An Excerpt From My Way Or the Highway: The Micromanagement Survival Guide by Harry E. Chambers Published by Berrett-Koehler Publishers ■ ■ ■ Contents Preface ix PART I ■ Micromanagement: Factand fiction 1 Introduction 3 1 The Scope of Micromanagement 13 2 Team “Me”: Putting the I in Micro 43 3 The Influence of Time 63 4 The Immortalization of Frank Sinatra: “My Way” 81 5 Approval Requirements 99 6 Dysfunctional Monitoring and Reporting 117 PART II ■ Dealing with the People Who Micromanage You: What to do when you are the MicromanagEE 137 7 The Response to Being Micromanaged 141 8 Effective Strategies for EEs: Dealing with the People Who Micromanage You 157 viii CONTENTS PART III ■ Avoiding Becoming the MicromanagER: Symptoms of Micromanagement 177 9 Becoming a Micromanagement Buster: Neutralizing Your Own Micromanagement Behavior 179 10 Negotiating Operating Agreements 195 PART IV ■ Managing a Micromanager: Changing the behavior of others 215 11 When You Manage a Micromanager: Directly Impacting the Behavior of Others 217 12 Conclusion 235 APPENDIX ■ Micromanagement Survey Information 238 Index 243 About the Author 249 1 ■ ■ ■ The Scope of Micromanagement Just about everyone can identify with the frustrations of being micromanaged. Whether it is their current situa- tion or memories of past challenging experiences, most people believe that they have been under the thumb of someone who micromanages. The following chapters will help to determine whether those perceptions are valid, identify some of the reasons the micromanagement took place, and offer options for dealing with current and future situations. Perceptions of being micromanaged are sometimes misinterpretations of fairly common circumstances: ■ Disagreements ■ Being subjected to the influence of others ■ Misunderstandings ■ Unwanted intrusions into your domain ■ Being held accountable 13 14 MICROMANAGEMENT For some people, being micromanaged is a self-fulfilling perception. They do not want to be managed, period! Any attempts to influence their activities or hold them accountable are seen as micro. While most of us have chafed under what we believe is “too close” influence over our activities, it does not necessarily mean that we were being micromanaged. WHAT IS MICROMANAGEMENT? Micromanagement is all about interference and disruption. It occurs when influence, involvement, and interaction begin to subtract value from people and processes. It is the perception of inappropriate interference in someone else’s activities, responsibilities, decision making, and authority. It can also be any activity that creates interference with process, policies, systems, and procedures. Basically, micro- management is the excessive, unwanted, counterproduc- tive interference and disruption of people or things. Micromanagement is a very subjective term. There is a significant gray area between what one person sees as inter- ference and another sees as support and interaction. Partic- ipation, guidance, and collaboration, to some, are seen as meddling, manipulation, and excessive control by others. There is a large gap between the perception of the micro- managEE and the micromanagER. When someone is accused of micromanaging, they often respond, “I’m not micromanaging . . . The Scope of Micromanagement 15 I’m only trying to help. I’m only trying to be sure we’re successful. I’m sharing my experience and knowledge. I’m just trying to make it easier. I just want to know what’s going on. I’m only doing what is necessary to ensure success.” In the past, we branded the scarlet letter A into people’s foreheads who were accused of adultery. Today we tattoo an imaginary scarlet MMon the forehead of a manager and others when we don’t like what they are doing. Statements such as “I’m being micromanaged” frequently really mean I don’t like the style in which I’m being managed. I don’t like other team members messing in my stuff. It’s not fair when everyone doesn’t agree with me. I’m being managed, and I don’t like it. My boss isn’t letting me have my way. I have to be unhappy about something. I don’t like my manager. Poor me. When we don’t like something, we label and demonize it. “Micromanagement” has become the trendy, negative, overused label of choice. Just because someone is unhappy with the activity of others doesn’t always mean he or she is being micromanaged. In today’s workplace, with its ever- escalating tendencies toward whining, blaming, and avoiding 16 MICROMANAGEMENT responsibility, for many, the statement “I am being micro- managed” is the grown-up equivalent to the eternal teen- age lament of “My parents just don’t understand me.” The people being blamed for micromanaging perceive that their interference is minimal if, in fact, it occurs at all. They do not see any problem. Most are shocked if they are openly accused of micromanaging. The ability to deal with any micromanagement effec- tively is contingent upon our ability to reduce the gap of perception between the micromanagEE and the microman- agER. We have to shrink and lighten the areas of gray! Question: When do participation, collaboration, and oversight become micromanagement? Answer: When they interfere with performance, quality, and efficiency. When they become barriers to achieve- ment, or impediments to getting things done. Micro- management and micromanagers do not add value to individuals or processes. Regardless of the intent, the results are subtraction, not addition. Figure 1.1 depicts the transition from adding value to individuals and process toward interference by impeding the efficiency and productivity of individuals and process. The Scope of Micromanagement 17 Figure 1.1 The Micromagagement Cascade High Innovation Control and Manipulation Creativity of Time Coaching In SIunbaobrilditiyn atote Cascading Guiding te Self Value to r Individual f Control and and Process Teaching e Domination of r Methodology (Addition) Structuring e n Excessive Communicating c Demands for e Approval Mentoring Dysfunctional Monitoring Tracking and Reporting Empowering Refusal to Delegate/Collaborate Leading on Substantive Work Low High Impeding the Efficiency/Productivity of Individuals and Process (Subtraction) The positive contributions such as innovation communicating creativity mentoring coaching tracking guiding empowering teaching leading structuring 18 MICROMANAGEMENT give way to manipulation of time dominance of self control of methodology excessive demands for approval excessive monitoring dysfunctional delegation/ and reporting collaboration The gap between the perceptions of the micromanagER and the micromanagEE is the breeding ground for misunder- standing, morale problems, high frustration, and declining productivity. The broader the gap, the less job satisfaction there is for everyone involved. The most important factor in dealing with microman- agement and neutralizing its negative impact is to discover precisely when the interference and disruption occurs. Without this discovery, the disconnect in the perceptions of micromanagement will be never-ending. The more accurate and timely the discovery, the quicker and more effectively the damage and debilitating costs of microman- agement can be reduced. WHAT MICROMANAGEMENT ISN’T Micromanagement is not abusive management. Behaviors such as temper tantrums, ridicule, public embarrassment, talking behind people’s back, inappropriate language, dis- ciplining to punish, intentional untruths, prejudice, de- ceit, biased performance appraisals, intentional disrespect, demand of blind loyalty, and other similar demonstrations are the realm of abusers, not people who micromanage.