Presented by: Esther Williams M.Ed., LPC [email protected] © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. Why Teach Anger Management? • Anger is all around us. • Anger often leads to violence. • People cannot learn, work or thrive when they do not feel safe. • Anger has negative long-term consequences on our lives. © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. ABC’s of Anger A – Activating event B – Beliefs C – Consequences Rational Beliefs Irrational Beliefs Based on Ellis REBT © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. Normal Anger • You do something differently and/or think about the problem differently. • You change your behavior and/or thoughts. • You think about the results and what you can do differently next time. • You learn to accept things you cannot change. • You learn to let go of your anger. © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. Problem Anger • Most frustrations make you angry. • You can’t stop thinking about the problem and you become more angry. • You ignore the bad results you are getting and refuse to change. © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. Understanding Anger • Present Anger – what is happening now. • Suppressed Anger – from the past. • Internal Stressors – your thoughts, actions, and expectations. • External Stressors – other people, the weather, your car or computer, etc. © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. WHY ARE STUDENTS ANGRY? © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. Angry People Come From Angry Families. Angry families have destructive habits: • They think anger is normal and expected. • Noone listens until someone gets angry. • They try to solve their problems with anger. • Anger is a solution. © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. Angry People Can Be the Victims of Abuse or Bullying. Abuse can result in anger when you: • Don’t know what to do with your rage toward your abuser. • Direct your rage onto others. • Become angry every time you think about your abuser. • Try to make yourself feel better by abusing others. © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar. Angry People Can Feel Unhappy About Themselves. People with low self-esteem often feel: • I’m no good. • I’m not loved. • I don’t belong. • I don’t even want to live. © Developmental Resources Inc. May be reproduced by attendees of “Breaking Down the Wall of Anger” webinar.