Attract The Right Girl How To Find Your Perfect Girl And Make Her Chase You For A Relationship By Bruce Bryans Legal Disclaimer Although the information in this book may be very useful, it is sold with the understanding that neither the author nor the publisher is engaged in presenting specific psychological, emotional, or sexual advice. Nor is anything in this book intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation, or cure for any specific kind of psychological, emotional, or sexual problem. Each person has unique needs and this book cannot take these individual differences into account. This book is copyright © 2013 by Bruce Bryans with all rights reserved. It is illegal to copy, distribute, or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part or to contribute to the copying, distribution, or creating of derivative works of this book. No part of this report may be reproduced or transmitted in any form whatsoever, electronic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any informational storage or retrieval system without expressed written, dated and signed permission from the author. Introduction Sometimes I think back on how I used to be when I was trying to attract and build relationships with women. It’s enjoyable to me because I’m able to see how far I’ve come and how much I’ve grown as a man. It gives me a sense of perspective on what’s actually important in life and what’s not so important; especially when it comes to getting that one dream girl. I think back on the kinds of women that I used to date and I realize that no matter how gorgeous some of them might have appeared to be on the surface, they all had some sort of emotional baggage or character flaw that would just end up driving me crazy. I mean, no matter how pretty, cute, fine, or gorgeous she was I just couldn’t seem to find a woman who was free from all the “drama” so to speak. In fact, one time it got so bad that I ended up in a relationship with this one girl who was obsessively jealous, manipulative, and a total emotional shipwreck. It was hell-on-earth. I remember it so vividly because that’s when I began to seriously consider where my life was headed. I started to wonder what kind of man I was if all I seemed to attract were these extremely damaged women. In reality it wasn’t a fun time for me, I can remember that much. Of course, it was kind of fun in the sense that I was playing the field and having a good time, but it was costing me my peace of mind, life success, and long-term happiness. I must actually thank her some day because that experience did help (force) me to want to change the kind of man I was so that I could find a phenomenal, drama-free woman to build a meaningful relationship with. And you know what? I soon realized that no matter how beautiful, gorgeous, smart, funny, or sexy a woman was if she didn’t have a beautiful CHARACTER, she was a complete waste of my time. I refused to lower my standards and focused on dating highly attractive women who also had hearts of gold. It became that serious for me. I eventually determined NOT to date women based solely on physical attractiveness or mutual chemistry alone. I figured out that without a strong character, it was impossible for me to have the kind of relationship that few people ever experience in this world. I realized that only a woman that embodied things like honesty, sincerity, kindness, loyalty, respect for men, and gracefulness could keep me interested for a very long time. Without these kinds of qualities, no woman could or would be able to build a deeply intimate and powerful relationship with me. I wanted a woman that embodied that which was good in the world and beautiful IN a woman. I wanted to have the kind of girlfriend that I could carry before kings and queens and she’d be able to fit right in if need be. In other words, I wanted a woman of noble character. A woman’s character or lack thereof can make or break you. No matter how strong or in control you think you are as a man, don’t be fooled. When you decide to develop a relationship with a woman, she WILL have an influence on you no matter what. This is why it is essential to seek out a woman that has the kind of qualities that will add VALUE to your life. And if she’s not adding value to you she’s definitely taking it away from you. You don’t want that now do you? Of course not! If you really want a relationship with a ‘Total 10’ woman who’s drop- dead gorgeous, a blast to be around, and committed to treating you like royalty, you need to learn how to judge a woman’s worth by her character instead of just her looks. I’m not saying that outward beauty isn’t important, because it is. In fact, for men, it’s essential. But don’t let her outward appearance determine your level of interest in her. So if you’re currently looking for Ms. Right here’s a tip: Resolve only to date a woman if she possesses the kind of virtuous qualities that you know will add value to your life. By doing this you’ll find that you’ll become a beacon for high-quality women, simply because you’ve made a conscious decision to raise your standards. In fact, make it a declaration and tell yourself often that you only date high-quality, beautiful women who have hearts of gold. Your boldness in setting a standard WILL set you apart from most guys and you’ll find yourself assessing a woman based on her actions and behaviors as opposed to her beauty alone. This will put you in a position of power since you’re no longer the kind of guy that’s always trying to get a woman’s approval. Now, you’re seeing if a woman has the kind of character that YOU approve of. This makes you out to be a leader in her eyes. In the pages that follow, I’m going to describe a ‘Total Package’ woman and why having her as a girlfriend will add far more success and happiness to your life. This kind of woman thinks very differently from the average woman when it comes to dating men and she’s quite picky when selecting a potential mate. A woman like this is not only looking for Mr. Right, but a Mr. Right that fits her subconscious image of the ideal man. She has a lot of options and very high standards when it comes to men, because she knows she’s worth it. By learning how to recognize a high-quality woman, you’ll be in a much better position to attract her into your life. Also, by becoming just as selective as she is when it comes to a potential mate, you’ll become far more attractive to her. The first step to getting what you want is to know what you want, and the second step to getting what you want is to DESERVE what you want. This is the secret to attracting the woman of your dreams, because if you don’t become highly selective when it comes to dating women, you’ll continue to fall prey to low-quality women and lackluster relationships. Tables Of Contents Chapter 1: Know What You Want And Deserve What You Want Increasing Your Standards Gets You Better Results On Finding Miss Right Defining the Woman of Your Dreams Why Most Guys Fail to Attract Their Ideal Woman Chapter 2: How To Recognize And Select A High-Quality Girlfriend The One Rare Quality of a Phenomenal Woman High-Quality Women Treat Their Men Like Kings How She Adds to Your Success and Happiness The Four Qualities That Make Her a Keeper What Makes Her So Special Anyway Chapter 3: On Being High-Status And Communicating Value The Five Qualities That a High-Quality Woman Desires in a Man Why Most Guys Fail With Remarkable Women How to Be Authentically Attractive Become the Superior Choice to the Woman You Want Chapter 4: Setting The Foundations For A Long-Term Relationship The Paradox of Attracting Romantic Relationships The Caged Bird Philosophy: How to Make Her Want You All to Herself Make Her Chase You For a Relationship Bonus Chapter ??????? CHAPTER 1: Know What You Want And Deserve What You Want Increasing Your Standards Gets You Better Results Dating an average woman that isn’t a good match for you or who isn’t highly attracted to you or interested in adding value to your life is actually WORSE than being single. Ending up with a woman who isn’t compatible is a sentence to a life filled with misery, boredom, and continuous conflict and frustration. Believe me on this one, you don’t want to start a romantic relationship with anyone that doesn’t meet your high standards. In the past I’ve tried to date women on the basis of “hotness” alone, and the results have been nothing short of frustrating. Chemistry and compatibility are extremely important when choosing an ideal girlfriend. But it doesn’t stop there. In order for you to attract and choose the BEST woman for you, one who has the ‘Total Package’, you actually have to increase your standards, and clarify exactly what qualities in a woman are most important to you. By clarifying what you want you’ll begin to filter out low-quality women from your dating experience and make room for superior women. As soon as you make the decision to ONLY date women that meet certain standards, you actually become a beacon for higher-quality women. You’ll ‘beat the odds’ so to speak, when it comes to finding and dating higher-quality women by refusing to settle for women that do not add the kind of value to your life that you know you deserve. And there’s the magic word right there… Deserve. You must know what you want, and you must believe that you deserve to have it. When these two things converge…then and only then will you begin to see a major difference in the kinds of women that take notice of YOU first. This is a much better position to be in instead of you always having to chase women in the first place. A ‘Total Package’ Woman Will Make Your Life MUCH Easier Building an honest, open, loving, and trust-filled relationship with a woman that is HIGHLY INVESTED AND INTERESTED in YOU is VERY different from trying to build a relationship with a woman who is not. This is important and should not be taken lightly. Why? Because many of the tools and techniques I suggest in the final section of this book will either make or break your relationship based on this premise. If the woman you’re with is VERY attracted to you and wants nothing more than to stand by your side for the long-haul, then these techniques will help you to anchor that attraction and transform it into a powerful force for developing a passionate, blissful relationship. You won’t have to use mind games and persuasive tricks to keep her happy, and you won’t have to resort to wasting vast amounts of time or money to keep her interested in you. On the other hand, if the woman you’re with is NOT very attracted or compatible with you from the outset, using these tools and techniques will make your relationship a one-sided affair where you’re doing all of the giving and she’s not. This is NOT the kind of scenario you want for your life. This is why it is extremely important for you to choose a woman that is right for you, who is also very attracted to you, and who’s interested in taking things to the next level with you. Trying to force an uninterested woman into a deep, harmonious relationship is like trying to force a round peg into a square hole. It just won’t work. This is why it’s so important for you to choose a high-quality woman from the outset. This will allow you build a solid foundation for a successful relationship. On Finding Miss Right So you’re on your way to becoming the kind of man that can attract the woman that is right for you. You’re doing the best you can to be the best version of yourself at this particular point of your own personal development, and you can’t help but wonder...where or when is she going to show up? Patience my friend, she will come. If you build it (your character and personality)...she will come. But if you want to increase your chances of finding that special girl, you’re going to have to get outside of your comfort zone. Often. Just about anything that you want to achieve or accomplish in this life that is out of the ordinary will require you to get outside of your comfort zone. And the same applies for finding that special girl. Obviously doing the things you’ve been doing for years hasn’t been working out so well, so why not shake things up a bit? And have you really sat down and asked yourself: “What kind of activities does the kind of woman I want to be with engage in, and where exactly can I find her? What is she passionate about and what are her values and personal beliefs?” Asking yourself these questions may quickly narrow down your choices of where and how to look. For instance, it’s highly unlikely that you’ll find a high-quality, relationship-material girlfriend in a strip club. I mean, seriously now, let’s think about it. Do you really think that you’ll attract the woman of your dreams (assuming you’re looking for the classy type) in a strip club? This is highly unlikely. Use common sense and really think about it. And when you ask yourself that question, you must take into account the kind of activities that interest you as well. Where do the kinds of women that you’re really interested in hang out? And what similar interests might you share with this kind of woman? You want to get outside of your comfort zone, but you don’t want to get outside of who you are and what you’re all about. For instance, if you’re into travel, exploration, and adventure, then it’s highly unlikely that you’ll find a fulfilling relationship with a woman whose greatest idea of fun and adventure is a shopping trip to the mall. You won’t be very happy in the long run. So with this in mind, try to be as honest with yourself as possible by asking first what it is that you want, and secondly what kinds of activities does your ideal woman engage in? Defining the Woman of Your Dreams Sit down someplace quiet and visualize what kind of relationship you’d really like to be in with your ideal woman and begin thinking about the qualities she possesses that would truly make you happy in a relationship. As your vision takes shape, write down at least ten things that you want in your dream girl. Be painfully honest with yourself so that you’re honest with the women you come across as well. It may seem harsh, and even downright impossible to narrow your wants down, but few guys have the courage to even try. Remember that you shouldn’t set limits on yourself, but you MUST focus on what will make YOU happy instead of what will impress your friends, build your ego, or make you feel important. Knowing what will make you happy means that you also know what will make you unhappy. So don’t put anything on your list if it isn’t authentic. And there’s something else that I want you to keep in mind… When everyone is your customer, no one is your customer. What this means is that if you don’t define what it is you want by narrowing down your options, you’ll always get what it is you don’t really want. When it comes to attracting the right woman, she’ll never show up on your radar because you’ll have no idea what she really looks like or how she behaves. So it’s in your best interest to think about what you want and define your “customer.” I should also note that this is in no way, shape or form, about finding the perfect specimen of a woman. This is about being honest with yourself about what you truly want in a highly compatible mate. What usually happens is that we settle for a woman (usually because of fear) and over the course of several months or years we end up trying to change them to fit our list. And believe me, whether or not you actually sit down to make a list by writing it out, you DO have a list, even if it’s deep inside your subconscious mind. When we’re finally honest with ourselves (after realizing this person isn’t