A PREVENTATIVE MINISTRY FOR PASTORAL BURNOUT A STUDY OF ELIJAH IN 1 KINGS 19 A THESIS SUBMITTED TO THE FACULTY OF GORDON-CONWELL THEOLOGICAL SEMINARY IN PARTIAL FULFILLMENT OF REQUIREMENTS FOR THE DEGREE DOCTOR OF MINISTRY BY MICHAELJ . BOYLE MAY 2012 Copyright ©2012 by Michael J. Boyle. All Rights Reserved. To Meloday, My Wife — Christ Follower, Ministry Partner, Godly Mother, and Encouraging Friend CONTENTS ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS ABSTRACT CHAPTER 1 THE PROPOSAL FOR A PREVENTATIVE MINISTRY FOR PASTORAL BURNOUT The Problem and Setting R P Literature Review N W Biblical Framework R Project Design B O Outcomes W CHAPTER 2 LITERATURE REVIEW OF PASTORAL BURNOUT n Burnout Defined Causes of Pastoral Burnout 10 Preventing Pastoral Burnout 34 CHAPTER 3 THE SCRIPTURES CONCERNING MINISTRY BURNOUT AND THE LIFE OF ELUAH 59 The Risks of Ministry Burnout 60 The Burnout of Elijah 71 Yahweh’s Renewal and Recomissioning of Elijah 79 CHAPTER 4 INTRODUCTION OF THE 50,000 MILE CHECK UP THESIS-PROJECT 98 50,000 Mile Check Up Syllabus 98 Session 1 Welcome, Orientation and Pastoral Burnout 100 Session 2 Rescheduling for Rest and Renewal 105 Session 3 Reconnecting Spiritually with the Lord 109 Session 4 Realigning with Your Calling: Self Awareness and God’s Shaping 113 Session 5 Realigning with Your Calling: Strength Based Leadership 118 Session 6 Reengaging Ministry Friendships and Relational Networks 122 Session 7 My Pastoral Preventative Burnout Game Plan 127 CHAPTER 5 EVALUATION OF 50,000 MILE CHECK UP THESIS-PROJECT 129 Description of the 50,000 Mile Check Up Retreat 129 Strengths and Weaknesses of the Retreat 130 Recommendations 134 APPENDIX 1 REVISED SCHEDULE OF 50,000 MILE CHECK UP 136 APPENDIX 2 50,000 MILE CHECK UP EVALUATION FORM FOR COUPLES 137 BIBLIOGRAPHY 141 VITA 147 ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS The 50,000 Mile Check Up retreat was conducted over a four day period of time in July 2009 and July 2011. This event was made possible through the prayer, support and efforts of many friends and colleagues in ministry. In particular, a special thanks and appreciation to e Dr. Ron Klassen, Executive Director of RHMA (Rural Home Missionary Association), a long-time friend and co-worker in ministry, for a shared dream, vision and implementation of this retreat. e The Coaches of the 50,000 Mile Check Up: Friends and colleagues in ministry Pastor Jim Fann, Dr. Bob MacRae, Professor Pam MacRae, Dr. Steve Mathewson, Professor Bill Torgesen, who gave their time, expertise, experience, wisdom and counsel. ® The six RHMA couples, who were encouraging and humble guinea pigs to graciously listen, respond and assist in improving the 50,000 Mile Check Up. e My wife, Meloday, who served as the gracious and hospitable host for the couples and coaches with all meals, snacks and coordinating accommodations. e The Board of RHMA, providing the generous grants through the Rediger Fund which allowed these Check Ups to be conducted with no cost for the six couples and providing honorariums for the coaches. e Brian Rhodes, friend and Executive Director of Awana International and Awana Clubs International, for providing the accommadations for the 50,000 Mile Check Up. ABSTRACT Research demonstrates that burnout is experienced by those who work in the fields of social service and care for people. The most recent research also demonstrates that burnout is a factor faced by those in the pastorate. There are specific causes of pastoral burnout and there are specific ways to prevent burnout and to be restored from burnout. The Scriptures demonstrate that the nature of ministry places the pastor at a high risk for pastoral burnout. The burnout of the prophet Elijah in 1 Kings 19 is the framework for a ministry of preventing pastoral burnout. The intentional ministry of Yahweh addresses the burnout of Elijah by providing the rest, renewal, reconnecting, realigning and reengaging that he needs and so that Yahweh can recommission Elijah, His prophet. vi CHAPTER 1 THE PROPOSAL FOR A PREVENTATIVE MINISTRY FOR PASTOR BURNOUT The Problem and Setting Each year pastors begin new ministries with the anticipation of fulfilling the great commission, shepherding their congregation and leading the people of God. As ministry unfolds and years pass, their anticipation turns to frustration, their shepherding becomes discouraging and their leading comes through conflict. Oftentimes amidst this turmoil, their marriage and family endures the stress filled years with broken communication and unfulfilled expectation. Over time, the pastor is depleted of energy, passion and the ability to lead. With his tank running on empty and with nothing to give, the pastor is unsure where to turn or where to get help. Unattended, this condition leads the pastor down a road of disappointment, discouragement, anger, bitterness and depression. Exhausted and unable to provide the care, leading or shepherding of the congregation, he may be fired, dismissed or resign his pastorate. He is burned out and unable to pastor a church or care for his family. His options are to seek a recovery church, a counseling center, a new job, a new church and little help to restore his life, family and ministry. As a pastor who began with the excitement of reaching his world for Christ, the pastor finds himself struggling to live and even questioning his role, ministry or any involvement in the Jocal church. If there is any hope in the church, it is to hide on the back row and never be involved in vocational ministry again. When we watch how things work, we agree that there is normal wear and tear on machines, cars, highways, homes and our lives. Whenever a new item is purchased it is comes with an “Owner's Manual.” In this manual, you are instructed on how to operate the new item, how to troubleshoot problems, how to care for your new item and the necessary maintenance to keep it operating at its greatest proficiency. And if you do all that is in accordance with the “Owner’s Manual”, your warranty is secured and your new item will last a long time. Instead of wearing out and burning out the lives, families and ministries of a pastor, can a ministry be created to help prevent burnout? This is a ministry that provides a “50,000 Mile Check Up” for the pastor and his spouse. This check up could realign the pastor with his spouse, his personal values and ministry vision. This check-up would be done through assessments, a four day coaching retreat and a game plan for the next 5-10 years of ministry. Literature Review Burnout is a term used in many popular magazines, articles or even pop psychology, but how is burnout defined or described? When burnout is discussed, are there symptoms that can be identified? And if the symptoms are identified, does the literature provide any steps of restoration for those who have burned out? Out of the discussion of symptoms and care for those that face burnout, is there any preventative way to avoid this happening in the lives of people? Burnout may be a condition faced by many people in the workforce, but is it a real condition faced by pastors? Have studies been completed or literature written that provide 2 special insight and understanding for burnout among the clergy? Even if the problem can be identified and after burnout, bring about restoration, is there any way in which a pastor can avoid burnout? Are there certain practices a pastor can do or special help a pastor can receive that can help him avoid burnout? Biblical Framework Though pastors may experience burnout in their ministry experience, do the Scriptures provide examples or experiences of the leaders of God’s people suffering in this way? The Scriptures are replete with leaders in the nation of Israel and the church of Jesus Christ. These leaders have demonstrated the responsibility of leading, care and protecting God's people; however, have they been overwhelmed by this leadership? Have they been discouraged or depressed from what God has called them to da? And if the leaders of the Bible have been discouraged and burned out, are there any ways in which these leaders were strengthened and restored to ministry? Do the Scriptures provide the ways or the means by which this process may take place? If the Bible does identify a problem of burnout, the Bible should provide some help for these leaders. Does the Bible provide extended narrative passages giving us a description of burnout and how to recover from it? Are there specific verses that speak of the symptoms or experiences of burnout? Do we find principles of the Scriptures that may help us see the reality of burnout but specific ways to recover from burnout? Project Design This project is to create a “50,000 Mile Check Up” for pastoral couples. This is designed to bring three pastoral couples into a coaching experience over a four day period of time to help in the prevention of burnout. The “50,000 Mile Check Up” will be comprised of Assessments The pastoral couple completes a questionaire, an assessment of their marriage, and a strengths survey. Pastors complete assessments on their personal values, vison and their ministry values and vision and a DVD of their preaching. Coaching A coaching model is used which will take the focus away from the counselor, teacher or mentor and focus the experiences on the pastoral couples in attendance. The coaching ministry uses all these relationships, but as a coach drawing out of the couples what God has put in their hearts. It is the application of Proverbs 20:5, “A plan in the heart of a man is like deep water, But a man of understanding draws it out.” The coaches work with couples in the areas of marriage, the pastor’s personal values and vision and his minstry values and vision. Teaching A series of seven sessions are prepared and presented to the three couples during the “Check Up.” These messages from 1 Kings 19 are to provide a biblical foundation for