Does it ever occur to women that maybe a guy might like to have a plan…He’s not sure that he could just walk up to you and you’d respond if he said: “I like you”. - Hitch This book is copyright 2009 with all rights reserved. It is illegal to copy, distribute, or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part, or to contribute to the copying, distribution, or creating of derivative works of this book. By downloading this book, you hereby agree that you are of a legal age to view material of a sexual nature and some use of profanity. Copyright © 2009 www.modernmanliving.com By Sean Adams All rights reserved. CONTENTS INTRODUCTION PART ONE: SEE THE MATRIX 1 Change how you see male-to-female relationships. PART TWO: UNDERSTANDING ATTRACTION 11 A full definition of attraction and what attracts a woman. PART THREE: THE IMPORTANCE OF VALUE 20 If women have not wanted you so far, here is why. PART FOUR: HAVE A SEDUCTIVE INTERACTION 31 Break away from normal conversation and learn how to seduce. PART FIVE: HANDLING INTERRUPTS AND RESISTANCE 41 Seduction is never straight forward. How to overcome obstacles. PART SIX: DECIDING WHERE TO TAKE IT 60 Avoid being selfish and find a mutual agreement for you both. PART SEVEN: HOW IT ALL WORKS TOGETHER 65 How to use seduction. A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION INTRODUCTION I am no seduction guru. And I don‟t go around picking up hot women and models. All I can really say is- I do have the knowledge and the understanding to apply these seduction principles to my life whenever I need to. I‟m not wasting my time on all of the wrong arguments, or feeling insecure when a girl tests me, or even being hurt when I get rejected. I see seduction as an ordinary part of life. All of our lives can be fitted into categories- and seduction is a tool which clears up your relationship category. You don‟t have to be confused by it all. You can just get on with it. And a lot of guys play by the wrong rules. Also, they have their own inner issues which prevent them from taking on seduction. But one day- they will need these skills. Otherwise they will just get trapped into a relationship they do not want, with a woman who only wants them because she feels safe with a weaker male figure- she feels secure knowing she can control him. But you want to be in control of what you want and what you can get. Some guys can have these techniques naturally. If you ask them how they do it, they‟ll just say, “It‟s easy”. Well, it‟s not easy if you play with the wrong rules. It‟ll be like playing tennis with a basketball. And you are not a loser for wanting to learn seduction. Your mum would never tell you the right rules. She will tell you to be polite with women, show respect, buy her drinks, look after her. And yes, they are all valid- but they come AFTER you have sparked attraction and you are seen as a high value man. A GUY NEEDS A PLAN TO GET THE GIRL HE WANTS I never used to believe that. I thought it was coercive to have a “plan”. I believed all you needed was to be yourself and just have a conversation. Fortunately, after a lot of confusion, I learned otherwise. Some guys out there are not so lucky. i | I N T R O D U C T I O N www.modernmanliving.com A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION The „Hitch‟ quote was spot on. A man can no longer go up to a woman and say, “I like you”. He will only get a “Thank you” with a hidden thought of, “I bet he says that to all of the girls”. And anyway, why should that be enough? Her knickers do not fall off simply through saying you like her. And the “Be yourself” thing…How do must guys achieve the “Be yourself” attitude with women? Usually it is the DEFAULT way of doing things… - They give without asking for anything in return. - They compliment without reason. - They offer everything. - They want to chase after a girl without her even attracting him. What we do not realise is we are working backwards. We are showing all of our protector and provider traits. But we don‟t realise women are independent nowadays, and we are part of a 6.7 BILLION race where there are an abundance of men out there for her to choose from. It‟s ridiculous when you think about it like that. Even women feel it is ridiculous to believe his compliments are enough reason for her to go with him. And unless they learn how attraction works- they have no clue where they are going wrong. This leads to them getting frustrated with women for all the wrong reasons. As you read this book, you will know we respond to evolutionary wiring, but we are living in a modern world with new rules. It is bound to create conflict. Many of the men who believe the above method are feeding off of what women tell them to be true, when really- the real ways to seduce her are a secret. Society wants to keep it a secret. It could be a feminine influence, but you will see why it has been kept a secret. Women have so many consequences they have to consider- and as a man, we have to understand them. There are so many consequences for a woman by letting you seduce her. We cannot truly believe that going up to a girl and saying to her you find her attractive works….Reason? Because so many other guys living on the old rules keep trying it. ii | I N T R O D U C T I O N www.modernmanliving.com A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION And when they have said she is attractive and she “fell for it”, she ended up going through the worst consequences- being used, or being pregnant, or he fed her lies and she latched onto them etc. My belief is always about living as a man in a modern world. We need to catch up to how things work. If you are still living on old rules- then you won‟t get anywhere. So in this guide, you will learn how seduction should REALLY work. The method has been working for generations, yet today- our challenges are different. This is not a guide on how to get a woman into bed. There is clearly a separation between the sexes- each must fit like ying and yang into their roles. But women are not your play toy for sex. Their emotions and desires are things you should take into consideration. SEDUCTION IS A BALANCE Use it to your own gain whilst neglecting hers will only breed more insecurity in women . If you have a strosenngs eo f your own rea- lyiteys, women will follow you, but she will ENJO fYollowing yo u. Forget whaot csiety tellso uy, and do not feel guilty for se duction. Bee‟s dance. Lions Roar. Peacocks spread. Men compete. Seduction is always happening, so learn how to do it effectively. iii | I N T R O D U C T I O N www.modernmanliving.com A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION PART ONE: SEE THE MATRIX Seduction has a very ne.g Ia mtiveea nc,o nenveonta thioen dictionary definition is „to entice someone astray‟. But when seducing the opposite sex, we have to understand that seduction MUST be used in order to make things happen. It plays an important role in human culture. Well, in any culture I should imagine. If we never tried to seduce and “entice the opposite sex astray”, then both men and women would be at a stand off. Women would be thinking, “Why hasn‟t he swept me off my feet yet?”, and men would be thinking, “Month subscription of porn. Very nice. How much?” Seduction is bad! Seduction is naughty! …Ugh, what poppycock. How would any race continue without somebody being seduced? Obviously when two people first meet it is hard to know whether they are compatible or not. So if either want to have sex- it requires action…it requires seduction. Typically, it should be the man who takes the lead to make something happen. The women will be merely suggestive to encourage his actions in a subtle way. THE MAIN CONFLICT WITH SEDUCTION Who is gaining from seduction? The reason why there has been such a clash about the subject is because women seem to get the bad end of the deal. Women want more than just sex. They want a long term partner who will love them. The man is simply out for sex (initially). So if he manages to seduce her to do the bad thing, the man can easily leave while the woman feels used as he goes his separate way. 1 | S E E I N G T H E M A T R I X www.modernmanliving.com A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION This is why women had to flip the script. They were constantly getting the bad end of the deal. And as pregnancy and babies can often be the result of some nookie- it leaves the women in quite a predicament. And thus, society encouraged women not to give in so easily to men‟s manipulation. “HE‟S ONLY OUT FOR ONE THING” Nobody can blame women for that ideologTyh.e re have been many seducers throughout history who have fed women a web of lies just to satisfy theirB uluts itf. women held on to the ideology, then there would ab estale mate.T he struggle to seduce would become more and more difficu lt. There had to become a balanc e. THE CHANGE OVER Fortunately, women don‟t latch on to the notion so tightly. It wasn‟t so long ago when a new wave of female sexual expression came. Women were allowed to say they like sex, and they were allowed to enjoy it. They have more play things upstairs than Toys „R‟ Us. And because of the pill and contraception‟s- they can have sex without any repercussions. And that is a position we live in today- women enjoy sex (I‟ll explain later). However, the emotional aftermath has still not reached a clear cut point. Men have tried to compensate for it by being more affectionate with women. They would respect a woman and become „the nice guy‟. He would do whatever he could to prove that he is a man worthy of making her happy and be there for her. 2 | S E E I N G T H E M A T R I X www.modernmanliving.com A „MODERN MAN LIVING‟ GUIDE TO SEDUCTION But once again, men began to realise that being the nice guy did not work. In the same way that women once felt used and worthless- men began to feel the same way. He would do all that he could for her, only to find that his feelings were not matched. Guys created a community to learn seduction- Pick Up Artists. They were the frustrated ones who had the balls to admit defeat and learn attraction from scratch. They wanted to understand it. There are so many conflicting messages about how a guy should be. WOMEN SAY THEY WANT ONE THING, BUT THEY RESPOND TO ANOTHER Some wires were clearly being c rossed. And these crossed wires go on all the damn time. So you can see why seduction is so difficult. We are seeing the world through the wrong lens. So the first rpt aof learning uscetdion is to…. UNDERSTAND WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON WITH MEN AND WOMEN It would drive you crazy to try and understand all the back n‟ forth fiasco and conflicts. So to understand how to spark intimacy with a woman you have to: FORGET EVERYTHING YOU HAVE BEEN TOLD It‟s a generalisation for you to do that, but you can‟t risk being polluted with all the naff ideas out there. So forget what your mum told you. Forget what your girl friend told you in your teens before she left you. Forget what you see in romance films. You should probably forget what your dad told you too if he ever took the time out for it. 3 | S E E I N G T H E M A T R I X www.modernmanliving.com