members at meeting to register their participation at www.dayofsilence.org Silence  Schedule meeting for week 4  Gather last minute resources and supplies  Send Press Release to local news on last time  Design, create and post new flyers and posters Week 4 – Get the Word Out  Check website  Design, create and post flyers, and posters  Follow-up with any last minute contacts, or preparation  Send Press Release to local news reporters  EXPRESS YOURSELF ON THE DAY OF SILENCE  Start fundraising if necessary  Have follow-up meeting to discuss people’s progress and goals for next week  Schedule a meeting for week 3