14-Day Romance Challenge By Sharon Jaynes Unless&otherwise&indicated,&all&Scripture&quotations&are&taken&from&the&HOLY&BIBLE,& INTERNATIONAL&VERSION.&NIV.&Copyright©1978,&1984&by&International&Bible&Society.&Used&by& permission&of&Zondervan.&All&rights&reserved.& & Cover&by&Katie&Flug& & ESbook&conversion&by&Wildwood&Digital&Publishing,&LLC& www.wildwooddigital.com& & 14#Day'Romance'Challenge' Copyright©&2013&Sharon&Jaynes& www.sharonjaynes.com& & All'rights'reserved.' 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Have&you&ever&wondered&what&your&husband&really&longs&for&in&the&woman&of&his&dreams?&& Chances&are&he&won’t&tell&you,&but&he&told&me.&Well,&maybe&not&your&husband,&but&hundreds&of& men&just&like&him&did.&And&he&wants&a&little&romance.&& I&remember&my&wedding&day.&I&bet&you&do&too.&Before&I&walked&into&that&sanctuary,&I&looked&in& the&mirror&in&the&Bride’s&Room,&and&thought&about&all&the&women&who&had&walked&the&aisle& before&me&–women&so&full&of&promise&and&hope.&I&pondered&what&could&possibly&go&wrong&that& so&many&marriages&end&in&divorce.&Over&the&years,&thirtySthree&of&them&at&the&time&of&this& writing,&I&discovered&the&answer&to&that&question.&A&lot&can&go&wrong.&& I&don’t&have&a&big&bad&story&of&how&God&took&our&terrible&tumultuous&marriage&and&miraculously& transformed&it&into&storybook&romance&filled&with&white&knight&rescues,&relentless&romance,&and& rides&into&the&sunset&leaving&all&danger&and&darkness&behind.&&Even&though&there&has&been&all&of& that&at&one&time&or&another…it&is&no&fairy&tale.&& Our&marriage&is&a&daily&journal,&one&page&after&another,&one&day&after&another.&&Some&entries& are&smudged&with&tears,&others&are&dogSeared&as&favorites.&Some&days&are&marred&by& unsuccessful&erasures&that&wouldn’t&quite&rub&away&the&words&said;&others&are&finger&worn&by& reading&of&precious&events&time&and&time&again.&& For&most&of&us,&life&is&just&daily.&However,&the&accumulation&of&small&struggles&can&nibble&like& termites&to&undermine&the&foundation&of&what&appears&to&be&a&healthy&structure&just&as&surely& as&an&unexpected&earth&shaking&rumble&of&sudden&disaster.&And&routine,&even&good&routine,&can& rob&us&of&the&joy&of&marriage,&if&we&let&it.& That’s&where&the&14#Day'Romance'Challenge&comes&in.&We’re&going&to&shake&it&up&a&bit!&And& spice&it&up&a&lot!&& You&are&about&to&embark&on&an&exciting&journey&of&romancing&your&husband…and&it’s&going&to& be&fun!&Before&I&wrote&the&book,%Becoming%the%Woman%of%His%Dreams:%Seven%Qualities%Every% Man%Longs%For,&I&interviewed&hundreds&of&men&to&find&out&just&what&they&longed&for&in&a&wife.& That&book&includes&seven&qualities&every&man&longs&for,&but&in&this&challenge,&we’re&focusing&on& just&ONE—Romance.& Each&day&you’ll&receive&a&short&capsule&of&encouragement&from&my&book,&Becoming%the%Woman%of% His%Dreams,&followed&by&five&Romance&Challenge&Ideas.&Some&of&the&challenges&are&simpler&(cid:3) than&others.&Some&are&spicier&than&others.&They&range&from&mildly&warm&to&hot&and&steamy.&You&(cid:3) get&to&pick&which&challenge&is&right&for&you,&depending&on&just&how&high&you&want&the&flames&to&(cid:3)fly.& Just&for&fun,&I’ve&also&included&some&of&the&responses&from&the&men&who&completed&my&survey&(cid:3) in&a&section&titled,&“Here’s&What&the&Guys&Said.”&I&think&you’ll&find&their&honest&responses&eyeS(cid:3) opening,&heartStugging,&and&yes,&challenging.&& If&you’re&familiar&with&my&blog&at&www.sharonjaynes.com,&or&my&ministry&with&Girlfriends&in&(cid:3) God&at&www.girlfriendsinGod.com,&you&know&I&love&locking&arms&with&other&women.&I&hope&you&(cid:3) do&too.&So&why&not&invite&a&few&girlfriends&to&join&you&in&the&14SDay&Romancing&Your&Husband&(cid:3) Challenge.&& Here’s&a&note&you&can&copy&and&paste&to&invite&your&friends,&coworkers,&or&family&members&to& join&you.&(Oh,&the&stories&you&will&tell!)& Hi,%Friend!%Could%your%marriage%use%a%little%spicing%up%in%the%romance%department?%If%so,% I’d%like%to%invite%you%to%join%me%in%taking%the%14(Day%Romancing%Your%Husband%Challenge% with%best(selling%author,%Sharon%Jaynes.%Just%click%here%and%read%more%about%the% Challenge,%along%with%some%comments%from%women%who’ve%given%it%a%try.%If%you%join%me% in%the%14(Day%Challenge,%let%me%know!%I’d%love%to%compare%notes%and%see%the%difference%it% made%in%your%marriage.% I’d&love&to&pray&for&you&as&you&take&me&up&on&this&challenge&to&romance&your&husband.&Simply& shoot&me&an&eSmail&at&[email protected]&and&let&me&know&you’ve&started.&I’ll&begin& praying&for&you&over&the&next&few&weeks&as&you&honor&God&by&loving&your&man&well.& Be&Blessed!& Sharon& Table'of'Contents' ' Day'One' Romance'–'It’'Not'Just'for'Us'Girls' Day'Two' Simple'Surprises' Day'Three' Where'Does'Your'Man'Go'to'Feel'Admired'and'Appreciated?' Day'Four' AAA'Club'of'Marriage' Day'Five' Learn'Your'Husband’s'Love'Language' Day'Six'' Divine'Design' Day'Seven' Keeping'Daddy'First' Day'Eight' The'Superglue'of'Marriage' Day'Nine' Recharging'His'Battery' Day'Ten' Hey'You!'Come'Here!' Day'Eleven' Remember'When' Day'Twelve' May'I'Serve'You?' Day'Thirteen' Create'Anticipation' Day'Fourteen'Responding'to'Him' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' 14#'Day'Romance'Challenge' ' DAY'1' ' Romance—It’s'Not'Just'for'Us'Girls' ' If&there&is&one&thing&I&know&about&us&girls,&it’s&that&we&like&romance!&We&love&romance&novels,& romance&comedies,&romance&tragedies,&and&romance,&romance,&romance.&Most&gals&would& much&rather&take&in&a&romantic&movie&than&an&action&film,&and&what&woman&doesn’t&dream& about&her&man&romancing&her&like&he&did&when&they&were&dating.&But&guess&what,&that&man&of& yours&longs&for&it&too.& & One&night&Steve&and&I&were&planning&a&romantic&evening&at&home&alone.&We&borrowed&a&video& from&our&friends,&Gene&and&Sherrie.&A%Vow%to%Remember&promised&to&be&a&real&tearjerker.&The& couple&on&the&video&sleeve&appeared&lost&in&each&other&as&their&arms&intertwined&in&a&lover’s& embrace.&The&back&cover&boasted:&“capture&your&mind,&your&heart&and&your&soul…Paints&a& compelling&picture&of&forever&love.”& & The&lights&were&dim,&the&candles&were&lit,&and&the&mood&was&set.&However,&when&Steve&placed& the&movie&in&the&DVD&player,&we&were&not&greeted&with&strains&of&a&melodious&theme&song&or& mistySeyed&romance.&Oh&no.&It&was&Arnold&Swartzenegger&with&machine&gun&at&the&ready!&Our& romantic&evening&was&rudely&interrupted&by&Robocop.%Gene&had&placed&the&wrong&movie&in&the& case!&& & Perhaps&romance&in&your&marriage&has&a&greater&resemblance&to&Robo%Cop&than&A%Vow%to% Remember.&If&so,&I’m&so&glad&you’ve&accepted&the&14Sday&Romancing&Your&Man&Challenge!& & Alan&Loy&McGinnis,&in&his&book,&The%Romance%Factor,%notes,&& & Being&an&artist&at&romance&does&not&require&so&much&a&sentimental&and&emotional& nature&as&it&requires&a&thoughtful&nature.&When&we&think&of&the&romantic&things,&we& think&of&events&that&occur&because&someone&made&a&choice&to&love.&A&man&stops&off&at&a& florist&and&brings&his&wife&a&single&rose&in&the&evening,&a&girl&makes&her&lover&a&lemon&pie& with&just&the&degree&of&tartness&he&likes,&a&wife&makes&arrangements&for&her&husband&to& take&the&caribouShunting&trip&he&thought&he’d&never&afford—these&are&not&the&goo&of& sweet&emotion.&They&are&the&stuff&that&comes&from&resolution&and&determination,&and& they&are&strong&mortar.&& & So&let’s&get&started&with&that&strong&mortar!&& & Romance'Challenge' ' • Put&a&chocolate&kiss&in&his&briefcase,&lunch&bag,&or&on&the&dashboard&of&his&car,&with&a& note&that&says,&“I&love&you!”& & • Write&“I&love&you”&on&his&bathroom&mirror&with&soap&or&lipstick.& & • Send&him&a&romantic&card&to&his&workplace&via&snail&mail.& & • Kiss&him&before&he&leaves&in&the&morning&and&tell&him&you&are&going&to&miss&him.&Kiss&him& when&he&comes&home&in&the&evening&and&tell&him&you&are&glad&he’s&home.& & • Draw&a&candlelight&bath&and&invite&him&to&join&you.& & Here’s'What'the'Guys'Said:' & I%wish%my%wife%understood%how%important%it%is%for%a%man%to%feel%like%he%has%made%the%mark.%Bart%