! 010 05 A mQUEsnONS TO ASK Y01JRSEI.F I . I -:Are you a victi~? A prosecutor? A rescuer? I '-Whose li(escriptare you fonowing? ,) ,-What part ofyou is a child? A parent?, An" adult? ,-HoW'much ofyour relationship'S 'Yithothers issuperftcial? . Howmuch trulyintimate? , -Do you stroke people positiv~1y.togive them:a feeling of OKness,ordo'you'discountthem withnegativestroking?, . -Are you a wimet or a loser? ',' When yo~ undtrstand these questions, and beginto find tlltir, answers; you will be well on the wa,jlto becoming whtlt you werea/Wllysmeanttobe~ ", , ' BORN TO WIN "EJIrlchlng, s1Imuladng,re'lVarding, , . ~rllftycme,"'" estedinunderstandiJlghimself,hisrelatlo~ wluiodie.-' '.and hisgoals." -:-~NSAS CITYfIMp "Themoste"cllingcontributiOnto,self-UIIIIersf8ndiII.!", . , . . . -PROORESSIYI! WOMAtoi " , ,'DR. MURlELJAMES'1S a licensedmarriageand family-'coU' nieIOJ'~an international" consu1t,nf in human relations tOlcwemment ..pneief. '~ school !iystems,,and ttusiness. and.an ,adviserto the California ~ sion on The Status of Women. Dl. James receivedher doctorate kom the OnivCrsityof'Caltfomiaat Berkeley, She is vice--preS1dentol the 18;-- ~ ternationalTfansactional' Analysis, AsSociation, and.was a c:olleaaue ~ 4)r. Eric Berne. Dr. Jarnes is the author of TRANSAcT'IONAL' ANAL- YSIS FOR MOMS A!'ID DADS,BORN TO LOVE, a,nd THS OK! " BOSS,and i. the co-aUthor of WINNING WITH PEOPLE and NEW SELF. ' , ". , DR.' DOROTHY JONGEWARD iJo,'he president nf tI!. T,..s/octI...1 Analysis M;anagetnent Institute~ She earned .her Ph.D. at CUj{QM'ia, . Western' University, and is a -TeJl.ch'ng Mer:nber at' tlieIntemaliooai Transactional Analysis Association, a Prof.ror of Human Deh.vior ;and> Transactional Analysis at Califorma,American tJnivenity:, aad a,life member ot the California Association p{ Marriaat and f_mil)' Cou.. selon. Dr. Jongewardis the'author of EVERYBODY WINS: "Trans...' ,i actional Analysis Applied to Oraaniutions, and, is.theca-author "of AFFtRMATIVE ACfIONFOR WOMEN, WINNING WITH PEO-! PLE, and WOMEN AS WINNERS, - , .' < - '. ' ..,. - = ~ , .. Z ~ , . ~. ;- !~ i ' f &: " , " ~ \ . , Q . ' ~ · i " - , . . . .' . - , " \ (f- . Foreword IIbasb!:en said that the psychotherapist's job istopu\bimself out. of business. Researcb and writing efforts in tbe field are l1irected , toward curing patienm faste."in awaytbat isfun, ecoriom~, and long lasting. The ideal in,therapy isthe one'session cure,Ihe ideal inwriting istbe one'book cure. Somucb oftbewriting in ~sycltol.' ogyiswriuen like hieroglyphiCs on the llosetta Stone that aJe..... fr""",is Champollion tberapist or writer isinvariably I.eeded for. the decipb~g al'd .application. . . . Born 7'0 Wi. b)f'&'SOItbis middle-man system an4. pRSi:nll psychological insights in anintmediately recognizable way. Itisin . 'line Witbtbe '10's .trend or making all information more dily available.1Opeople, and the quarian ofbrinfing IOplher A"." iliformation from both .worlds. Humamstic Man. Ulterest!l'i in ~ petsonal.growth and higher levels of awareness,can noW die information intelligently .tllat before be could handle only .. . inlellectually. Bor.'10Wi. seemsfreeofthecodifying"gameswtiten play;" Inthewriting~tylethere isapatience,thoroughness,clarity,and "giving"that isunique inthe field..Here the needsof the reaaer are met, 'lot discounted. The numerous examples sbould be meani~1 ~ reader and student aliJce;even. 10 those pro- grammed forJ1:1inimainlsi8hllt hastbeclearestuseofe1<amplesI . bave s~n inanybook, and.! see itasalandmark book in.the r~d of psychological writing. , . .. (AsSistant Clinical Professor 8tepheB B.KaJPlll'Wi,JI.D. of Psycbiatry, Univeisity of San francisoo 'California Med~ Center July 1971 San francisoo, California) vii I. i " , . , '. ..:;;;.:;.. "" . '"""3§. """'"~;; """ ~",' .~:;.§ ",'" > . : ; ::;>0a:..~':,"~;:."t'~:::: :t >.. "1.-~