ffffiirrss..iinndddd iiii 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM Additional Praise for Startup Life “Being an entrepreneur is one of the hardest jobs in the world. Staying happily married is one of the others. Brad and Amy show us how to suc- cessfully do both. My wife and I loved this book. Mandatory reading for any entrepreneur who doesn’t want to live alone… Forever.” —Dr. Sean Wise, Professor of Entrepreneurship & Strategy, Ryerson University “Bursting with revealing personal insights, tested strategies and case-studies, Startup Life lays out a path to sanity and success for entrepreneurs seeking to build not only a game-changing business, but a vibrant and engaged relationship along the way.” —Jonathan Fields, author of Uncertainty “We’ve experienced the mix of marriage, children, and several high- growth companies and even now while helping people across the Unit- ed States develop startups and startup communities the path is similar. While entrepreneurship is critical to drive our economy, navigating it as a family is extremely challenging. Amy and Brad draw on wisdom from entrepreneurs an d their own life to provide a phenomenal roadmap for you to maximize the upside and minimize the downside.” —Scott Case, CEO, Startup America Partnership & Leslie Case, Manager SAKR LLC “Th rough my work as founder and CEO of National Center for Women & Information Technology, Brad and I have had numerous conversations about issues entrepreneurs, especially women; have around work-life bal- ance. In this book, Brad and Amy cover much new ground in articulating what has worked for them and giving any entrepreneurial couple a frame- work for thinking about how to integrate entrepreneurial work and life.” —Lucy Sanders, CoFounder and CEO, National Center for Women & Information Technology ffffiirrss..iinndddd ii 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM ffffiirrss..iinndddd iiii 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM Startup _life_ ffffiirrss..iinndddd iiiiii 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM ffffiirrss..iinndddd iivv 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM S t a r t u p _ l i f e _ Surviving and Thriving in a Relationship with an Entrepreneur Brad Feld Amy Batchelor John Wiley & Sons, Inc. ffffiirrss..iinndddd vv 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM Cover illustrations: Silhouetted people © 4×6/istockphoto; Business People Sitting © 4×6/istockphoto; city Background: C. Wallace Cover design: C. Wallace Copyright © 2013 by Brad Feld and Amy Batchelor. All rights reserved. Published by John Wiley & Sons, Inc., Hoboken, New Jersey. Published simultaneously in Canada. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, scanning, or otherwise, except as permitted under Section 107 or 108 of the 1976 United States Copyright Act, without either the prior written permission of the Publisher, or authorization through payment of the appropriate per-copy fee to the Copyright Clearance Center, Inc., 222 Rosewood Drive, Danvers, MA 01923, (978) 750-8400, fax (978) 646-8600, or on the Web at www.copyright.com. Requests to the Publisher for permission should be addressed to the Permissions Department, John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 111 River Street, Hoboken, NJ 07030, (201) 748-6011, fax (201) 748-6008, or online at www.wiley.com/go/permissions. Limit of Liability/Disclaimer of Warranty: While the publisher and author have used their best eff orts in preparing this book, they make no representations or warranties with respect to the accuracy or completeness of the contents of this book and specifi cally disclaim any implied warranties of merchantability or fi tness for a particular purpose. No warranty may be created or extended by sales representatives or written sales materials. Th e advice and strategies contained herein may not be suitable for your situation. You should consult with a professional where appropriate. Neither the publisher nor author shall be liable for any loss of profi t or any other commercial damages, including but not limited to special, incidental, consequential, or other damages. For general information on our other products and services or for technical support, please contact our Customer Care Department within the United States at (800) 762-2974, outside the United States at (317) 572-3993 or fax (317) 572-4002. Wiley publishes in a variety of print and electronic formats and by print-on-demand. Some material included with standard print versions of this book may not be included in e-books or in print-on-demand. If this book refers to media such as a CD or DVD that is not included in the version you purchased, you may download this material at http://booksupport.wiley.com. For more information about Wiley products, visit www.wiley.com. ISBN 978-1-118-44364-4 (cloth); 978-1-118-51686-7 (ebk); 978-1-118-51685-0 (ebk); 978-1-118-49386-1 (ebk) Printed in the United States of America 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 ffffiirrss..iinndddd vvii 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM To the believers and the empiricists: those who are willing to love. ffffiirrss..iinndddd vviiii 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM ffffiirrss..iinndddd vviiiiii 1122//1111//1122 11::2233 PPMM