A Counselor’s Guide to WORKING MEN WITH Matt Englar-Carlson Marcheta P. Evans Thelma Duffey AMERICAN COUNSELING ASSOCIATION 5999 Stevenson Avenue | Alexandria, VA 22304 www.counseling.org A Counselor’s Guide to WORKING WITH MEN Copyright © 2014 by the American Counseling Association. All rights reserved. Printed in the United States of America. Except as permitted under the United States Copyright Act of 1976, no part of this publication may be reproduced or distributed in any form or by any means, or stored in a database or retrieval system, without the written permission of the publisher. 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 American Counseling Association 5999 Stevenson Avenue Alexandria, VA 22304 Associate Publisher | Carolyn C. Baker Production Manager | Bonny E. Gaston Copy Editor | Kimberly W. Kinne Editorial Assistant | Catherine A. Brumley Cover and text design by Bonny E. Gaston. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data A counselor’s guide to working with men/[edited by] Matt Englar-Carlson, Marcheta P. Evans, Thelma Duffey. pages cm Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN 978-1-55620-320-6 (alk. paper) 1. Men—Counseling of. 2. Men—Mental health. 3. Men—Psychology. I. Englar-Carlson, Matt. II. Evans, Marcheta P. III. Duffey, Thelma. RC451.4.M45.C684 2014 616.890081—dc23 2013047396 To Mom, Dad, and Alison for teaching me about being a man, To Mark Stevens, Fred Rabinowitz, and David Shepard for teaching me about helping men, And to Jackson and Beatrix for continually teaching me about being a father. —Matt Englar-Carlson I would like to dedicate this book to all the members of ACA and the collaborative spirit of my coeditors. It has truly been a wonderful experience learning how we can better serve men in the counseling profession as both clients and students. —Marcheta P. Evans To my beloved family, To my trusted colleagues, And to professional counselors who work tirelessly on behalf of the men and women they serve. —Thelma Duffey iii Table of Contents Foreword ix James M. O’Neil Preface xxi Matt Englar-Carlson, Marcheta P. Evans, and Thelma Duffey Acknowledgments xxxi About the Editors xxxv About the Contributors xxxvii Chapter 1 Introduction: A Primer on Counseling Men 1 Matt Englar-Carlson Part One SPECIALIZED MODALITIES AND SETTINGS Chapter 2 Male-Sensitive Couples Counseling 35 David S. Shepard and Roberta L. Nutt Chapter 3 Counseling Men in Groups 55 Fredric E. Rabinowitz Chapter 4 The Changing Nature of Work in Men’s Lives: Implications for Counseling 71 Mary J. Heppner and Puncky P. Heppner v Table of Contents Chapter 5 Counseling Men About Their Health 87 Will Courtenay Part Two INTERSECTIONS OF IDENTITY Chapter 6 Affirmative Therapy With Sexual Minority Men 113 Samuel Sanabria Chapter 7 Cultural Considerations in Counseling Men of Color 135 Allen Appiah-Boateng, Marcheta P. Evans, Elias Zambrano, and Michael Brooks Chapter 8 Counseling Older Men 159 John M. Robertson Chapter 9 Manhood and Spirit: Awareness, Reflection, and Life Transitions 179 Joseph M. Cervantes Chapter 10 Counseling Fathers 199 Matt Englar-Carlson, Melanie Horn-Mallers, James Ruby, Chen Z. Oren, and Dora Chase Oren Part Three SPECIALIZED POPULATIONS AND CONCERNS Chapter 11 Counseling Stoic Warriors: Providing Therapy to Military Men 227 David L. Fenell Chapter 12 Counseling Men to Prevent Sexual Violence 247 Christopher Kilmartin Chapter 13 Counseling With Addicted Men 263 Shane Haberstroh and Thelma Duffey Chapter 14 Counseling Men With Trauma Histories: Developing Foundational Knowledge 285 Gerry K. Crete and Anneliese A. Singh vi Table of Contents Part Four TECHNIQUES AND CLINICAL FRAMES Chapter 15 Female Counselors Working With Male Clients Using Relational–Cultural Theory 307 Thelma Duffey and Shane Haberstroh Chapter 16 Motivational Interviewing and Masculine-Sensitive Therapy 325 Robert Scholz and Susan R. Hall Epilogue Commitment to Practice 347 Matt Englar-Carlson, Marcheta P. Evans, and Thelma Duffey Index 355 vii